Kid A

Why give up before you’ve even given it a real shot?

I live in Oslo. I think it's a pretty great city for daygame. I did way too much spam approaching in 2021 and 2022 though, so there were a couple of girls I approached several times, unfortunately. For several reasons I've actually decided to quit nightgame and make a comeback with daygame. It simply fits me so much better. In 2023 I had one single approach during daytime and I got a date with her. That's clearly something else than my results from nighttime! I'm not gonna spam approach like I used to, but approach one or two if I'm going out in Oslo. I also want to go more to the big cities in the near abroad, like Gothenburg, Stockholm and Copenhagen. There I can approach more without being too concerned about my reputation.

Why not? If you don’t do everything in your power to maximize your chances, you can't really complain if you don’t get any results. To dress better is the easiest and most effective way to become more attractive. If I go out and my clothes aren’t 10/10, girls will be really annoyed if I approach them. It’s a totally different world to live in compared to when I’m dressed nice.

How do you explain the strong tendency for the poorest countries to score lowest in the world when people there are asked how happy they feel, and the strong tendency for the richest countries to score highest in the world when people there are asked the same?

Sweden is the fourth happiest country in the world according to UN's happiness index of 2024. Norway is in seventh place, so Sweden isn't even the unhappiest country of Scandinavia. Is it really fair to call Sweden "destroyed"?

The girls I’ve gone out with who seemed least attracted to me, have actually been the most autistic girls, most similar to myself. I have on the other hand had great suceess with some very extroverted and social girls. The two girls I’ve been most serious with have both been like this. For me it seems like girls really want someone who complements them.

Who wants communism? I hate to admit it, but I think most people would consider me pretty woke, and I'm basically as little tempted by communism as by Nazism... Like me, pretty much all woke people are democratic. The only way to introduce a system that almost nobody wants is through authoritarian totalitarianism. That's why "communism & fascism are two sides of the same shitty coin."

https://www.newsinenglish.no/2024/01/09/holidays-may-have-set-off-latest-wave-of-domestic-murders/ This was right after: https://www.newsinenglish.no/2024/01/25/new-multiple-murder-stuns-police/ I guess this is nothing compared to our neighbors Sweden and the rest of the world, but a shockingly dark start of the year for this peaceful place!

Amazing interview. I really like the point they make when they talk about Andrew Tate, that there's so little focus on why so many follow him. It's just like with all the partner murders that have been going on here in Norway lately. There's basically only discussion about the need for better violence alarms for women and almost no discussion about why so many men are unable to deal with their emotions and end up killing their partners.

The only way you can sound more stereotypically conservative here is if you also complain about them not staying off your lawn.

You're making the same mistake as Jordan Peterson. The level of development of the woke movement is at SD stage green, not blue. Take the examples of woke that you get served through news, youtube etc. with a big grain of salt. They will give you the worst and most dramatic examples and this will brainwash you into believing that woke is much, much worse than it actually is.

Yeah, this one was ridiculously obvious. She told you. Extremely creepy behaviour.

Video games are quite popular among women these days too, that’s true, but I would still think it’s way more unattractive than attractive among most women. Video games is probably the main thing that this new generation of highly unattractive men have been doing way too much in their lives. Minecraft is also a very man-dominated game, as far as I’ve understood. When you first do something pretty socially weird/unusual as to approach a girl during daytime, and then immediately start talking about video games, you will give off the vibe that you’ve been inside your house, playing video games all your life and have now lost all sense of social norms.

Even though it was hurtful, you should be thankful for this experience. I'm sorry to say, but if this was you being authentic, your interests are too unattractive and this needs to change if you want decent results. The more you realize how unattractive geeky stuff like Minecraft is, the more of a distaste you'll develop for it, and this will make you more attractive. Start developing a taste for more attractive stuff.

It probably gets most guys laid, but not that often. What he's saying is that guys who never get laid, like virgins, incels, etc. are like this mainly because they haven't been social enough in their lives.

For me it's actually trying to do anything other than being myself.

Why? It’s a very common way to get a partner here in Norway. I met my best friend there, and two other close friends of mine met their girlfriends there and they are both happy fathers now.

Yes, I have, several times. Amazing stuff! I have Asperger's and am at a very low spiritual level, so getting to know my body is way more appealing than leaving it for the time being

No, that's not what I meant. Sorry if it looked that way. I have absolutely no problem with Leo covering topics I'm not interested or don't see the value in (yet). This doesn't seem to be the case for you...

All the women who are affected by it too?

I don't find Infinity, God-Consciousness or abstraction interesting at all, so if it was up to me, it would be the opposite... Do you think it would be better for the world if guys like me instead of learning from Leo, ended up in the clutches of a guy like Andrew Tate?

I rarely see anybody make threads about this, which kind of concerns me... It seems like the big problem for most people is to actually get dates. For me this is not a problem at all. For me, the big problem is succeeding at the dates I go on. It took me around 40 dates until I finally found a girl who liked me back. Things have been going better since then, but most of my dates still fail. Flirting is usually nearly impossible, since the girl usually doesn't flirt back at all and just seems to want to have a regular logical conversation. Is this normal? One thing I find very undercommunicated is the difference between how a man should act during a cold approach vs. on an actual date. My impression is that most of pickup advise goes out the window on dates. I have for example seen infield videos by Todd V (who seems to have a pretty high standing on this forum) where he's picking up girls and videos where he's being on dates, and he acts completely different.

Makes a lot of sense! This must be the reason why all the dating advises I try to apply usually backfire, even though I try to balance them with authenticity. I also have a hard time relating to some of the struggles many guys seem to deal with, like for example being perceived as too nice by women.

I’ve been evaluated at a hospital for several months.

I usually have fun on my dates. When I go home, on the other hand, and just know that no matter how good i think it all went (with a lot of laughter, kissing etc.) she most likely doesn't want to see me again and definitely not sleep with me. That's hell. Out of all the 60-70 girls I've gone out with, I've only slept with one who I didn't sleep with on the first date. In my experience it's absolutely not worth asking for a second date if nothing sexual happens on the first.