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They will first ask ‘ooh is he good looking?’ Believe me, heard it 1000s of times. Not always a situation of arriving in a car, but when there is talk of a new man on the scene.

@soos_mite_ah @Preety_India It’s all very stage red/orange dating on this forum. I don’t see the more spiritual men on the forum commenting in this section. Would be nice if they did though so there would be more mature responses. guys find the older pickup videos on YouTube and it is leading them here until this day. I still see people talking about those types of video, or people recommending them. Or maybe they found the forum through a different video but then found the pickup community here and got attracted to it....And yeah, Leo also interacts with them on the forum and feeds into those world views so they flock to him and take everything that he says as gospel...maybe because he himself still somewhat believes in those views I don’t know. But he also sends mixed messages by promoting pickup but also promoting consciousness in the other sections of the forum. Which makes me think Leo is still stage orange with dating. when I tell my boyfriend some of the stuff that people say on this sub-section he’s like ‘wtf isn’t this supposed to be a self development forum?!’ I just feel like most of the guys on this dating forum have been living under a rock and have no idea what it’s like in real life, so they just sit and theorize about everything, when in reality all that theory and studying just doesn’t go as planned! Because you can’t plan genuine attraction. All these other things are manipulation to get sex. I’ve led a very social life since being a teen and all through my 20s (now I’m a hermit ?) and the best relationships happen when there is no planning. Simply going out and having a social life and meeting people spontaneously and forming various connections, no amount of planning will account for that, but you have to get out there and live life!

Elon Musk's brain-chip company - ‘Neuralink’ released a video of Pager the macaque playing video games with his mind https://www.google.de/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/amp/technology-56688812

No. It’s a sign of chimpery. Devilish chimps thinking with their dicks. Very predictable.

This again? We already know that ‘society’ is shallow. Yes hot girls will get better chances at Modeling etc. But in the REAL world people are connecting with all kinds of people based on values and genuine attraction. At the end of the day you connect with who you connect with. I know plenty of guys who don’t give a F about dating models. get out and socialise and stop overthinking everything. Everything you see online is an illusion. this kind of attitude is why there is so many insecure people who feel inadequate and lesser value because of looks!

493 new billionaires to Forbes annual list Approximately 1 new billionaire every 17 hours. The combined wealth is now up to $13 trillion as opposed to $8 trillion in 2020. The US still has the most billionaires followed by China. There will be some who manage to slip through the cracks and are unaccounted for so potentially many more than we know. A chunk of the new ones were down to working with some COVID related product (vaccines, test makers, protective wear) Jeff is still number 1 on the list for the 4th year running. https://www.forbes.com/billionaires/

Speaking of rob zombie ... https://www.google.de/amp/s/metalinjection.net/news/rob-zombie-explains-why-he-went-vegan/amp

Yeah of course! It shouldn’t be based on sex alone. Ideally you would have both good sex & relationship. For longevity a good relationship with deep emotional intimacy is more important. Just having good sex won’t last long term without intimacy. But bonding and intimacy is something that builds over time, a strong relationship may not be plain sailing in the beginning it has to be worked at. Many relationships don’t make it past the uncertainty and rockiness at the start. My relationships always began with some kind of emotional connection first, whether it was having same interests or having a similar sense of humour, or being around eachother a lot. It didn’t always happen that we would have sex, maybe it would even fizzle out before that point. In my mid 20s I had a few almost serious relationships that lasted a few months, eventually running their course. Usually it would happen that i would want something more with them but they didn’t and vice versa, so it would end. Or, as I mentioned before after sleeping with them the fantasy was shattered, lol... so I would be having good emotional connections with the guy in the beginning, but then the sex wasn’t very good. as long as you know what you want the right person will come. But also, no matter how much thinking and logic you bring into it, none of it will matter once you meet someone you have some real attraction for. You never know who you might meet, and maybe everything else will go out the window I think in general it’s unlikely you will cross paths with people who are into violent bdsm, unless you yourself are into that or have some trauma.. and it’s something you would be aware of early on, especially if you talk about sex first. You probably won’t attract that type of a partner anyway if it’s not what you are into.

signs of internalized capitalism: Feeling guilt and shame for resting or taking a break your self worth is largely based on doing well in your career placing productivity before health feeling bad for not producing enough or working fast enough Believing that hard work = happiness feeling like you are being lazy, even when experiencing pain, trauma or adversity Using busyness as a way to avoid your needs Looking down on people who ‘get less done’ judging others for being ‘behind’ in life Bulldozing yourself pushing kids to get stuff done even when it’s taking a toll on them Praising people based on money or material possessions

ok well usually, there would be some sexual desire and attraction in the beginning, but what I'm talking about is more a feeling or energy that makes you have good sex. Sometimes that just isn't there, but you don't know until you have sex. The communication, open mindedness etc comes as the relationship progresses. Of course you could talk about everything first, and see if you have the same views on things. sex drive is basically what I mean by being sexually compatible, both being on the same level. yeah, and for the most part it is superficial and needy, and sex brings that side out of people. What you can do though is look for a partner who doesn't have a such a high sex drive, who you are on the same level as..someone who is more interested in emotional connection and intimacy. In the beginning of a relationship there will usually be more sex, but as you become more intimate and close that need for sex all the time diminishes. relationships can be built on intimacy alone, it just depends on the guy and if they are around your age they will probs be highly sexual. Sex should be fun though. But of course, nobody needs to have sex in a relationship, it totally depends on the wants and needs of each partner. It's hard to explain. but you might see them in a different light lol like for example say you talk to someone for a while and you talk about sex and all sorts of things, then some kind of fantasy is built up in your mind, but then after sex something changes and it wasn't what you expected. It could make your feelings change. It's possible though that everything would work out. but it's rare that the first person you have sex with will be a long term partner, but who knows. I'm older and made already many mistakes with guys, you seem to have your head more screwed on than I did back then, so i'm sure whatever you choose will be right for you. also, it totally depends on you as a person and what type of attachment style you have going on. I was avoidant when I first started dating at age 18 and had fear of getting close (although I didn't know that at the time)

