Lyubov

I believe rape only comes from lack. Like I said I don’t believe it can exist without one experiencing a sense of lack. What would the opposite of that be? Rape can exist from one being in touch with their true value, oneness/wholeness? From how I read / understand your post you claim it can exist from the opposite of what I’m saying or in some other way.

Every rapist I’ve ever heard of that told their story why they raped appeared to me to have a belief of lack behind why they raped. I obviously haven’t spoken to every rapist but that is how it looks to me. Do you have an example of a rapist who is rapping not based off a sense of lack or some belief of being not whole ? I wouldn’t say I value love though the way you framed it. I have an appreciation for it. True love to me comes from within and is always here. It’s not a commodity or an action that can be seen as valuable or not since it is value itself. I don’t really follow what you’re saying.

I’ve noticed every area of my life suffers when I don’t respect sleep. I chose to stay up the other night to 4am. My choice and every choice comes with responsibility and some sort of result. It resulted in a horrible day at work and me being unable to do all my tasks. I’m realizing we really have to choose what we know is good for us in the long term over the short term. My conflict here is that I do sometimes like to go out on the weekend on dates. I usually like to drink with my dates and maybe stay out late. I believe I’m sensitive when it comes to a sleep schedule because I can stick to sleeping from 1am-9am for weeks but if one night comes along where I’m up to 6/7am. It then takes me many days to get back to a normal schedule. Anyone sensitive like this? Were any of you able to bring down your sensitivity and get you sleep more under your control? It would be nice to be able to stay up real late once we week but I’m going to maybe just let this go if I have to if it means I’m more productive and healthy in the long run.

I was able to do this more though when I was younger. I used to be more flexible. For example it’s easy not get stuck than it is to get unstuck. 30 nights in a row done well and all it takes is 1 night to perhaps throw off an entire week since so much is founded upon good sleep (studying, focus, creativity, habits). Maybe It’s an age thing. I just know people who seem to be really flexible where they can do an occasional night of partying and they have no problem going back to their health habit.

If what you mean by your label/belief of “infinite love” is the experience of this eternal sense of total acceptance for all that is, no problems, just pure peace, joy, true value. that is what is always true and the backdrop of everything. Then yes. But I’m not interested in discussing your personal state or relating with you on your labels. You made this thread so I’m just warning you that state chasing is incredibly dangerous and limits a much deeper spiritual lesson for appreciation for the nuance of life when you may often be away from this state. Like I said: instead of going up, why do you choose to go down? Looking into answering that question and unpacking that will take a lot of work and is the key to you tapping into what you get from your mushroom trips while sober. To answer your question, yes it’s possible to live this while sober, but you have to develop yourself and have a much greater and accepting appreciation for all that will come your way while you come into this balance sober. Good luck to you.

The action of rape comes from a belief of lack though. Rape cannot exist without the belief of lack prior to it. There’s definitely an unlimited number of expressions but I would simplify what OP wrote even more personally and say they all come from one value.

Sleep is crucial. I have chosen to stay up late, get 5 hours and the next day all my goals suffer. It's the price I pay. It's about commitment, avoiding little things we like but are not great for us. Go to sleep on time and prioritize sleep!

you are chasing states. very dangerous. flip it. ask yourself why you choose to create disturbance in your day to day life that keep you from being here and enjoying it, experiencing joy and wellbeing. what you are doing is taking something to constantly go up when you should be flipping it and looking at why you have to, why you choose to be down when sober, your actual life that needs you in it.

seems like a terrible way to live tbh. sounds like you are going to really create some problems for yourself if you aren't careful.

I got over it by taking responsibility for the beliefs I hold and the emotions which are coming from them. It isn’t easy. It does take some self reflection. But also life isn’t meant to constantly be thought about and examined. There’s peace and wellbeing if you allow for some space between this suffering you are choosing to create and your connection to your true value / spirit. Look at your life and ground yourself in your true value and worth that your value is never affected by anything. And from there focus on your life, making is sustainable and doing things you love. There is no trick to getting over it and moving on. It’s simple. You stop disturbing yourself by putting thoughts into it and holding onto the false beliefs that are causing the pain. And you move on. Life sort of fills the space naturally like plants growing. I’m sure there will be some hardships between now and July 1st and after but you get to keep your chin up and realize there are new chapters and light at the end of the tunnel, you will look back and not be bothered by everything, see it just as a chapter that had invaluable lessons about life in them.

not knowing is perhaps one of the greatest things about reality, it’s a joy and blessing to live in the unknown

I do think having a purpose and true desire is foundational no doubt and it opens up the question if one even needs perfect focus and productivity to succeed at it in some form or at least in a way where one is proud and content with what they have done. What OP is describing is besides that though. An adhd/autistic mind can be tricky because there are of course a ton of self limiting beliefs that pop up but it can be entangled with a unique expression of cognition that has it’s own strengths and weaknesses. We are born into this world with a mind and the ability to live up to our true potential and make something amazing with our lives but all the relative challenges with living in society can sometimes mean we are expected to be a hammer when we are a screwdriver. Im still trying to untangle and understand focus and how my mind works. I have a passion and a deep desire but I still have a bit of inner work to break down any resistance to it but also understanding why it’s so damn hard to focus sometimes for me.

it's herpes, not aids most people who have slept around have herpes probably one of the lowest worries on anyone's list it's your choice, but this would not bother me at all with a partner I think I technically have this have one breakout like every 3-4 years, go down to the drugstore get something over the counter and it's gone in 48 hours for another 4 years. it's basically harmless. driving in your car is several 1000x more likely to cause you any problems over this.

