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guy was legit larping as as cop

dude wtf is her issue? is she high on something or like mentally ill to the point of disability?

A quick word on resources and skills since it's been brought up a few times in here. I will add to my model here. Skills are the result of your intentions / vision meeting commitment. Commitment is dedication towards something meeting the physical world where you usually have to navigate unfamiliar situations, learn from all sorts of mistakes / trial and error, unknown situations, tedious activities, studying, etc. For example: Your vision is to be a lawyer and you set intentions to move towards that, your commitment is then studying everyday, strategy how to move forward, etc. Your vision/intentions are crucial because if you can be honest with yourself and stay connected to the wonder of life and spirit, this will shape your vision more than fears and beliefs. Then from there the action and practicality comes in with your commitment. Leveraging resources is part of commitment, because commitment isn't just a soulless or empty routine. It is adaptability, it is staying attuned to the direction life is taking you because spirit doesn't alway communicate through airy fairy inner callings, it can be very practical as well, so of course if you're quite clearly presented with a wave, you ride it, your intentions and vision are kept broad because you realize the result is ultimately out of your control, you just flow toward it making the right choices in the present moment.

I do think that there has been too much kowtowing to kid’s feelings. It was an over correction because parenting used to be so strict to the point that a lot of kids grew up totally disconnected from their own truths. American kids are really spoiled in particular.

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interesting, listened a good bit to it. Agree with much of what he is saying.

Social validation is not needed. You are still living an illusion if you believe this is something you need. Do not confuse this with having relationships that are important to you and engaging in intimacy.

I don’t fully know the whole story but as I understand it she was his lover, and he was much older than her and had more power in the relationship. Removing the new age stuff, it’s your classic older man younger mistress story. He was married because in his tribe in Peru he is allowed to have multiple wives. She wanted to live in the city and not in the jungle with his tribe. So they broke up, and I think she had a lot of her own issues as well, she wrote a long post on Reddit with a lot of hurt and lunacy in it. I don’t agree with this dynamic. I think sex and relationships should be kept as far away from psychedelics and spirituality and these lack of boundaries I only see cause problems for people. An older and more experienced person should know this.

I’m spending time contemplating this a lot and am still refining my writing and views here. I still have some things I need to leave in the oven a bit more. When I say it’s “fundamentally random and unpredictable” what I’m trying to express is that I’m always fully aware that we live in the unknown and that what we have built our idea of success on is made of something unknown. I am trying to marry this awareness that of infinite unknown to the more practical down to earth terms we live day to day where the sun rises and sets and we plan our day according to this. Of course this is the wise way to live and what I am trying to inspire people to do with clear intentions (not what they think will make them worthy of love/value). a killer skillset to me would be where you are committed and you have intention, that would naturally lead you to be strategic and focused thus building amazing skills. You need commitment to show up every day and handle all that comes along but simultaneously you need intention, the beliefs about why you are doing what you are doing and what you hope it brings about in some way. To me, pick up actually does collapse into a numbers game but like I said there are 10,000 degrees of randomness. A guy who lives at his parents and has severe social anxiety will have a much different set of random outcomes going out for the first time than a guy who has done a lot of self actualizing and has a stable life of his own. And even then I’ve had such dumb stories of luck where I fucked girls in some of the most inexperienced states I’ve been in, really I have no fucking clue how I pulled sometimes… sometimes I do think it was dumb luck but I am aware there are degrees of randomness. It’s the terms I think in when I’m acutely aware of the unknown we always live in.

Thanks for sharing this and I’m going to build on my essay here borrowing your definition of success cause I think that’s a really refined way to define it “success - achieving the results you have set out to accomplish.”

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nope

Nah, lighten up.

This is again where intention meets commitment. As you take action you can clearly reason what your next natural steps are. This can be 10,000 things including socializing/networking with people you believe will help you or finding other resources to keep yourself off the street (we all have to eat)

Where you’re born, your uniqueness (talents, strengths, weaknesses) is sorta like a lottery and each moment has any number of ways life can turn out, any number of commitments can lead one down a path in the unknown. You never know which way woulda been better. Your choices obviously rig it so you see it as reasonable to assume you will get 777s and often times that’s a safe call to make. That one video did 5 million (success!) but who knows, maybe it woulda done 25 million and launched you onto the JR podcast mid you made that 20 minute cut? You’ll never know now. There are hierarchies and degrees of randomness. We are always looking back and drawing a straight line through the chaos. You must become conscious how many lucky breaks you get daily and turn them into plan. I am speaking about looking at it contemplatively not just practically. Obviously you can plot your day out but the sun rising and setting and that’s what’s wise to do. I have laid out the principles. I’m not saying you should sit around and you’re likely to have a million bucks fall onto your lap for no reason whatsoever (surprisingly some still do get this though!)

