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Yeah totally. Compromising yourself for another doesn't really work out. Blaming others doesn't really work out either. None of that would actually be aligned or supportive emotionally. Authenticity and inauthenticity can't co-exist, it will lead to contradiction in the relationship. You don't have to confirm what they believe or even copy their emotion though. Like if a parent was comforting the child, the parent doesn't believe in Santa but the parent can still talk them through it. When the parent shows confidence and kindness in contrast to the fear and insecurity, the child naturally gravitates towards the emotional state of the parent. You can embody your truth while acknowledging the emotion she feels. Anyways, blame is indeed self-destructive. I'm not saying to settle for that. You shouldn't be with someone who's always angry at you lol.

Well, if what's wanted is a connection and a relationship, then you gotta find some way to relate to them, despite being a guy. Then they'll probably feel happy or satisfied or whatever. Maybe I'm crazy.

Biological. The body, basically. The culture, behaviour, gender, and everything else attributed, would stem from the initial biological distinction. Trying to explain emotion through body parts just doesn't work IMO.

Where'd I say that?

I see. I think that would ruin any relation though. If a man did it. If a woman did it. etc. Women can express their emotions in unique ways, but at the end of the day it's the same emotion or the same capacity to feel as anyone else. For example, say a woman and a man feel sad. The woman cries about it in front of her friends. The guy doesn't do this, and he bottles the desire to cry, simply because there's a stigma that he shouldn't do that around other men. Both are sad. Neither have transcended sadness. The sadness is not caused by their genitalia. Nothing like that. One simply decides to feel it, and the other tries not to feel it because of what they are taught. The existence of it, the sadness, is still there. Same emotion. Same feeling. Only expressed or filtered differently because of culture, expectations, peers, gender, etc. My practical reason for emphasizing all of this is because I think it would actually be much more helpful to focus on the human condition as a whole rather than narrowing it down to a specific gender. That's much more relatable for everyone and it doesn't require much assumption or pseudoscience. Not necessarily. It doesn't have to push responsibility. It's arguably an important thing to communicate. But, to your point, it's also important not to place unnecessary responsibility onto others. I think someone could communicate emotions without actually expecting you to be responsible for it, though. You just seem sensitive to it because it seems other people have done that to you a lot.

As for being stuck in immature relationships, yeah, much of the "manosphere" is. Because they believe in the manosphere. Self-fulfilling prophecy. Then you just conflate the experience with "all women" to repeat the prophecy.

Objectively it might not be a big deal. It might even be silly. But she probably just wants you to acknowledge how she feels instead of brushing it off. Imagine a child crying about something. Santa didn't get them their presents or something. You would still probe and explore those feelings with them. Santa might not be real, but the feeling is. Anyways, end of the day it's not really a gender thing since everyone feels.

I'm not claiming to know the chemistry. I'm saying if the toxin is omitted then there's no problem. You don't need to know the chemistry of the substance to solve the problem or narrow down what's problematic.

It's toxic because it's taking the place of what isn't toxic. If you know for a fact that air high in oxygen is good for energy, then it's as simple as removing anything foreign to oxygen, like carcinogens or other particles. Anything foreign would impede the normal energy conversion process. In this way you don't need to know the specific science and behaviour of each and every substance. It's a more fundamental way of looking at it.

That's the same thing though. It's toxic because the body can't convert it into anything positive, but the body can definitely convert oxygen. Therefore anything which impedes oxygen or energy conversion will be perceived as toxic. I'm just saying that focusing on the oxygen is more fundamental and important than honing in on every little strange chemical or substance. It's not a mystery why filling a room with a foreign substance lowers overall energy, it's because what is essential for energy has simply been lowered. You have to look at how it's interacting with the body as a whole rather than blaming one substance. A substance does nothing until it interacts with the body, then you study that interaction.

I don't believe any of that. BTW, something very simple might be being overlooked. It's not something bad in the air per say, it's just the amount of oxygen. Less oxygen is less conducive to energy production, and more oxygen is more conducive. The proof of this is simply opening a window in a stagnant room and feeling the difference breathing in the "fresh air". As an anecdote, when I'm cleaning a bathroom using a detergent spray or whatever, there is a noticeable energy difference and maybe even headaches. It's because the spray is simply taking over the oxygen ratio. It immediately fixes just by going outside to breathe.

Because you've defined yourself as separate from the chair. Without you there's no chair, as @gettoefl said. Emotion is very obviously not separate, though. You will never find it because it's already wherever you are.

You can't find it because it's what you are

Yep. Peas in a pod. ❤️

"Other POV" begs the question, other than what? Neither is found because both are the same quality.

Lol. The first time I cut my own hair it was better than what any barber gave me. We all have to go no contact with our barbers. I guess there's a difference between haircuts and hairstyles. Haircuts are really easy and you should do it at home. But if you're looking for a hairstyle like a buzz cut or something then go to a barber I guess. Barbers ironically don't do a very good job at simple haircuts cause they always wanna use some fancy technique or product or something.

I get what you're saying. But a proper therapy session wouldn't really involve this stuff, it would be a series of questions about what you believe which is completely open-ended. Not to mention the different types of therapy. You're talking about online videos specifically. IMO the best of Dr.K is his hour long chats that he does with streamers, not really the short videos. That's actually what the OP was referring to as well. Maybe a distinction needs to be made between therapy and psychology/mental health videos in specific. There's definitely a lot of wacky mental health videos and lingo flying around but I wouldn't equate that with someone deciding to go to therapy.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/profound-quotes-090 Someone vandalized the quote

No one is. No separation. Sameness. No one can own or have sameness. The very notion is self-defeating. Too funny.

Neither. It's a false premise, so it has no answer. You can debate and cite studies about what color Santa's hat is, but there isn't Santa or the hat. It's not common knowledge that women are pickier at dating and that men only pursue this or that, yadda yadda. These are your own beliefs which you've injected into the OP and then assumed that everyone believes it too.

But you're engaging in the topic right now. Furthermore, you haven't directly said anything about the topic, and yet continuously slander it. Who's grifting, again?

Front of who?? Me in front of me?

Imagination is so free that it says "my imagination" and it seems like someone has an imagination. So amazing. Whose? It doesn't matter. It doesn't need a who, just imagination.

Sorry bud but you don't have copyright over this fine piece of imagination

"Death", "insanity", "too much", are conditions "emptying out" so as to not obscure the unconditional. It's not that the mind "can't hold all those things", it's that it never was. There aren't things, yet alone, things to hold. Fear isn't something else. Something else is a shadow (condition) cast by the mind, as if to explain the feeling which you are. The thread is a great invitation to feel and inquire though.