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@Daniel347 Well i like to hold my sexual energy to weekends when i meet my gf.

@hyruga Cool, tested it out. Will do again before going to sleep. Does it help you?

30 to 60 seconds? Such a noobie

@Leo Gura in your recent video you tackled the topic of bad trips and this question appeared to me. What's the worst bad trip you ever had? Why was it the worst trip you ever had? What topic/topics did the trip tackle that made it the worst one?

Well you either eat or have that cake. As hard as it have to be for you you seem to have an inner conflict or contradiction at least. Why would you set a goal for yourself to be more social if you have no desire to have friends?

Guys how do i let go of control? Have you got some exercises/practices?

@Kamo Well this sounds like: "There's no reason to seek", which sounds like nonsense.

@roopepa What game do you play?

Good one. Okay, as silly as it sounds - i have nothing more to do apart from what i'm doing right now. Lessss go!

@Mason Riggle Okay i get it. But it would be easier to feel that i have no control at all and enjoy life that way.

@Mason Riggle No, i don't think that i could "not live my life". The difference is - do i accept the fact the life is like it is, or i don't.

So i just live my life in that case? I can medidate, build up consciousness, have nondual expieriences, but in the end i may not experience non existence of "I"?

I'm giving you honest answers. I know the theory presented here on this forum and by Leo. I just don't "get" what you are trying to communicate and i look for a way to "get" it.

I feel that i have control. Whats is I? Some structure inside my body?

@Someone here I decide what i do, how i react, i plan, i move as i want to.

@Mason Riggle Cool. How do you know you are in the present? I mean sometimes thoughts are so sneaky that it takes some conscious unfolding to know what's true. Btw i always thought a guy on your profile pic is doing rear delts lol.

@Mason Riggle I get it on conceptual level, however it doesn't resonate with my on some deeper level. I still know that i can change my behaviour and "let go" and sometimes i'm more controlling and feeling "not free". That's why i'm looking for some daily practices which i can do during the day to "get" what you wrote.

@flowboy Quality answer as usual. I double that. OP, in your first sentences you wrote: Work on yourself!

@EmptyVase Massive post. Thank you, very needed.

Today i grasped a phenomenon that i've been noticing for a long time. During the warmup before kickboxing training i've expierenced not being. I literally didnt exist. There was no one to claim "i am". The warmup is guided by one of the pro fighters and the other follow and do what the guide is doing. As soon as i started noticing that the "I" has came up. It felt like a resistance and rising tension. I let go of everything and let the things be it's way, gave up the control. I feel like i had a glimpse of what awaking might be, then the "I" came to play. Mind joining me in discussion guys and elaborating this topic?

Thanks Yeah i get it. I wondered lately if i'm just programmed somehow do do exactly those things which i currently do. Is it determinism? How do i really surrender? How do i give up control without having control to do so?

Beautiful words

Indeed they have. But so far what i've noticed it's not really that related with pleasure.

Woah such a bad answers in the majority. But i gotta admit i'd agree with most of them like 2 years ago. I think the most important trait of every man and woman to keep the other person attracted is being true self. Like really - what kind of man you are to do some stuff only in hope of attracting women that way? Coming from a guy who's into gym and martial arts tho.

Yeah and in my case i've got pretty ambivalent approach. Sometimes i'd edge myself shitload of times during the week thinking that busting a nut to porn and jerking off is something bad for me and potentially worsening my sex during the weeknd and something (like this week) i'm like - yeah i'm not really proud of it but fuck it - imma not restrain myself and jerk off when i want to. And this second approach is really cool. It's something as Leo says - i'm pretty energetic and i'm up for doing my stuff so it's cool for me.