Lyubov

it did indeed, not a clue what you are saying

It is a belief system. Different cultures have different beliefs. Some like you described believe elderly should be addressed differently as a sign of respect. I don't see anything inherently wrong with this but your own personal situation could make you see things differently.

Give this a go: Just stop trying to understand and focus on resolving any issues in your personal life. No more “seeking.” Flip it. Ask yourself why you choose to move away from truth rather than trying to move towards it in your endeavors. Then just accept yourself and your life. You will be blown away by what you discover. I know this community has its own style and model to doing this work, keep an open mind that there may be some over arching beliefs here about what/how you are seeking and living life and how you are using your mind are actually limiting you.

But you just said you are black pill and forever alone and it is lovely. So you don’t need advice from anyone not even dating coaches. The thread is a wrap.

Congratulations you must be so happy and fulfilled You made this thread for a pat on the back? Or are you actually asking for help which we can give ?

Too many labels and models for me personally. Using the label “inner child” has been enough for me. Everyone brings in their own idea of how they are not aligning with their true value and not returning to oneness but upon my own self inquiry I’ve found it’s really not that complicated. What other parts of ourselves do you mean precisely?

This is very common. Witnessing a death, like a loved one passing at home from an illness also does this But you mentioned a really special moment of your life, which I think is talked about less, at the birth, which you got to witness for your new baby! its very common when witness a passing away OR a birth of a new life, to then have a deep connection to the Tao, spiritual experience, I’ve yet to witness a birth but I can only imagine, hope my day will come soon. I witnessed my mom pass away and there was a peace, just a pure eternal peace and everlasting stillness that took over the room for a moment. Everyone went quiet. No one was even sad or crying anymore. Just pure acceptance, an indescribable wellbeing, everything was ok in that moment.

What’s wrong with living in the unknown? It’s pure potential. I wouldn’t want to know everything. That way I can enjoy endless surprises. Why do you want to know everything? What do you want from your life here in earth?

Exactly. This is really the essence of the work we are doing here and you are wise to notice that statement and see it. Are we born with value, inherit true value, or do we have to earn value? This is a good question to ask yourself. I believe everyone is valuable no matter what.

Good luck to you. I don’t have any practical advice. I would say a situation like this is a good opportunity to look at your beliefs and also build a strong relationship with yourself. Call on that innate inner wisdom that is there. Doesn’t even have to be a big thing. Just ten minutes a day talking to yourself about what you may fear, and letting go of any lies like you won’t be able to cope or get through this.

Awesome work! I love my vision board. I looked back on an old one and realized in some form almost everything I put on it was fulfilled. Was pretty crazy to see.

First is realizing you are not a victim. I’m not saying you didn’t go through hard times but you are not a victim to them. They are in the past now and live on in your mind. You are the creator of your emotions, you aren’t the victim of them. You are creating them through the beliefs you hold about the past. There are beliefs you are holding onto which are not true and out of alignment with the truth, your true intrinsic value that you are always whole, lovable and capable. You have to have this dialogue with yourself, the part of the mind I like to call the inner child, and sort of reverse engineer the belief systems you formed over the years that are filled with these lies where you doubt yourself and doubt your value. It’s 100% possible. If you want me to share some resources that helped me let me know and I’ll post here.

I invite you all to perhaps look at this topic differently. I remember doing self work under this shadow work label and it wasn’t for me. I’ve not found this particular belief system helpful. Both in the language used and how I see it made out as more mysterious than it needs to be. I invite you all to use the label the “inner child.” I’ve found it worlds better for doing the self inquiry and returning to a wholeness / oneness.

Just a bunch of weird discombobulating stuff where one or both people leaves hurt. I’ve yet to see this FWB stuff work out. Seen a few open marriages but it seems like usually one of the partners is a people pleaser. Just date and see where it goes and if you don’t want to commit move on.

Yep only sometimes. It can be used periodically.

Wow , can you share more how you started earning money online while traveling ?

I think you should address why you think it’s ok to call yourself a loser before looking outside for some philosophy to believe in. I can tell you now, that is the issue you need to be looking at. Why do you choose to disrespect yourself and doubt your value?

