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He's trying so hard to walk everything back. It never took more than an average level of development to see through him and know he's a sex trafficker. I remember even seeing his twitter and videos back in like 2017/2018. He literally used to brag on social media back then about sex trafficking Romanian women and sleeping with underage girls. Does anyone else remember him from back then? His content was very extreme and on the fringes of the manosphere but he had a following and would sell the war room and his pimping hoes programs. He went by cobra tate back then. He tried to clean it up a bit later and moderate his voice cause he knew it would attract more money, then when he finally blew up in 2022 he has tried to pivot hard away from his old content. He admits to everything he is charged with. Anyone who read his twitter in 2017 knows this

This exactly

Careful with your expectations. Sometimes holding onto them can be where your energy goes instead of into the things that actually makes women decide they wanna fuck you. 200 approaches is an unfathomable number. Slow down, tune in. If you’re actually smooth and can read girls you needn’t even talk to much more than 5 to 10 girls the whole night in order to find someone you have a shot with. Quality over quantity. If you’re doing some sorta flash in the pan approach like I’ve seen some guys resort to in insanely busy street party environment then yeah you may need to talk to a few more girls but 200 at that point is the video of that guy say “can I get your number” to every girl he passes. There ain’t even 200 girls pretty enough for sex that you’ll pass in most places in a week unless if you’re maybe in Eastern Europe which if you can’t pull there… lord help you.

I think there will ultimately be a sorta divide where a digital underclass emerges who wholey consume it, a quasi-class who are sorta tied to it consuming while also creating and earning a living, and people who left it entirely and outsourced the consuming and logistics to someone or something else (AI?). Kind like how organic vegetables used to just be food that you pulled out of the ground, but now they're seen as a luxury. You have the money and knowledge to opt out of cheap processed food. Attention I believe will go the same way. Watching reels is sorta the default right now, the cheap thing everyone consumes without thinking. It takes no energy to consume it, the opposite end would be reading a challenging book. So the next status marker on the app will ironically be not needing to scroll at all. Watching less will become how people express that they've made it in self improvement, the way a clean diet did. The people who made it will keep posting and stop watching. They'll outsource the scrolling to another person or an AI to watch for trends and pick their audio. They will never sit through another reel themselves. Producing without consuming becomes how you show you've made it vs now which is more about the content you're making showing a lifestyle and follower count. This will build on that where people will reach this finish line in various forms and basically laugh on a podcast saying they haven't used IG in a year, the same way they were yapping on podcasts they cut out seed oils, or whatever came before that. If you actually value your mind and your time, why feed it reels? The feed is essentially a giant commercial that never ends, we used to mute commercials when they came on the tv when I was growing up. what I see: accounts leading teenage boys towards porn, people dying on camera, strangers lying (everyone knows everyone is lying), doom scroll headlines, plastic surgery, 50% bots, for most people it keeps steering them back to whatever is most divisive because the outrage is what keeps you there. So my prediction is this, the endgame for the people who win on this platform will be a sort of nonchalant exit, quietly leaving. Exiting the feed entirely while still farming the attention of everyone who can't leave. They upload but don't consume. That's where I think it's headed. I give it 2-5 years.

We are going slightly off on a tangent here but I would say that your point assumes that endless reach automatically means better. I would say this is actually not always true, or at least not for what I am creating. Probably some of the best teachers I've met knew a certain level of growth was actually bad for them. Some of the best I know work with only a few, and knew that growth in this domain would actually hurt their message. The top bar of the hexagram in the I Ching, extreme outer boundary, The dragon flies so high into the heavens it gets lost. One loses touch with the ground. I do not want 3 billion people watching my videos. A video made for 3 billion people would lose the very spirit of the video I set out to make in the first place. I would be careful with this notion. It's in part what has made social media grow so much, it equally is what I believe waters the very root of my thread about why Instagram has become such a poisonous and disgusting place.

I don’t believe fear and social comparison should be used to shape your life and they definitely can never ever get you to reach your full potential as I understand full potential. Truth is what gets you to your full potential. Full potential is living authentically, in flow, freedom, oneness balanced with your responsibilities as a human being. I do not believe comparisons and fear (self punishment) will get you here. They may materially get you far but I do not consider that full potential.

Yeah it absolutely pushes naked women, I’ve gotten ads with AI porn and naked women. The app funnels young men, many underage, onto porn pages of onlyfans whores. It’s just annoying. The app is rapey, it doesn’t even ask you if you want this or give you any sort of choice or control just “LOOK NAKED LOOK SEX LOOK GET ANGRY.” It would be one thing if the app was engineered differently where you could choose this and close it off when you’ve had enough but it’s entire design down to the foundation isn’t this.

