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My parents live there. I went the first time last spring. It's nice but I don't think I'd stay there unless I had a nice house and kids. I don't care for car cities. It's a very cool place to explore though. I really like the desert nature, but prefer trees. I think it sort of lacks culture though and third places. I can't imagine dating there if you value long term monogamy. I have mixed feelings on this city.

Nah it’s much more sinister. They don’t want to pay for poor black people’s healthcare. They are just too selfish and stupid. They would rather blame a black person than recognize their entire system funnels money away from them to a select few who have all the power and keep eveyone poor. I guess Trump voters will just have to get poorer and poorer and things will have to get worse before people start to question all the capitalism propaganda and wake up.

Nothing about capitalism is a self sustaining lifestyle.

The electorate is dumb as fucking shit and doesn’t understand when it comes to any truthful or nuanced discussion of politics, economics or anything based in truth. They elected Donald Trump. Don’t ever let anyone gaslight you into thinking what’s going on now is normal or rational. It will be remembered by historians as a dark and dystopian time filled with wealth inequality and a massive tragedy of the commons. He’s just being contrarian and setting up some hurdles to try and sound like he “got ya”, devils advocate type points.

Generally speaking it’s fine but also has associated health risks and is a dead end. It’s like fast food. You can rarely indulge and not have any issues but if you build your diet around it you will have issues.

I have my life purpose, my passions and things I enjoy. That’s all good and fine and I focus on those when I can, which is often. I also have to earn money, pay bills and give consideration towards my future which would greatly benefit from financial wellbeing (home ownership, family expenses, health, etc.) The thing is I’m entirely unsure what to do for money… I want to switch careers and do something more interesting and important to me. I have my current career (ESL) which has allowed me to travel and has payed well at times, but it’s becoming more competitive and the pay isn’t rising. So I’m sort of in a situation in life where I could tell you how to go into ESL teaching, I have information new people starting out would find helpful, but apart from that I’m not sure what else I have that would earn me decent money. With what I have my best bet is to get further certified to earn better money. Realistically it’s the most obvious and best way to improve my career, but deep down I wish I hand another way to earn money and have the same benefits. How to move forward when you have reached what you see as a dead end in a career, I’m in my mid 30s so I only have so much time and resources, I can’t keep trying new things every year and never settling on anything. I want to build some mastery. My life purpose and passions is making videos and doing photography of tracking and inspiring people to grow through travel and just travel na story new things in general. But I am not placing expectations on this to earn me money. I will grow it of course and give it ny all but I believe it will become clear when I’m ready to monetize. And even if I do it’s not certain it will pay my bills like a traditional career will. anyone else reach a dead in your finances and work and are unsure what to do next?

They are and it’s why I don’t think it’s likely there will be a total war between east vs west. Politicians are crazy though. I think we are bound to see all sorts of proxy conflicts play out until people wake up and return to diplomacy.

Nothing new here. It’s been clear for a while now this is somewhat of a proxy war for China. They have been reserved with support through weapons but they will tow a line as to not heavily implicate themselves but also give enough business to Russia in order to keep them from losing. Russia would face a lot more set backs in sanctions were done in coordination with China. Smaller states get crushed in the wake of bigger ones.

Bro cry about it. Nothing new here. Sex with women of course is valued more than the other way around. Life is filled with differences and unfairnesses. Just make your peace with it and move on. There are a ton of sluts out there and they are able to achieve what they want through sex and get their needs met while you will have to do more and adapt. That’s life.

Dating has always been about people making the best of it for themselves. It definitely isn’t communism that’s for sure. There are unfairnesses in it. But you can still make it work and find someone you want to actually be friends with and love and who shows you they love you. I agree that most men have really not only given up but sold their soul to do the most childish shit I’ve ever seen in my life. Onlyfans and Grown men collecting Pokémon cards… the USA is TOAST. Do not blame women for YOU COLLECTING POKÉMON CARDS AND DONATING TO TWITCH STREAMERS. There are lots of leeches and scammers feasting on the carcasses of young men today. It’s sad, but they have to take responsibility and realize life ain’t fair. We can still make it fantastic. Gymcels are putting in work but they don’t use their brain and figure out what really matters. A lot of young men come off creepy and weird, just read some of the replies in this thread and similar ones here.

Maybe. I just don’t think Dems running as centrists or a status quo agenda will cut it in 2025. I still have a little faith some decency will return and bold ideas are not as impossible as we think. Miracles have happened before.