I use Notion to gather my thoughts but don't get too hung up on the app cause it's easy to over think. Just find something easy to use and start writing.

Dude this is simple even if it doesn't appear that way to you now because you are on the carousel of emotions and despair. But just break up for good, and move on. I know it's hard. Really, I do. I've been exactly where you are now. But just let it. Life is way too short to waste it on creating all this pain. I know the painful emotions in a way are familiar and actually an addiction but just put a little space between you and them and you will see you have the choice to no longer go down this path, and you will feel better and a new chapter will start. It will be alright, accept this all happened and let it all go. All the labels and beliefs about being not good enough are untrue about you. We all make mistakes and other people's actions don't define you. Just breathe, accept it, and let it go. You have some dream you wish to create? Focus on that. Focus on yourself and focus on creating and manifesting your sustainable dream life you desire. It will all be ok.

I have done some self inquiry on this and I've found there's sort of three separate discussions to have for me. 1) My inner child is quick to label me as bad or not good enough. this needs to be addressed, understood, and helping the inner child of seeing the truth (being valuable and capable always of living up to true potential) 2) More pragmatic changes in actions, changes in diet, scheduling techniques, etc. 3) When applying number 2, being cognizant of anything from 1 popping up. it's normal to have the inner child / ego/ inner critic (whatever you want to call it) pop up and sort of resist or be critical of any changes. I think this sort of adhd / autism mind is very powerful, but many of us weren't taught to use it or were criticized for having it as kids, so we can get a lot of push back and stuff when we try to do something since we are still carrying around beliefs of not being capable due to how we think and focus.

8g dried? .5 I'm already high as shit having to lie down.

Why do you choose to unground yourself? You're not the victim to this. You are choosing to do that even if it isn't exactly apparent how or why. You create your emotions through your beliefs. And you basically described an emotion. Why do you choose to create an experience you call shaking internally? Grounding yourself in truth is the way to go. Which the truth is you are valuable, capable and whole always. You basically are describing the experience of believing you can't cope and thrive when you are in a situation. Why do you believe you can't cope and thrive in these situations?

I'm trying to do this as well. I struggle to focus. I have an adhd mind, I try not to identify with this label too much though. Planning my day in order of tasks helps some but some days things don't go according to plan or something comes up, throws me off, I get back up and try again. I'm always looking for new ways to improve my focus and orderly execution of tasks. Any tips helps?!

So I made this thread the other day. My health has been a somewhat problem for me more recently, with this problem getting worse recently. I will often get mild flu symptoms and just general poor health. I am confused because my diet is solid. I walk a lot. Get a lot of sun. It's been bothering me. I will go to sleep at night with the AC on and wake up sick and I think it's a temperature thing in the room so I would wear a hat and stay warm and still nope. Anyways I went to my unit today out of curiosity, opened it up and it was absolutely disgusting, filled with black mold and dust caked on. I instantly started sneezing and it is the same sorta sneeze I get when I come back home and turn it on. How the fuck did I miss this? Just looking at it it looked fine. I started reflecting on the places I have lived the last two years and all have in common that they were incredibly dusty environments with mold. I don't think this is from having COVID from 2 years ago but from not really taking my environment seriously and cleaning for mold. So I'm hoping this cures my issue and I can finally get an idea of why I have been struggling with this. I feel even better having removed the AC unit from my room, air has already improved. So if you are having health issues, it could be something in the environment. Check for mold!!!

He's just a guy that's a yogi and has really developed himself. He made a company or NGO and his living his life. He helps communities, teaches yoga and posts a lot of inspirational and helpful perspectives and opinions on social media. He seems to me to be an honest man. I obviously don't know 100% but that is life, we take what information we have at any moment and do with it what we think is best. The only thing I heard that was sketchy was something about his wife dying and his father in law blaming him. I don't really know and never looked into it. I don't hold Sahdguru on some hierarchy where he is above me or anyone. I do like him.

I don't do philosophy but I can tell you now you are creating this entire problem for yourself. You are creating it through your beliefs. What you are experiencing are painful emotions and those are from beliefs that are out of alignment with truth. What you need to do is do self inquiry and ask yourself why do you choose to create loneliness? What exactly is going on here? Philosophy is not going to resolve these issues. You listed a bunch of stuff that are just flat out untrue. You say you can't find a woman that's attractive because you aren't handsome? Who says you are not handsome? What about all the guys that look like you that have a beautiful GF/wife? You see you are ignoring all the evidence and positives to find evidence to fulfill your false beliefs and lies that you aren't good enough / unlovable. So I would say the first step you need to ask yourself is are you creating this problem for yourself ? You are the creator of your emotions, you are not the victim of them: do you agree with this statement?

be honest and share your own story and make it relatable, I actually want to do this myself too

I pay it little to no attention

I'm against the ban. It's used by a ton of US businesses and creators and I don't support much of anything this geriatric congress passes. They are old and out of touch. I don't see any security risks from people using this app. Parents can do a better job parenting if they want to cry about the app poisoning the minds of kids. It's called taking away the ipad. And lastly it sets up more stupid tit for tat geopolitic games between the USA and China. The biggest issue here is the flat out lack of integrity USA business does overseas by censoring themselves to make more cash in foreign markets ran by authoritarian governments. Critics used to scold them for that and tout how the USA version was so free and shit and how they shouldn't do business there if they don't uphold American values. How times have changed, we want to now flat out ban a harmless app with zero evidence it does any harm just to "get them back." USA has gone to shit, move abroad if you have the cash.