Yeah, it is really like smoking, it's maybe not the best comparison but it is similar. Constant timeouts for some bit of a high. It doesn't relax me at all yet it's the first thing I reach for after work. I work a lot and am under a lot of stress right now, I have to be careful with both food (sweets) and my phone for managing my energies. I am constantly seeing something disturbing on there or that is repulsive, something lustful like half naked women, no one talks to me in real life like they do on social media, and if they did they would end up best case ignored, worst case in a fist fight. Almost nothing on it is real. It's impossible to even clean it up and set it up so it's healthy, it's designed to always lead you back to scrolling and wound up because it's been engineered to constantly push people's buttons. it feeds comparisons and judgements. I have a theory that social media will largely become something a digital underclass is more engaged with while people who are financially successful and prioritizing their health and wellbeing no longer scroll or use the app much. Think about how health and wellness products became something associated with wealth, living in nature by the beach, not having to drive. Owning a car was once seen as a luxury, now no one wants to be in traffic breathing exhaust. I think the next stage in the social media evolution is a lot of the people at the top with resources just quietly shutting the app off, still posting on it some, maybe checking messages, but no longer a consumer on it, relying largely on their established network of friends and groups they joined, using AI agents and bots to automate a lot of the process of using it. People whose livelihood that is really entangled with it will have a harder time reaching this stage but those who set something up that is more passive in nature (passive income being the gold standard of success in the USA) you will see this crowd essentially say they no longer watch anything on it and just pay someone to upload their content with trending audio for them.

Fair enough, I would just encourage people to not treat is as a benign product that just comes down to how you handle it yourself. Just like alcohol or smoking, really no amount of it is healthy and we even have regulations in place. I would relate more to your point of view if social media was regulated and we had a clearer picture of how it affects people, but we are living in the dark ages of this and more and more research has began to prove how harmful IG is to teenagers. Look this up, it is where the bulk of the research is. It is incredibly harmful to young people's pscyhe. When I have a child I will never let them on social media. Look it up, meta is one of the most litigated companies on earth currently. I can see your hustle and mating strategy depends on it and it's really your only option other than hitting the bars so you will defend it, none of those factors tie me to it so I don't get any of those benefits and only junk fed to me. I mean, you already said yourself even you need to detox and take a break from it... so my overall point is until it's been really studied further and safety has been engineered into it, it should be framed as a product that is toxic for you even if in the process of using it you can build your brand and meet girls through it. Alcohol works wonders for meeting women, but in the long run it takes its tole.

I want to address what I call “the glue.” What I’ve noticed which holds it all together for many people is the idea they need to be on the app or else they will miss some important bit of information, current events or miss out on opportunities social or business. Instagram sells a lot of young people the dream they can become a sorta quasi influencer type if they reach enough followers and sell something, what is that something? Well for a lot of accounts I’ve come across it’s unclear to me… I think they’re selling a dream, or motivation on how to grow your socials. It’s just so circulars. You scroll and post on IG to grow your IG to the point you can eventually have other people scrolling for you where you tell them how to grow your IG... Apart from the multi level marketing crap there are some actual brands on there selling products, clothes, restaurants, tour guides, etc. If you’re self employed then IG is actually worth posting on. It’s sorta like one big commercial though. I remember we used to mute the tv during commercials. Reels is filled with ads and it’s not as simple as muting. I work a lot so doom scrolling is something I’ve had an issue with. It is a very easy was to sorta “relax” after and between work. It’s kinda like taking constant smoke breaks. I’m testing this myself now at 35. I could see it being a lot harder to not be on this app if I was single in my twenties. If I was ten years younger I’d probably have a much harder time being off it. The thing is I still need to be sometimes posting on it which I plan to continue to do. Even after detoxing and getting off the consuming side I still need to feed the beast, it’s just reality now.

This is maybe the one thing of value I won’t have anymore. There’s some decent recommendations for like restaurants and shops. I’ll have to lean on word of mouth more now but even that opens up more for me just by virtue of talking to people. You see? You trade the convenience for earned experience.

You have to put basically no effort into women if you clear the bar in their mind if you are in their fuckzone or not. Effort and pandering is what guys do for women they aren’t able to pull. This is what I’ve been saying here. She knows if she wants to fuck you in 15 minutes after meeting you. The rest is you dancing like a monkey for her enjoyment OR getting out of your own way so you don’t sabotage it and kill her attraction for you. What women say they want “effort, men doing everything, etc” is very different from reality, that effort they only want from guys in the fuckzone and even then too much of it gives too much of your power away and kills the sexual tension. Your batting average is the girls you can pull and what women make it easy for you to sleep with them. Rarely a girl may give pity sex if like they’re broke and you’re always there for them but it’s not a route to lean on or the way to go.

I don’t like the word triggered but yeah I don’t like the app the same way when my lungs fill with smoke, I don’t like that. There are people who are marks who fall for IG and give the app a ton of their qi. There are people too who have leveraged it and managed to earn cash off of it (for better or worse). If you’re actually in the latter than by all means keep going. It’s pointless for me to be on there scrolling.

Authenticity is when you are living aligned with truth, that’s at least my view on it. Not living aligned with familiar limiting beliefs, running around the maze of confusion.

