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I've yet to have anyone convince me Schopenhauer's aren't the final words on the matter: 'You can do what you want, but you can't want what you want.' That is to say, what ever you do, you have to want it first. Even the phrase 'free will' is an oxymoron. If it's free, then it can't be bound, and if it's willed, then it's bound by will. However, Spinoza, a rigorous determinist if there ever was one, found good use for the phrase by seeing it in a different light: Free will does not imply the ability to transcend causality, but rather, that your actions are free in the sense that they are determined by inner causes, rather than exterior ones. So, free will exists if you see it as being free to follow your own will. This will is of course, in the final analysis, influenced by events external to yourself, but what matters is that your will is free if you experience no conflict between your desires and what you end up doing. However, if you see free will as being metaphysically able to choose between several different, equally possible futures, then you've got a lot of explaining to do, and I can't see anyone getting past Schopenhauer's QED.

Thanks everyone for the great advice. Unfortunately I'm not able to respond properly to all that (too much text ) but I will share what came to my mind after reading all the comments.. First and foremost..I want to know How much exactly money do i need to achieve financial independence? I'm planning to start a small business. I've seen a lot of posts on here in which people say I gotta develop valuable skills. .I consider myself skillful in philosophy and writing..how can I utilise this talent to help me earn money? Also ,I'm asking people working towards financial independence, what is your target asset level across all investments, that you think will make it safe for you to stop working? For those of you who became financially independent, how much did you have when you stopped working, and how do you feel about it now? Also, sometimes I'll see people post that they'll still work a little bit after they're financially independent. To those people, why not just start doing what you love now? At this point, I'm wondering: how is it possible to invest such a large amount early in my career without income ..I mentioned that I have zero income .so it seems like I have no other option but to work a wage slave job for few years and keep my expenses low to save money for investment. I can achieve this by saving around 40% to 70% of my income. By keeping my expenses low, i can channel more money into investing. To minimise my expenses, i may have to make certain lifestyle where I limit myself from buying some fancy stuff .like I will probably buy the cheapest food and not have Good nutrition. Thanks all for your time and advice ?

The sun sets here at 4 PM. The night is dark and the day is also dark .rarely do I see the sun shining because of the clouds . Maybe its because of lack of Vitamin D that gets produced by the skin when it gets exposed to the sunlight. Anyone else feels depressed or at least melancholic during winter? I mean I also like the cloudy sky and the rains ..its dope ...but also the cold temperature makes showers a pain In the ass (I only take cold baths whether it's summer or winter because I read somewhere that it's good for testosterone). But I also miss the sun .

My penis' length is 12 cm. It's not that big .I would say it's average. When I fucked my girlfriend a while ago. .she told me that I didn't reach to her" G-spot " inside of her .I didn't know what G-spot was back then . I Googled it. It's located about an inch or so inside the vaginal opening on the upper vaginal wall closest to the bellybutton. My penis wasn't tall enough to hit that sweet spot inside her . Now, Im having sex with her again in a few weeks from now (because she is busy in work ,she works two jobs ). So I wanted a solution to enlarge my penis . 3 weeks ago I ordered MaxMan gel .it's a gel that you massage your penis with and it helps with enalgering it. Or so I thought . But the results were shocking . I didn't notice ANY increase in length whatsoever. I've been scammed. The cream will not, repeat NOT, enlarge your penis. Penis size is determined by genetics. You are wasting your money and time. If you think it is working, it is pure fantasy and placebo. This is the product below . (I repeat. Don't waste your money and time on it .it doesn't work )

. I told all my family and my girlfriend the same thing . not “I'm trying to quit,” but “I don't smoke anymore.” It was a huge mental shift. And it worked. Telling everyone In my life that I did not smoke kept me accountable. Counting time made me accountable to myself. Cleaning my room, my clothes, hell my life, made it a real change rather than “something I was trying to do.” Yeah man,I regret every single cigarette I have put in my mouth . Does that mean that some of the damage is irreversible? Are There thresholds at which smoking does cause irreversible damage?, but they vary individually. I think The most common scenario is where it sets in after years or decades of regular smoking. It’s a cumulative, progressive deterioration of the organism, not a sudden onset where it goes from zero to irreversible all at once. But I've been smoking since I was 16 in high school to impress girls and appear more of a "bad boy " to attract girl's attention lol. If I wait for months and years without smoking a single cigarette..will that make my organs detox naturally ? I simply want to remove as much as I can the toxins in my body from smoking

Thanks . Yes I think drinking enough liquids and eating fresh veggies and fruits (which are rich in fiber ) can work as a detox to toxins in the body .

This has NEVER worked. It's all or nothing. I learned that just about 2 weeks after you quit, a second round of mind games start to hit your brain pressing thoughts like “I can just have one…” which lead to failure.

