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i genuinely don’t have any friends. at all. usually when people say they don’t have friends they actually do, but they only occasionally talk to them, but that’s not the case for me. i don’t have even one friend. for almost 5 years now i will go weeks without leaving my house. i don’t speak to anyone whether. I do have some online friends on Discord and Reddit but that's about it . And of course my imaginary friends in this forum . i go days without even speaking a word. i’m so tired of it all. the only interaction i’ll have is with the person i’m staying with who i don’t even have a good relationship with and works the entire day so we don’t really ever talk. i’m so far gone that i think i’ve lost all social skills i previously had before my isolation started because i’m not speaking to other human beings. i have a severe amount of social anxiety and have for most of my life. nothing ever seems to help and i’m hopeless at this point. i hope this doesn’t sound like i’m just trying to be edgy because i swear i’m not. i don’t want to be like this whatsoever. i want to have an actual life.

What can I do to become more masculine? I've never had a strong father figure growing up, I won't get into it but I was raised by women. In school I was the lowest on the totem pole and picked on a lot. I've improved a lot since then but I still feel I'm a weak man. Does being manly just come with age or will I always be like this? I was wondering what sort of tips you guys can offer so I can become more masculine or manly? I'm not competent with many things. I'm not handy. I have soft hands and I don't know how to fix things. I don't have many hobbies. I'm a bit indecisive sometime because I like to weigh my options. I'm bad at sports, yes all of them. I want to feel masculine and I'd like to learn how to become more manly. I'm not aggressive enough. I'm not competitive at ALL(because I was always the weakest link). I Just want to become a better man. If you read this and your instinct is to tell me to be myself or say something nice, or that it's alright, I thank you but I'm looking for solid advice on how to better myself and be a better man. Maybe I have issues but I'd always like to be on a path of self improvement. Thanks ?

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Thanks everyone for the advice. I sincerely appreciate it . Although I wanna add an additional note that I've realized within me about this whole balancing feminine VS masculine. I'm not in touch with neither my masculine side nor my feminine side . I'm kinda in the middle. It’s difficult to describe. It's the similar to Asexual people. They are not attracted to anything regarding sex. Also, Men have become more feminine as a result of new wave societal ideology. The radical me too movement has brought in irrational notions such as toxic masculinity and since most men these days don’t have a backbone believe it and fall into this by being agreeable. The fact of the matter is, if you stand your ground and have an opinion, women will respect you more, even the radical me too’s. No matter what women say, they are not attracted to anything but masculine men. Women are feminine by nature and want to remain feminine and submissive. So no women would like to date a coward like me .

I'm not sure . Why does it seem so unbearably difficult to get a girlfriend these days? I just don’t get it anymore. It’s bizarre that anywhere I go I constantly see guys with girlfriends/wives & a lot of the time these women are attractive. But it just seems like no one even bothers to talk to one another anymore unless they know them already. Online dating is a huge disaster unless you have an amazing job or top tier looks. So what is it that women are even looking for these days? Why is it so difficult yet I always constantly see people together. It’s like I feel like I’m in some sort of Matrix or something where things are just meant to happen for others when I’m not around. Yet I never ever see anyone get asked out in person or anything. If it’s so difficult how do so many people find it so easy? I’ve heard of people getting out of relationships than finding another in like 3 weeks time. I just don’t get it at all. Thanks bro ?.

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@LastThursday hey bro ..long time no see ? Thanks for the comment. There is a lot to unpack. I'll speak from personal experience. When I was younger, I was very insecure, skinny , and quite a bit of a push over, a huge people pleaser. I would avoid conflict with people I feel I would have conflict with. I would secretly compare myself with other men and what I thought masculinity was. I at times would look at others and wish I were like that, but something in my code wasn't the same, so it seemed. I was lazy, I had no skills, I had no physical, athletic capabilities. I was scared to approach women and did not date at all, although I wanted to. I asked my therapist..he told me Usually, when you want to become more manly, you will have to make yourself uncomfortable and perhaps be around those you consider “more manly” or who are what you aspire to be similar to. Imo it's hard to understand the definition of what that means (manly )and it is very subjective (Are we meaning nature wise, physically, relationally, etc.. etc.). There are “manly” men who do things we would consider unmanly, perse. It may be uncomfortable at first as are most things in life when aspiring to make positive changes. I Started working out to get into good shape. Something about working out and lifting weights helpe with my mindset and help build confidence sometimes you may not appear or be as manly because of harmonal problems. I mention this, because I may need to have some blood work done to check my harmonal levels and make sure they are balanced. Some men, have high estrogen levels, especially when overweight, and these estrogen levels without a balanced testosterone levels can affect the way in which you think about yourself and those around me. I don't feel feminine. I feel like a guy. Totally. But not a tough guy who can take responsibility of his life and build a family or anything from that sort.