The algorithm is based off pushing your buttons and turning you into a zombie. It’s engineered to capitalize on fear, anger fomo, and comparisons. Half the comments on reels are bots as well if you click on them. I’ve reset my content preferences 1000 times, it always finds a way to funnel me somewhere back to crap. All roads lead to the crap with IG. Obviously its use-case is very specific, so if you’ve chosen a certain hustle it may be mandatory to be there. Like if you’re a dj or promoter yeah you have no other options. I personally have never once nor probably ever will hire or send money to someone I’ve seen on IG. Every service or product I ever found through social media has been through YouTubers. YouTube has some legit real experts and I have had my life racially changed by YouTubers. I can’t say the same about IG influencers. My brand needs it only somewhat and I have a separate account for it anyways which is apart from my content account which feeds me all the shit I don’t wanna see. So all I have to do is upload ads for the service I’m selling and respond to messages and I’m fine, can all be done from desktop. Telegram and word of mouth is just as important for me.

YouTube is far better. By almost every metric of wellbeing in my personal opinion. I find comments on YouTube are better, content is better (but by no means perfect). There is usually much more context on YouTube and even the disturbing stuff has more background to it which allows you to learn from it. Short for is like smoking for the mind.

The violent videos, troll bait, and constant lies. It is an app selling dreams and largely for voyeurs. I couldn’t care less about someone having more money than me, all the posers pretending they do is what annoys me. On top of that the app sexualizes children, is harmful for teenagers, has nefarious ads selling drugs and AI porn. I realized that the dream they sell which you mentioned is the glue they hold it all together and leech your precious life energy from. You are better off not consuming anything on the app than you are leaving what little views you would otherwise get on the table peddling whatever you’re peddling. Upload from desktop and don’t consume the poison. Anyone doing anything worthwhile with regards to content is on YouTube anyways and that is where you build something if you want an actual brick and mortar business based on quality. I’ll continue on YouTube no problem, it’s a much better platform in comparison to IG. I also deleted TikTok too.

Oh nice I will try this too

yeah, that is legit the way it seems. I plan to upload from my browser. so much easier to ignore all the filth this app peddles.

Seems like a failing of government where the rule of law isn’t able to produce an outcome which the public sees as justice. I’m getting a lot of right wingers (bots) who are using this as propaganda against the left. Obviously she killed her kids and should be incarcerated for the rest of her life.

It’s two things tangled up. I would say that hard is largely a perception of it. We have expectations and wish things were different, when these don’t align with reality we feel resistance and uncomfortable emotions. TRUTH: Regarding life being hard, life is just life. It’s possible to cultivate an experience of flow, shape your life in a way where even when things get challenging and we wish something were different, that there is greater peace and sense of wholeness and belonging in this world. The truth is life is just life, it is what it is, we are here, we exist, we are whole as we are, we ARE. PRACTICALITY: Now, practically speaking, reality itself can get very nuanced and things we set out to do can be incredibly complicated. They may take hundreds of ours if our time, our energy, our focus. We will most likely make all sorts of mistakes, some with life changing consequences. So just by sitting and observing reality, yeah there are indeed some very important things we need to be responsible for, many things we need to know, many traps we can fall into. The spiritual path (Wu Wei) recognizes both of these and balances them. If you go too far into either direction it can create an imbalance in your life.

It’s important. people’s paths can be very different so you don’t need it to justify being here nor do you need it as evidence to prove you’re on the right path. Its education and generally speaking people benefit greatly from education.

Just chill, do nothing. You don't need to do anything, just make it clear that it is professional when he steps over a boundary. Don't send him photos, keep discussion on his kids only. Be brief if he asks you personal questions and don't share information outside work with him. If he sends emojis jsut ignore them. he is a flirty old man that likes you, just keep an eye on him, it will likely be fine..

Where you’re located plays a big role in the most effective way go take to find a girlfriend or get laid. The culture, the climate, what people value and what is seen as an asset. Let’s make a list of cities and what they value. I’ll start us off. Let’s make a list and compare and see how this affects what you choose to shape your life when it comes to this domain of life. Ok I’ll start. Rio de Janerio, Brazil - Probably one of the most looksmaxxed places you could go as a guy. Being physically fit and looking amazing with your shirt off is almost crucial here if you want the best looking women off the beach. You can go to some areas where there are more white Brazilians and try to pick up women at more traditional clubs but they can get pricey and there are dudes everywhere trying to get laid here because the women of this city have a reputation for giving sex quickly. You need to really cultivate an extroverted lifestyle here to pull the top girls. This is not an intellectual city. Being able to dance and go with the flow and enjoy a long night out is important in this city. Online dating is completely flooded, instagram too. Moscow, Russia - You have to be literally fucking retarded if you aren’t able to pull as a mediocre white guy from the USA or UK here. The most beautiful women on earth and you will notice the sheer volume. Girls here in general need more trust building. They do not respond well to quick moves for kissing and dirty remarks. That’s a rule of thumb, obviously they’re freaks in the bedroom but they are usually very protective of their image and I found they are very scared of being labeled as a slur. This is a great place for introverts. Intellectualism is rewarded. You can be kinda fat but if you dress well and have style you can pull a supermodel still. Money talks here too but can attract the wrong girl. Add cities and discuss.