I mean, you can Google it . But what makes you believe you had a past life to begin with ?just curious.

Go in nature. Observe the birds .the sky the sun .the sea. The breeze. Look up at night sky and gaze into the stars .and the moon . Play your favourite album .dance in public .don't give a shit .just dance and sing and enjoy the miracle of existence.

@Something Funny OK no worries. best wishes.

@Something Funny then what do you want ? This may seem harsh but seriously this is what is coming to my mind right now. First things first. It must be dealt with seriously. Like Get a life dude..!! Engage yourself in something else. There must be something which fascinates you, which makes you interested. Do it. This will even help with the porn thing. As for "I will get a girlfriend when it's time" part, you are actually comparing yourself to people who have girlfriends. Stop that. Your whole life is in front of you and you are losing self esteem because of something like this. My Advice: Making a girlfriend should be the focus. Talk to girls. Do not see them as your "potential girlfriends". This will worsen that SHY thing and you will never be able to talk to the opposite sex freely. Focus on that for now. SELF ESTEEM and CONFIDENCE are really important for that. P.S. I am 26 never had a girlfriend until few months ago .and I'm so happy and confident. I don't even want this porn crap in my life anymore .

As you you wish. But you asked for a solution that actually fucking works. Get a real partner, someone you can hug and hold, a shoulder to cry on, real lips to kiss, because OH MY GOD that is not replaceable! Trust me!!! You want it! We all do! We all need it! Dump the porn and get a real score! Masturbation leads to porn and porn leads to Masturbation. If you are often watching porn, it´s draining your body of those sex hormones. That means you don´t get any aching wish for the real thing to come along. You´re stuck in the fantasy land.

@Something Funny get a girlfriend. That's the ONLY long term solution. Its impossible to cut porn and masturbation from your life as long as you are single. And lemme tell ya somethin'..real sex with a real attractive girl is way beyond an other worldly experience than this fake shit called porn . Are you struggling with finding a girlfriend? Let's Talk about...

The biology behind it is it makes the skin of the penis more receptive and the internal blood vessels and Chambers more wide so that more blood can flow to the penis . That's what was written in the user guide. The issue though..when I normally measure my penis conservatively, i get a much bigger number when I instead measure optimistically, even though the actual size has not changed. So if i use a cream or take a pill thinking that it will make the size of my erect penis larger, I might as well measure my penis to be larger. The size of my dick didn't change in more than three weeks with constant massaging daily. The cream have no effect other than give you an erection if you’re lucky. So bad so far. I thought I would share so that guys who are trying to enlarge their dicks not get scammed . Cheers

Thanks. These are all relatively safe positions. Im especially afraid of her riding me from the top because of the risk of breaking my penis (yes it's a thing). Most women find stimulation of the inside of the vagina to be more pleasurable than merely rubbing their clit. I've discovered also pleasure is different from that of stimulating a dense cluster of sensitive nerves like a woman's g-spot. stimulating the prostate in males can produce a pleasurable sensation akin to female orgasm. Now that made me thinking.. If God hates homosexuals,why did he put G-spot inside men's ass lol?

Thanks dude .

What do you mean by "the right angle "? We only fucked doggystyle. With my penis straight inside her vagina . I honestly am not comfortable with other positions because it makes my whole body uncomfortable. As far as the gel..yeah I thought it contains substances that make blood flows more into the penis and that way it can increase its length. But no increasing whatsoever. I did jelqing for about three months. My penis size increased from 2 cm . Jelqing definitely gives positive results. But all these pills and creams and sprays are a scam. Unfortunately i had to learn the hard way (by losing ton of money ).