@Carl-Richard I get it .you will do anything to justify your porn and masturbation habit to be healthy even though deep down you know its bad for you. And I'm not judging you. This is the case with every addiction .I do the same with my cigarettes addiction.

It would appear so that the earth is conscious. But think about the geological timescale. The earth is billion years old. The lifespan of a human is but a moment to the perception of the earth. Thus, if we develop an actual scientific method to study the consciousness of the earth, it would be in a much different manner than studying our consciousness or the consciousness of the animals and plants around us. The microorganisms within us are living very quick lives to our perception, how would they understand the consciousness of the organism that they are supporting? It would be very hard to prove that the earth is consciousness, but the evolution of organic life on earth makes it seem that earth consciousness is a real possibility.

Suggest to me books that talk about the origin of our universe,and how existence came into being. It can be from scientific perspective or spiritual perspective. It doesn't matter .as long as the main topic of the book is the origin of reality. An example would be "a brief history of time " by Stephen Hawking .and "a universe from nothing "a Lawrence Krauss. Thanks.

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These politicians..They don’t trust the American people. The arguments I’ve seen all boil down to, “popular vote means the votes of inferior people (people in cities, many of them not white) will count as much as the votes of people in small towns and country places, where righteousness resides The United States is a Federal Republic, not a democracy. It balances the interests of big states and small by splitting Congress in two, giving proportional representation in the House and equal representation in the Senate. The system prevents a few states with big populations from imposing their will on all the others, while still giving them power commensurate with their size in appropriating federal dollars preventing them getting robbed by the smaller states. Democracy has failed just as all preceding forms of government have failed This is because the job of the government is to distribute available resources to the most people in the most efficient way It can never do this because a government without opposition will make decisions that benefit itself and its supporters A government with opposition will waste time and money deciding what are the priorities of its actions In so far as there is always hard work, dirty work, and dangerous work to be done, no one will want to do these jobs if their needs are catered for Such jobs create a situation where a stratum of society is deliberately kept poor so they will do these jobs, or ways are invented to do these jobs In a slave economy, slaves were expendable and obviated the need for machines, which is why machines were not developed even though they were needed .

I'd ettle for electors proving that they know the different functions of different levels of government. Not in detail, just to have some semblance of an idea to demonstrate that they can make at least a somewhat informed vote.

Because I want to double check that It's not just "in my head " by asking other people about it . There has been studies that show that watching porn causes decay in the grey matter in the brain which is responsible for your sense of control or making choices. Have you visited www.yourbrainonporm.com yet ? A lot of eye opening studies there. Also take a look at the nofap forums and see how thousands of guys reporting that porn has negatively affected their sex lives. BTW. I do like porn . I'm not gonna pretend to be not who I am . But I'm also being honest . Just like I like smoking but it's bad for me . The same way I like porn but I know it's bad for me in the long run .or if I happened to escalate into more extreme fucked up shit.

I only watch softcore basic stuff. A hot a girl and a guy having sexy times . And that's it . The very idea of orgy disgusts the shit out of me . Also..who exactly is the porn inquisitor here lol? I didn't watch porn or wanked my willy for more than three months now ..whereas you fap to porn every week ..so you should be more expert in porn. Yes sure. The problem is that the home-made porn is not as attractive quality wise . Its a big turn off for me . Idk.i guess it just boils down to your tastes .

I only care about the quality of the video. I don't care if the woman is faking her moans..as long as she is hot and being banged in the right way then that's mouthwatering for me. Because in porn you see the woman ready to fuck and fakes her orgasms to give you impressions that she is enjoying what's happening to her ..meanwhile she might actually feel disgusted by it .but she only does it for the cash. So what's the trade-off in watching porn ? Losing some brain cells when you watch something extreme like an interracial gangbang ?