Much of what Trump was parroting back in 2015 wasn’t mainstream and he was seen as a total joke by most people. I think bold new ideas and charisma is what the Dems need. I think many of the left wing populists are much more charismatic by virtue. They genuinely want to instill change and are speaking from bold new ideas that may be controversial but that imo is what dems need. A corporate shill / centrist politician I don’t think is the way forward. Dems need to match right wing radicals with their own radical force based in democratic values.

They dropped the ball so hard… really I think this is mostly the DNC’s fault and their general lack of vision. They are so spineless and clueless and have zero intensity to them. You don’t feel like you’re voting for a party with a vision but for the carcass of an era that is now something of the past.

Man I think this “passing other people in development” is just a romanticized way of saying you are closed minded and aren’t willing to socialize in the present moment as it is. Unless you know you are a person who doesn’t really like socializing and it’s not a problem for you to not really have friends, then I think scapegoating spirituality and your development as the reason is sort of a cop out. You can learn a lot from people different from you and just being opened to experience, continually putting yourself out there, can open up all sorts of doors. Creating this hierarchy and model of one person being more developed than another just creates separation. I used to say the same thing about how it’s hard to find real people, conscious, etc. I’m not saying every place is equal in terms of opportunities but this overall mindset I think creates more limitations than there actually are. To me, being more developed means being more authentic and usually differences are seen less as barriers and more as opportunities to learn from different people and accept them as they are, not because you have to but because you see genuine value in at least recognizing and accepting people different from you. I do know it’s sometimes not as rewarding as spending time with an old friend you have a ton in common with.

Generally speaking, friends who make their identity and whatnot about growth and development aren’t very fun or interesting to hang out with. This is just my opinion. To find meaningful friendships I think all you really need to do is be honest, so you attract honest people. And lastly have something that you are doing with your life that is interesting. Aside from that, you will meet many people if you are living a lifestyle that has people coming through. You will be able to then find a few you want to spend time with.

Being in the center and having good logistics will help a lot in terms of having a place to go and really just close out the night in general. You can get away with an uber that’s like 20 mins or so, maybe a bit longer if you guys are having fun in the uber. But yeah it’s not rocket science. Obviously certain things will work better in your life based on the location.

It’s so annoying. You lay out a reasonably decent model of how love works in relationships and of course there’s some guy always going “there’s only one tho, you ain’t going deep enough” junk that pollutes half the threads here, while some here actually want to widen their perspective and share useful and nuanced information on aspects of life. Typical.

Dems are just so spineless. They adopted such a bizarre identity where they disowned all masculine elements to the point now where it’s just a genuinely cringy and weak party. I don’t feel like a man associating with Dems. I want a party that is strong and champions human rights but also embraces manhood, male leadership and diversity without going so far to the left where we have transexual rainbow hair people and all the weird far left culture stuff as its face. Many Dems have completely torched all the good things about appealing to traditional conservative family values and instead took on a wild experiment of self expression. All they had to do is be less gay and be less soft and make the party about the 99% who are being exploited by billionaires. But instead the party has to be about giving gays or black women voices and letting guys step back to let them lead. The party has a massive image issue and it’s as confused about its identity as much as many of their lgbtq voters. In short Dems need to drop all identity politics and become a party about fighting for democracy, human rights and anti corruption, a return to the working man union party.

First off I read what you had to say and I can tell you’re facing some challenges in your life. I understand where you’re coming from. I struggled a lot to socialize and get sex in my early 20s as well. Especially in these days where it seems the rules for society and socializing are constantly being rewritten and whatnot. I have a few lessons I learned that I hope can maybe help you see this from a wider perspective. I think first is that it would be very beneficial for you to recognize you are creating all your emotional pain. It’s your belief system. There’s people out there who are in a similar situation as you but it does not bother them because in their belief system they do not believe they are lacking value because their needs for intimacy aren’t being met. I’m not saying it’s wrong to feel how you do, and I’m not criticizing you at all. I’m simply wanting to draw your attention to this suffering structure you are indeed creating, because in a counter intuitive way you creating this internal pain is actually making it harder for you to tap into your true and authentic power. You’re so fixade on these things you wish were different and any associated beliefs around them that you aren’t aware that is pulling you from finding some resolution here and moving forward the best way possible. I would ask yourself why you believe this whole thing is a problem? What do you believe about yourself? I would imagine you have some beliefs around you not being good enough or your life lacking something because you aren’t socializing / experiencing intimacy as much as you would like. You have to address those beliefs and realize that regardless of your sex life your value is unaffected. Your value and worth and life just is and sex does not somehow make you better or make it so that you aren’t “missing out.” You are exactly where you’re supposed to be always and that’s ok. In what way does creating painful emotions in your life on this issue somehow help you find resolution for it or gain more sex? I think you are punishing yourself and would benefit from being on your own side and being there for yourself during challenges like this. Now apart from what I just wrote, which is probably the most important stuff to focus on because it is your foundation, you can look towards setting intentions. You want to have more sex. That’s a fine intention to have and sex is nice to have sometimes. What now are some things you can do to have this come into your life. Be honest with yourself, what are some mindsets or ways of looking at life that would more likely bring you closer to this? What are some logistical changes you could build up to? Most importantly in what ways are you sabotaging yourself from living in your flow and effortlessly doing the things that are right for your life to bring about more sex?

