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@Leo Gura I'm not planning on pursuing awakening until some years down the road as I am young and still have a career to build and more basic development to do, but in the mean time I want to do some basic practices to give me a head start once I am ready to pursue awakening. I currently meditate an hour a day and plan on getting into retreats soon. I'm wondering if because you say that meditation, self-inquiry, etc. isn't enough to fully awaken, would you recommend me to do anything different than that kind of stuff over the next few years to prepare for pursuing awakening? At this point in your development, what would you say are the most helpful things I could be doing right now in my life to make awakening easier once i'm ready for it?

I personally think its completely reasonable to charge for anything involving spiritual or emotional work, because it requires a lot of expertise to be able to navigate and troubleshoot these areas effectively, and for a person to have that expertise, they need to put a lot of time into learning and practicing this stuff. If they were able to make money by doing it, then that would allow them to put so much more time into this work and developing themselves further, whereas if they had to get money some other way, they would have a lot less time for that and they would be a lot less developed/provide much less value than they could. Everyone needs to make a living, and I think there is nothing wrong or unethical about getting that need met through this work if it allows you to grow yourself so much more and as a result help others so much more. As long as you're not abusing that power and exploiting people for their money.

I don't know every video with a worksheet but I have the worksheets saved from the videos "building your infrastructure for success" and "money psychology"

Interesting. Thanks for sharing

Keep in mind that everyone has different preferences for what they're attracted to. Personally i'm a lot more attracted to ass than boobs so if a girl has a nice butt I don't really care what her boobs look like. Even though boobs are generally considered an important part of a female's attractiveness, I think a lot of guys will be willing to overlook it if they are attracted to the rest of you. Its not as important as you might think. Unless a guy specifically has a thing for nice boobs and its really important to him, most guys won't care that much. Sure its still considered a flaw, but lots of people have lots of different kinds of flaws and accepting the flaws of your partner is a natural part of relationships. If a guy was to love everything about you but then leave you just because of your boobs, he would be a dick, and that's certainly not the norm for what you would expect from most guys. That would be his fault and not yours. If you are hoping to find a really deep and fulfilling relationship in the future, where your personal connection with the guy is the most important thing, any guy you develop that with who really loves you for who you are isn't going to leave you because of your boobs, he would be willing to overlook that. Ultimately you're just going to have to keep working on your relationship with yourself and being able to love and accept yourself as you are. It's not this flaw itself that makes you so insecure, its that you are already insecure and lack self-love and self-worth, and then having this flaw just triggers it so much more because you feel like it's confirming how you already feel about yourself. Loving yourself comes from your internal relationship with yourself, and if you fully had that you wouldn't have a problem accepting whatever flaw you have, because you know you deserve love regardless. That's what you want to work on long term to really overcome this insecurity, but for now I can at least assure you that boobs aren't as important as you think they are to guys and most guys will be willing to overlook it if they're already into you, and that alone certainly won't prevent you from getting the kind of man you want.

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I'm glad to hear that That could be cool to do, all i'll say is if you do that try to do it from a conscious and level-headed place rather than using it as an outlet for any built up rage or resentment from your own experience, as it sort of seems that that's what you're alluding to. But yeah something like creating an ethical guideline could be cool

I really don't know much about Nahm or your experience with him but from what you said, it seems like you have been treated unfairly and so I don't blame you for your response, and I do agree that people seem to be taking his side just because they love him so much when in reality he's the one in the wrong. Sorry you have to go through that. But, if anything, how you talked about your experience with him and how its affected you inspires me to prioritize morals and integrity within myself as a coach, and to really pay close attention to how I make people feel as a coach, so thank you for that.

With all due respect to Nahm, I completely agree with everything you said. I remember on multiple occasions I would read something he said, even very slowly word for word and I would still have no idea what he was saying. Also the majority of his responses are just about detaching yourself from thought and emotion and realizing there is no you, and I feel like for the majority of cases that really isn’t helpful at all, just like the store clerk example you gave.

@Raptorsin7 okay thanks. I am working towards becoming a coach and I am planning on using that to help people with emotional issues and walk them through my techniques. I am not quite ready yet but once I am I will message you

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Damn, and I thought I was addicted?

@softlyblossoming Yeah that makes sense, and thank you

Watch "The importance of understanding emotions and feeling". A lot of what I teach is based on having a deep understanding of emotions and how they work, and this video basically explains why that is so important and why mental health issues need to be solved through feeling and not through trying to rationalize anything or explain away your issues with logic. Also "The importance of seeing yourself as multiple parts". This video is just an overall good understanding to have about emotional issues that I think everyone should know. "What it really means to heal emotionally". This video explains why I think almost every healing technique out there is not real healing, just symptom relief, and it explains what I would consider to be real healing and what the healing process I am creating will lead to. "You're hurt so much more than you think you are". Another overall good video to watch that can help you understand your emotional pain at a deeper level, why it exists and where its coming from, and it will really help you to empathize with yourself much more effectively. I really appreciate that. I am so used to getting attacked for things, and being opposed and told I'm wrong, (not always for issues like this but for other things in my life) and so it's nice to hear that someone appreciates me sticking with what I stay and not backing down.

Thank you

That might work for you, but for a lot of people with more severe emotional issues those kinds of things will do nothing for them and they will continue to suffer. Also, regardless of whether that stuff makes you feel better or not, you are still missing out on SO much more you could have if you did the work to heal. By avoiding that deeper work you are just settling. Some people might be satisfied with that, but i'm not. You can't imagine how good you would feel and how good your life would be if you fully healed and released all of the emotional pain you store within yourself. Every little thing you do in your life would be incomparably better. Also, I haven't released this method yet on my channel because I haven't finished creating it yet, but I know this depth of healing is possible. I don't plan on ever putting any of my information or methods behind a paywall and it will all be on my channel for free.

I'm an INFJ. I like the MBTI model. It has been very helpful for me with understanding myself and others and also helping me figure out how to set up my life to suit who I am.

I know for a fact its possible. Your best bet out of what you listed for genuine healing is Teal's completion process. It's funny that you say you've been working on it for that long because that means you haven't gotten the depth of healing her process is intended for (which is something I have suspected for a lot of people). If her process was done properly it would trigger a huge emotional release, you would feel through all of your pain and you would be permanently healed. That's the intention behind that process.

I listen to white noise with headphones when I sleep. It blocks out noise way better than ear plugs. I don't think it would have any effect on your brain, the only thing is you have to be careful when sleeping with headphones that if you lay on your side you could push it too far into your ear and damage it. I use apple headphones which don't go very far into the ear and I have been fine with them.

Solid advice

@puporing I'm not sure. Either way, the therapy offered today has a lot of problems to it. No wonder there's so many people with unresolved emotional issues.

wtf? what kind of therapist would side with the parent? when you are trying to process old emotional pain from something that happened years ago, whether the parents where right or not is irrelevant. Your child self needs love, that's it, end of story, and once everything is healed you will naturally move towards forgiveness and understanding of the parents. There's no need to take the parent's side in any way because it does nothing for healing

wtf that's so jokes??

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The black border exists as nothingness, there is no such thing as non-existence. There can be no bubble of consciousness because everything outside the bubble is consciousness too. You're using the bubble and the border to distinguish between form and formlessness, but it is all consciousness and existence.