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If the question is who cares about looks or physical attractiveness in the other party then the answer is obviously men. by asking who’s more picky from both parties you are asking who cares more about looks or the reverse ?

Why is that a popular belief then ?

Obviously men. Men prioritize physical appearance. Women prioritize character.

But we understand intellectually at least that everything is impermanent as I mentioned unlike another animals and species we are aware of our own mortality . That’s why I answered the question why it’s difficult to let go of attachment towards things by shedding light upon the transience and impermanence of all forms.

Wow dude chill

I’m running out of temper lately and my tolerance for human bullshit is starving thin. What I mean by human bullshit is this mentality that ordinary people have believing their personality is something fixed.. they have a self image ..they engage in drama to protect their character. Nothing wrong with that since that’s the majority of people . Let’s not assume that everyone are high conscious people or aware of some egoic behavior. I have anger issues and I am losing tolerance for dealing with people especially toxic people with toxic traits..I immediately scream and insult and get into fights. unfortunately I went back to smoking and drinking caffeine because the stress is just disgusting. It seems to me that that’s how people are and how life is..people can’t love each others and respect each others. People like to protect their overutilized self image. I don’t know how to put up with people anymore.. if I leave them go to hell with their toxicity they step on me and if I beat the living hell out of them I feel regret .

It’s illogical to use taste ..touch ..sight and smell to try to grasp what’s beyond them . By definition it can’t work right ? do you know that physics is the most important science from the hard sciences ? Because it studies the world itself and how it works. It assumes the world is made out of matter and energy and that’s all and then we as humans interact with the world through the senses which give us a translated copy of the “ real world “ beyond the lens of perception. there is a field called Metaphysics. it questions those assumptions which physics assumes about the nature of existence itself . Read books on metaphysics .Leo has a playlist on his channel called “ Metaphysics -the nature of reality “ .It has all the answers you are seeking regarding this inquiry.

Not to pressure you but how is this known to be “obviously not true “? let’s explore this thoroughly.

It’s all the things you guys mentioned.. not only one of them . its seeing through the illusion of separate ego self which is the thinker of thoughts or doer of deeds . And therefore a lot of guilt and self judgement dissipates because you know that there is really no solid entity as you existing separately from conditions which is to be shamed for fucking up. Automatically this means you forgive others as well ..you still can get ANgRy lol but you see their behavior from a higher zoomed out perspective. seeing through “problems “ . Understanding how the world is going through it’s laws and it’s dreamy nature makes you feel peaceful and unshakable by strong negative conditions when they occur because you see through “negative “ itself by seeing through your ego. it’s also the answer to who you are really and what existence is . Of course you can’t really put the Answer in words but there is a radical shift that happens . It’s necessarily a knowing .

@moonawakening444 I thought about this a lot .I think you can never go beyond the only thing that there is . If in your experience all that there is is being and non being and language and experience then going beyond them through them is just illogical?

I can understand it as if you smile or laugh at someone who insults you as a sign of showing them their insignificance ?

I’m not writing off the answers just because. I’m not just looking for an answer . I’m looking for an answer that makes sense to me. Your answer doesn’t make sense to me. You deny the bodily irritation you experience when a person hurt you verbally or physically. Are you a tree ?

It’s not “might “. If negative energy is directed at you then you will experience a negative emotion.this is like Newton’s third law. It’s really not under your control here. It’s physiological and more so physical. then you say “ but your response is up to you”..yeah sure I’m asking about this : when someone hurts me ..if I fight with with people I regret it because I don’t want to hurt anyone and if I turned the other cheek I will get shat upon and used to.

Isn’t it hilarious that you judge whether other people are awake or not by whether they believe other people believe in other people?

And in the meantime?

But then you will be perceived as a passive weak person and this will make you more prone to getting attacked by others .

Nothing of this ilk will ever work for obvious reasons which I don’t want to say to not come off as a smartarse.

this is empirically false . If a person shouted at you or called you names you will immediately experience a hot sensation in your body and you will experience unease in your body and your temperature will increase .

Because we are conditioned by society to do so.

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? thanks .

I don’t hate people. I’m not angry and grumpy all the time nor is it my default. I’m actually a very nice guy . I never started a fight with anyone. I always wish to live in peace but The world is not peaceful. most people are not peaceful..at least in my life . That’s the issue .

India . I answered you in PM.

@Leo Gura edited the title and OP. Please check. I understand your concern.

I’m going to . That’s what I’m trying to get help with . You are just telling me stop and that’s it . Ok fine but Let’s liken it to a bully messing with you on the local street ..like he leaves you choiceless but to engage in a fight . I don’t want to beat anyone ..but some situations force you . There’s no way to undo what I did. But I promise that that’s not a regular thing and not gonna happen again. the general question is how to deal with toxic people of behavior in a non toxic way? We all do things we aren’t proud . I bullied a classmate too in the 5th grade for a while. I can’t change the past. But I can make sure that I never create that pain in another person for the rest of my life. But I really don’t know HOW?

Of course very bad behavior. I regret it. I don’t beat her regularly. It was one incident. I’m looking forward to hear healthy ways of dealing with anger and toxicity .