No it’s not bad at all. You do whatever you feel comfortable with. The only thing I would say though is that if you wait until you are in a committed relationship, and then have sex, you might find out you aren’t sexually compatible. From experience I’ve found that the dynamic changes after sex. Sometimes my feelings changed and I didn’t want to sleep with them again, even though we got on great before. I find it’s better to hang out, talk for a while, maybe kiss. You can do things without having intercourse to determine the compatibility. make it known upfront that you are looking for a relationship, and not casual sex.. You keep your boundaries secure, and weed out the ones who are only after sex. You could end up in a awkward situation if you become committed before sex..

I like a coffee with oat milk some mornings. Drinking it black is too strong for me. I drink it for the taste, it doesn’t have much effect on waking me up. if I drink more than 1 I get anxious and edgy.

This is really helpful. Thankyou

@Michael569 I have considered it before. I’ll take another look. Thanks

Yes. Basically most of my life I’ve had no direction and always felt lost in what I should do. I didn’t have any strong guidance or advice growing up and was always making decisions alone. at the moment I’m kind of in limbo again, because of the lockdown and it’s hard to plan anything. I’m trying to figure out what steps to take next. I’m feeling lost again and losing motivation easily.

Yes there are some natural sugars. But if you were on the verge of collapse and in pain from starvation it would be something to replenish you without eating something.

@Leo Gura @aurum the water from young coconuts is full of electrolytes.. have you tried drinking that on a fast? I wonder if that would help when needing an energy boost.

Cool! Yeah i wonder how that would work on a human, they could just change their thoughts to try and trick the computer. but then again, it’s about movement. We don’t think about moving our body it just happens. I’m trying to understand is it moving by vision and the monkey is looking at where he wants the blocks to move? It’s really crazy. imagine in the future we can do things just by thinking/looking at something, like telekinesis

Ha. I thought the name was just Paige when I first heard it.

I am same. Well basically up until age 12 I was super creative, loved painting, I was top of the class for imaginative story writing, was praised for my handwriting skills, I was always playing and owned a video camera and was filming stuff all the time. Then once I got to Highschool everything became so serious and I slowly became bored and unable to concentrate. I literally couldn’t study and was terrible at maths. I was easily distracted by everything. I became pretty depressed actually, looking back. I stopped caring about school and felt alone. Most of those classes I was sat in a daydream not paying attention to anything. I wish I had someone guiding me back then, I was so clueless. I did already go to a psychiatrist a few years ago, I started with some tests but I didn’t finish it. Mostly because I decided that ADD wasn’t a real thing, it’s just a label they put on kids that can’t learn in the conventional academic way, they learn better by being creative and using their hands etc. also, that these symptoms are just a part of my personality mixed with coping mechanisms. I don’t know about maladaptive daydreaming. I do have really random thoughts though and a very vivid imagination. Sometimes I end up in trance states where I can completely drown out my surroundings. other times, if I’m deep in thought about something, and someone interrupts me or is being loud I get annoyed lol. I’m highly sensitive to what’s going on around me and recently started wearing earplugs in certain situations and also to sleep. it’s great if I don’t want to be disturbed by random noises.

This looks great! But I need to find one from a European website I don’t know. I mean, I’ve always been a day dreamer and an ‘in my own world’ type. I would say that it’s worse if I’m anxious about something. I have been like this as long as I can remember. I’m always trying to eat as healthy as possible, but I find it hard to keep consistent with preparing my food and my diet is pretty scattered. I rarely eat out and avoid all processed foods and meat. But what I do end up eating a lot is pasta and bread, as they are easy to make when I’m tired or unorganised. But i also make a lot of healthy stuff like green smoothies, salads, soups, I make curries and rice dishes. I don’t have a set diet, i eat all types of things, but cooking myself 90% of the time. One of the main issues I have though is being tired. Waking up in the morning I rarely feel refreshed or well rested. I supplement b12. I drink 2 + litres of water a day. Occasionally a coffee in the morning. No fizzy drinks. Sometimes tea.

I’m looking for new ideas of what I can eat for breakfast, and also for lunch, it should be healthy and plant based. Preferably something that isn’t too complicated to make and doesn’t take a lot of time. I spend more time on making dinner! Share your favourite ones

@shahar uriel lovely thanks for sharing! probably too many cooked cruciferous vegetables - broccoli, cabbage, sprouts. or too many beans. or too many different vegetables in one meal.

I just watched the blog video. Was very insightful, and sounds like a way to eliminate almost everything and then reintroduce certain things to see what you get a reaction from. It's also a very extreme diet for one to take on and clearly is being done as a last resort. I want to try an elimination diet but I don't want to eat meat and will not support that system. What could be another type of food one could live on for X amount of time? I'm not having any stomach issues but I'm having some issues lately with back acne and skin rash (itchy blotchy skin particularly after showering. Now I use only a sulphur & salicylic acid soap, but i still get this rash sometimes so it must be food related) why does there have to be toxins everywhere ? theres just no escape!

Hehe, yes, I realise I’m not listening, then I start thinking about the fact I’m not listening, then I end up focused on that and being in a daydream