I've seen a lot of posts recently (especially from @Holykael) about people suffering and complaining about their misery in life and why God is such an asshole for creating a reality that is so filled with pain and misery instead of designing a perfect paradise for all humans to live in . So the question is :Is God evil ? Of course not . Is God stupid? Of course not .is God not omnipotent ? Of course no. Is God toying with us ?of course not. So what's up with God? Well think about it .truly understand that YOU are God and you have created this existence. Put yourself in the shoes of God and try to imagine how would you construct reality. Imagine if you created reality in such a way that you get instantly everything you want out of thin air . Just by thinking about it. Imagine!! whatever you want in a second. You wish for wealth ?Boom, 1 billion dollars deposited in your account. You wish for love? Boom, you get a beautiful spouse. You wish for friends ?Boom, you got a ton of really cool friends to go on a vacation with you. How would you feel if this happens for real? You would feel amazing right ? Drive around in a Lambo, have a nice loving partner, have so much wealth that you don’t have to work even for a minute and can just party all day. My question tho would be, for how long would you feel the same level of happiness?You might feel great for a few days, maybe weeks, maybe months but what next?Would you keep feeling so high and happy all the time? Heck no. Your happiness levels will come to the same level as you have now and eventually everything gets boring and plain.Don’t believe me? I have a theory to prove this.Have you ever played GTA ?Have you ever used cheat codes in GTA?Im sure that if you ever played GTA you would have used those cheat codes. When I first came to know about cheat codes, I went mad and did everything I could. I increased my wealth as much as I could, I bought houses and I also got all the fancy cars and parked them in the garage. And for the moment, it did feel nice to have everything even though it was a game. However after a day I got sick of using cheat codes and went to play the game without them and started to normally complete all the missions and thats when I really enjoyed the game. So you actually purposely designed reality in such a way without access to cheat codes (which we might call God mode ). Now Leo says that it's possible to do that by plugging 200 syringe of 5-Meo-DMT up your butt ..but that's a different topic for a different day . What I want to say is that suffering is what makes life worth living .how paradoxical is that ? That you get to work and work your ass off for hours just to put bread on the table is what makes that piece of bread tastes so good . Try it . Try stealing money and eating food with it .you will not feel proud of yourself. Now ,Try working in a tiresome job and earn money and buy food and notice how literally the food will taste better . So in conclusion..suffering is what gives life meaning. You could've created reality without suffering but you deliberately didn't because it would simply be boring. Any questions, objections ,critiques ..are welcomed

@Holykael I highly recommend you watching this

What I call God is not a man with a beard, living in the sky, but Divine Consciousness, and all sentient Beings, including us, are part of that which we call God!..Our aliveness, consciousness and conscience are all aspects of God which are within us all. Thats why we were told we were made in the image of God and are able to create, by how we think, intend and believe, and were advised to listen to the still small voice (of God) within..and that The kingdom of heaven is within. What are the sages since the dawn of time trying to hint ? OK that's YOUR story about suffering. MY story is different than yours . That's exactly my whole point of this thread my man .we agree.

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No .actually you are God. You are human and god at the same time. So yes ..it's anthropomorphizing of God. God IS YOU. Not a universal impartial force or a bearded man up in the clouds. If you create a world and everything in it, you also created what’s going to happen inside of it. So obviously you created suffering. You want it .if you didn't want it as God..you would've not created . Hence ,my claim is that you actually enjoy the suffering. Another version is: if you create a world that was imperfect, knowing beforehand everything that would happen in it (misery, suffering, death by the shiploads), and did nothing to prevent it when you could have! then you’re responsible for all of that, because you were (in the best case scenario) negligent, and at worst you were the actual perpetrator. So do you want to accuse God of being evil ? Or accept that evil is itself the very goodness of God.

Yes as I said you Intentionally designed the suffering . because if we are 100% blessed out and happy 24/7 then WTF is there to do ? counting the stars ? you first have to ask yourself “What is bad/evil?” Is bad/evil a physical thing? Can you touch bad/evil? Can you see bad/evil? Can you taste bad/evil? If you’ve answered “No” to any of these questions, you have most likely come to the conclusion that bad/evil is not a “thing” like a book or a coin. Bad/evil is not existent by itself, however, it is the absence of good. A hole is real, but it cannot exist within itself. It requires the absence of something. The absence of dirt is a hole, but that hole cannot be separated from the dirt. When God created the universe, he created it everything as good. One of God’s many creations were creatures that were given free will.. or the ability to choose good. In order for it to be a true choice, God had to allow for there to be something besides good to choose from. If a person was asked “Does cold exist?”, they would most likely answer with a “yes”. This answer is not true. Cold by itself cannot exist. Cold is simply the absence of heat. Much like the first example, darkness by itself cannot exist. Darkness is simply the absence of light. So, what can we conclude? I believe the answer is quite clear with these two examples. God did not create evil, He simply allowed for the absence of good. Moreso, not only is evil the absence of good, but evil is also the absence of God. If God had not allowed for the absence of good, His creation wouldn’t be serving Him out of choice, but rather by obligation. Lastly, if God had not allowed for the absence of good, He would have made robots, which is a direct contradiction to free will… It also wouldn’t show Him to be a truly loving God, as love must be freely given from both parties.

It is wired in our heads, that everything worthwhile, shouldn’t come easy. BUT, look at Your own experience, and You will see, that best things in life came completely free of charge and by itself. Suffering only brings more suffering, with it comes balance and meaning . If you only suffer your life would have no meaning .if you only feel happy all the time ..also ..life will be boring and without meaning . Joy on the other hand, brings more joy, and when You are joyful, You are automatically interested in others to share it, and that’s how You CREATE a meaning.

@mac99 there is no "other side " or 'death " or "spirit world" or "reincarnation cycle "etc There is only this present moment. Everything else is beliefs and wishful thinking. Basically nonsense.