@zazen You failed to mention any of the long term consequences Russia faces for continuing to fight. Stop this RT take. It’s been happening since 2022, first with this war only going to last to a few days to now how Europe is making terrible long term decisions. Moving the goal post always. Both sides are going to face major problems and a loss in a standard of living.

Because it isn’t about perfection. You can know something works and even be living truthfully and still make some mistakes. I do not believe in enlightenment in the way this word is often used and the way people frame things here. To me there is a way of life and a state (you could maybe label it a state) which is the byproduct of living the way. But it opens so many doors to the unknown where this term enlightenment in an of itself is like infinitely evolving, infinitely unable to be labeled, it breaks down and starts to dissolve itself. So all that is left is just pointing towards it. I think if you are looking for people to learn from, asses how humble they are, how honest they are, how kind, balanced and flexible they are and most importantly if what they are saying can be applied to your life to make it better, peaceful and more authentic.

This is a belief system I choose sometimes as well, as a straight guy in a society which tells us more is better. I’ve noticed I definitely want more and more beautiful women, and I’m getting married to a woman who is very beautiful and who loves me! Why isn’t one enough? It doesn’t help being surrounded by beautiful women and women knowing I’m getting married who then want my attention more and more knowing I’m in a relationship. Single women are absolute devils around taken men. It’s a form of corruption where we as men think we need more and more women to fulfill something in our lives and it’s a way the ego sort of hijacks the openness and excitement that the soul gives to new possibilities. I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with exploring sexuality and sleeping with various women. Just something seems off when you get a guy bending all sorts of social agreements and whatnot, perhaps in a somewhat dishonest way considering it’s like signing a contract then trying to change the terms after when you have more power. I’m going to be careful going into the future because I know there are some women I’d absolutely be tempted to cheat on my fiancé with if they came for me. I have to choose not to be corrupted and let go of all this glamours instagram fantasy stuff, that more beauty from women will make my life better, when I know deep down what will make my life better is being honest about the long term authentic connection and long term vision for building a family with someone who loves me is more important. Because at the end of the day beauty fades and after a guy busts a nut he sees more clear what he’s doing when he throws out his loving monogamous relationship for a bit of passionate fun with a tease. Audrey is kinda doing this by wrapping it in spirituality. He basically has gotten his wife to agree to him having a mistress.

What can’t you control? You did take Ayahuasca so while I do agree there were aspects of that state change, while on ayahuasca, which you couldn’t control, you are still responsible for it. You chose to alter your state taking ayahuasca. What now in this moment can you not control? Those benefits sounds really good.

But don’t conflate relationships with love. They are two separate things. Love is not a commodity that can be given or taken away. It is hard to put into words but it is truth, it is the sun. You can recognize this sun within yourself and clear the clouds and then choose to act in a way in which you shine, regardless of conditions you honor or what needs you have which you may be pursuing. A mom shows signs she is experiencing this sun within herself by caring for her baby and treating it well. You can love and still have conditions. A mom experiences herself and cares for her child and mirrors back to the baby the love the baby has within itself. All relationships revolve around the same thing where you may tap into various aspects of your true self more than with others based on the arrangement of them. For example, you may not see this as much in your mailman but if you stopped for a moment you still may have love for their existence and wish them well in life just as much as any other person. You may see this more apparently in your wife though who you live with and relate to often and have various things you share together and various needs you fulfill for each other.

How is the prioritization of truth here very limited? All you have in relationships ultimately is communication and if you are doing that honestly you are prioritizing truth…. From my POV you are making distinctions I see no point in. Existential truth? What? What is existentially true in a relationship is when two people are communicating truthfully which includes communicating your conditions honestly and finding what is in harmony with each other, like I said. Yes, a relationship has needs that need to be met, how does that make it less true? I do not align with your model to be honest or your application.