I take Vyvanse sometimes. It helps me a lot. I was diagnosed with adhd twice and I genuinely do believe there is differences in minds and cognitive uniqueness in everyone. I’ve found the side effects to be minimal. If anything the decreased appetite and lots of water drinking has helped me lose weight. I really love this drug.

I don’t really recall these things having such as bad an effect on me. In many ways the SNRI (Effexor) I used to take years ago did help me a lot then and was the best I knew at the time. I eventually saw that it was limiting me and my growth so I got off it. I remember the withdrawal was not pleasant. I remember feeling spacey. Like I felt just weird, loopy, spacey, brain fog. Sort of nauseous too. It felt bad. I think just eating healthy and sleeping a lot helped. If I recall it only lasted like a week so you will be good.

Like many things, in moderation it’s fine, but too much and something in life will then suffer.

Tremendous damage has already been done to our court system and especially the institutions at the top. It’s difficult for me to see our current democracy lasting much longer before it devolves even further.

It’s tricky to define. To me I believe that passion is a feeling we create which is the product of being true to ourselves and aligning with the Tao, there’s a sort of natural unfolding where there is room for us to create. We create desire and passion as forward energy to create more and more. We have preferences and our environment and beliefs shape this some too.

I’m living in Rio de Janeiro now. Maybe you can share me some culture tips with dating Brazilian women? I just got out a 3 year long relationship with a girl from Russia, and I don’t know I find Brazilian women very different from Russian women. I find Russian girls play far less games and really value strong conversation. I almost want to say I think Russian girls are more predictable to me but I’m not sure if that’s from experience or if I just share the same values as them often. Russian girls really value trust and consistency in a man and they really don’t kiss quick at all or give sex quick. If you fuck a Russian girl the first eeek consider yourself on the lucky side. Russian girls also really rope you into be a boyfriend. I find they play far less games. Russian girls are my favorite. Brazilian girls idk I find they play a lot of games. They seem to date around more and do more slutty stuff. I don’t like how they may kiss several guys in one night. They seem to want a guy that is sorta sleazy and tries to kiss them real quickly. They are constantly touching me and I’m not sure if that’s a sign of interest or just culture. Russian girls never touch like that. Brazilian girls seem very fickle and flake. I also find they leave a lot of room for men in their lives to flirt with them, much more than Russians. I don’t like this. Im going to accept Brazilian women for who they are and do my own thing and I definitely want to start dating here but I want to learn about the culture and see if there’s something I’m just not getting about the women here. Maybe I’m just so introvert euro minded after years dating in Russia, it’s a huge culture shock for me in Brazil. I don’t get the women at all.

Yes for sure. I’ve been laid from clubs before but it always seemed like the woman chose me. I have some perhaps limiting beliefs about try to talk to women in clubs I basically believe that the essence of the interaction is too lopsided, like in a casino. As a man you have to talk to a ton of girls. I was at the club last night and lots of guys were coming up to girls and most were not making it far. I don’t find this enjoyable at all. It seems far too much like a silly game and it also seems to me give too much validation and attention to women. I believe the man should be seen as the prize for the woman to genuinely be really horny and want the guy and clubs out a guy in a situation where there is high volume for this but also high volume for a ton of girls that aren’t interested. So it’s sort of a grind and really not fun at all. Add on top of that entrance fees, drinks and how different clubs have different crowds varying in friendliness and exclusivity. It’s not the environment I shine best in. I mean some clubs and bars I do well but not all, many table heavy or more ritzy clubs I don’t really vibe or have the same belief system or values as perhaps the guys doing well in these environments? On the beach, walks, parks, just like more during the day or in a setting away from really loud pop music in a club, I do better in because this sort of dynamic where I put myself in a lower position than the girl is gone. Maybe that’s my issue though about clubs. I put myself in a lower position than the girl purposefully in my mind, when I shouldn’t be and just dance, have fun and start talking to whatever girls are around me on the dance floor.

I don’t really know how to start a conversation with a woman in a loud club setting. It’s easier for me in a setting outside a club. A bar or in the beach is easier. In a loud club where there’s a ton of girls and guys acting bold, I’m just lost. I sort of want to learn and have no limits when and where I interact with women.