Your uniqueness is what sets you off on a path for what you may be suited for, but of course trial and error plays a huge role and accepting it with grace. A person born a cripple probably doesn’t have a future playing professional basketball. You are playing the lottery always. You pull the lever and deem it a success after the fact when your labors could have resulted in any number of other ways. This is not the same as living on a level/flat plane of randomness. This is living in the unknown. “In life’s battle, once you have done everything within your power to realize your life’s vision, all that remains to be done is graciously to accept the outcome and proceed.” - Chin Ning Chu

Skill is the result of intention meeting commitment. You have the intention to create a YouTube. You commit to doing it. The skills you build during the process are video editing, speaking, storytelling, etc.

Good question. It’s actually entirely subjective and arbitrary. People all have their own different opinions on it. I think to an extent we will often subtly frame success in grandiose ways or almost in this deceptive manner where we are “here” and “over there” is success. And where we are here is not enough whereas over there, there is success, where we are enough. This is not true. Success doesn’t define our value. So for me I sort of have a very detached idea of it where I’m always a success and don’t need to prove my worth, that being authentic and being able to express your soul in balanced ways with all the responsibilities of life cause there are a lot of them (bills, family, health). I think this is where success becomes more of a game and something that we can be passionate about. But yeah I think success is not a carrot and stick. Defining it heavily with external stuff causes problems.

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Because it's something that is genuinely disgusting and sad to acknowledge, I'd say people as a whole are too ashamed to really move on these problems. It's easier to sweep under the rug problems in this world when they aren't at your doorstep. A large portion of the world has to actively come together, be on the same wavelength and take action and that rarely happens when there is an issue, but it can happen. Out of sight, out of mind, like they say.

Yeah, thanks for watching this cause I don't have any interesting in sitting through it. I have no doubt this guy is a perv. It is all too alluring to be a guru with women followers that he can easily convince to have sex with him. Guru hierarchy by design will almost always lead to a lack of integrity. I had similar fantasies as well when I met my now wife, we had such a good physical connection when we met, I thought to myself that our sex is going to heal her and me, etc. It's an altered state where you are tapping into love and the physical connection and potential of things but your bias and beliefs corrupt the experience entirely. Of course a guy like this sitting on a stage will run with such delusions and sleep with horny followers of his who look up to him (women are usually attracted to men they admire). The funny thing about it is yeah... never see these "healers" sleeping with fat women or men to heal them... odd? It's always some manic pixie type. They both are made for each other, the perverted manipulator and the wannabe victim who need to label other people narcissist to explain why they throw all their power and integrity out whenever they have a feeling about someone. These type of people will concoct all sorts of entity stories to relinquish their responsibility and of course it's no surprise this guy stoops even lower and asks for money. I've noticed there's always a guy leeching money from a woman in 50% of these cases. I have a friend who is the hyper sexual manic pixie type and she lent thousands to two ex boyfriend playboy types like this.

I never spoke of perfectionism here and catching them all. I think you lack vision on this. It absolutely can be greatly reduced and curbed especially online in terms of going after people who have taken action to hurt kids or congregate online.

yes and i think it would be honest to gently add a lot of these women create a whole host of issues themselves which they use to race to occupy the victim spot. how many a times has it been where a messy relationship gets tangled up in new age beliefs and becomes this knot of inner child reasoning, emotional logic and past traumas playing out? I'm not defending anyone, I'm saying that this is NOT the same as a predator that seeks out to impose his will with force on an unsuspecting person of weaker capabilities. this sounds like your typical corrupt guru and a follower of his who consented to unethical sex, lacking integrity, this how a 1 hour youtube video is born with all sorts of convoluted notions explaining how she was victimized. To a degree she was. It doesn't take 50 minutes to explain a situation like this. I am not sure any laws were broken, I'm sure Bentinho is corrupt and acts on his perversions, power is something many people are not capable being responsible for.

Hear about this all the time. The woman who was organizing ceremonies for the shaman who I drank Ayahuasca with (she was sleeping with him of course) had a huge falling out with him and of course a crazy tale where all the usual words like "dark entities and spells", "I was being manipulated", "narcissistic abuse", etc were used to basically explain how this guy that was like 20+ years her senior and from a sticks and stones village in the amazon jungle hooked up with her the Spanish hippie girl, and when she wanted him to get serious and move to the city with him he dumped her. And of course all sorts of drama unfolded. To be honest anyone with real integrity will keep their spiritual pursuits far away from their relationships and sex life. It's really the only way to be a teacher with integrity. If you are mixing sex/relationships with spirituality, there's a good chance it will end up like this. There is a reason a lot of powerful teachers are voluntarily celibate or some version of it. You can just noticed the difference between immature pervert gurus like Mooji and Bentinho vs people who have integrity. You don't shit where you eat.

I don't think the patriarchy lens is useful for these extreme cases. There are entire networks of pedophiles that need to be exterminated and it could be a reality if governments spent more resources on this and worked together, but they won't because this has implications for the Epstein class and Catholic church, Hasidic Jews, power points in society, etc and in addition it's treated similarly to healthcare or hunger, entirely solvable from a material point of view, but socially not able to be coordinated.