I do believe people are obsessed with sex because they use it as a tool to keep or attract a partner, which very Unhealthy. People need to be educated about LOVE, sex, and relationships, now days they just teach about sex. When it comes to sex,people have no self control which means they have some mental illness need to seek some professional help. People are so mislead to believe that you must have sex to see if you're sexually compatible before you can have a relationship with person. Then they wonder why they're still single and sitting on the side lines. Or they have sex with so many people they end up with a bad rep. Women blindly believe that when they have sex the man is in love with them, 9 times out of 10 he's just using her for a piece. That’s why today people can't distinguish sex from actual LOVE. To love someone,is to love the whole person not just what they have between their legs. It's sad to see so people obsessed with something that could potentially end your life just by having sex with the wrong person. Now days people just sweep STD’s under the rug and are only concerned about pregnancy, they don't realize birth control DO NOT protect you from diseases.

Oh really? What types ? Just say it as it is and don't shy away from it . Porn is fucking toxic as fuck . I mean I get it ..we have sex drives and we like to watch the naked hot women performing every kind of sexual act ..but don't let your enjoyment of porn blind you from its negative consequences. Just like my smoking addiction .I fucking adore smoking ..but the fact is smoking is horrible for my health . amateur porn sucks . Low quality garbage. I don't watch it . I only watch the highest quality that I can find . Still both are toxic in their unique way . It seriously presents a false expectation about women's sexuality. Women are not horny all the time(like men ) and ready to fuck always ..that's one of the misconceptions Brought forth by porn.

And what about porn ? Don't bullshit my ass and say its harmless. It twists your views on women and objectify women. Now with that said ..I'm a big coomer myself ? but just saying it as it is .

@Twinstar The best a teacher can do is continually point you in the right direction. The paradox is that there is no direction to go, it’s a pointing you back to yourself. They cannot lead you to freedom, and as long as you are looking to them to lead, you will be lost. Your journey to nowhere is yours alone. That’s why it’s so tough, nobody likes to go it alone, but the spiritual journey to freedom can only be done alone. And in truth haven’t you always felt alone? The bad news is the further/deeper you go, the less lonely you will feel. The good news is that you will be fully satisfied just by sitting down and appreciating your own Aloneness

I obviously don't know . But im trying to just makes sense of your experience (which I do not doubt ). do real Masters have abilities beyond the reach of us seekers? Yes, incredibly so. But rarely are they displayed .However, realizing the simple truth of one's true nature is worth more than any power/Siddhis.

@Leo Gura Because There’s something quite spontaneous about the occurrence a paranormal event . But it doesn't mean you now have a deeper understanding of reality from this experience? timeless “awake-ness" awareness, hasn’t changed a bit, so what you really are remains absolutely untouched by all of this imagined specialness about this experience. Nothing has fundamentally changed.

I'm 26 now .in my teenage years I used to fap 5 times a day. I mean… that’s sure a lot. Hope i have some skin left on my willy. It does hurt your reproductive system (don't in listen to those so called modern doctors daggers who say it is supposed to be good for your prostate and testicles and ducts and blahblahbla) you’re going to be pretty cranky when you have some responsibilities that require you to be away from a wank-safe area for any period of time. You need to learn to focus on other stuff so you can function when you can’t jerk it. Seriously. Functioning while horny is important. The energy you get from not fulfilling your sexual urges can be used to better yourself in many ways, exercise especially, and so like microwaving every meal can make you too lazy to cook and fill you with junk, whackin’ it like it did something wrong can laze you out for getting the real thing or using your energy for more productive purposes.

Then by what means should we verify it? Is It gonna remain anecdotal for the rest of history? With 7 billion people on the planet and no real proof that it exists…. If it does exist, it is so rare that it has escaped billions of people. But sure, if you can show me so verifiable evidence, I would be open to it.

I deleted this comment but since @KH2 quoted it..i will bring it back the James Randi foundation offered $1,000,000 to anyone in the world who could demonstrate psychic powers, did anyone claim that prize? No. Not one single person claimed the Randi award. Again - why not?? Many so-called psychics would have been queuing around the block to claim that prize - if not to pocket the money, at least to prove to the whole world once-and-for-all that they should be taken seriously and that their powers were genuine. That would have been the perfect platform to do so. In reality, they could not do this because they have no such powers and would have looked a bit silly.