ShardMare

@Aleister Crowleyy In my opinion you look at this in a very bad way. Take a look at people under 30 who consume spirituality and philosophy, so many depressed folks there. They cause their own depression with their thinking. There are hundreds of traps in this work. You should be openminded about the stuff i mentioned above. Theres a difference between partying here and there while consuming philosophy, self help etc. Vs going every week and drinking. This is an idea that came to my mind it might be false but i think you repressed these needs in your life.

I had a really good talk with my psychologist about this stuff. There are lots of posts, and adolescents that talk the same stuff as you. Its a paradox. You should be playful and also serious. You should consume philosophy, psychology, meditation. You should consume sex, relationship,money, materialism. You cannot sweep away your human life. You have needs. Go to that party, strike up random conversations to girls, go to gym, learn about money etc. You should not contemplate god and reality at this age. Be playful

This is an addiction i realized in myself. I always want philosophy and theorize and think. I always think ok what can i do to improve myself? While i should do these, i also shouldnt do them hard. Its stupid

But how do i know i should learn from eckhart tolle? Im 17 year old. People either say work hard thrn will be happy, and other people say there are no problems we just imagine it we are fine etc There are paradoxes everywhere But ive made the choice to be more practical do more but also dont take it tooo seriously. I should work hard.

@Batman i feel i could feel better. Theres a need to improve myself. If i have good mindset i can do whatever i want @itsnutsandbolts yes i actually take actions. I dont procrastinate

How to actually interview them? Where should i write to them casually? I dont have a linkedin profile. Or i find good subreddits where i can find succesful people?

I have this question that even tho many self-help teachers say chasing material things are bad. F.e. chasing success,money,fame, good sex, girlfriends, lots of partying and etc. U should still do it when you are young. 14-35 yrs. You should definetly realise it yourself that is "bad" later on. You have to go trough levels u kno. And if u dont do this, this will happen with nilsi i think that he just need some girls u kno He repressed those ambitions to get girls. And now he questions life, whats the point of it all? You are just deceiving yourself. Life doesnt have no meaning but that doesnt mean its bad. What do you think?

whats the mindset

What are your goals? Any new things you will try?

I have this problem for quite sometime now. Im either apathetic or serious. I've worked through my depression, fixed my trash thinking but still dont laugh very often. Socializing contains fun, humour. Imo u have to have deep friendships but also u have to learn how to small talk and have fun with normal people u know what i mean. How should i think when im out in the school or like at my friends or at a party? If i look at MBTI maybe my personality is close to INTP and ISTJ. But i push myself and also like doing new things sometimes Im going to learn about humour and how to stop being serious soon

Im 17. I dont have the motivation to go to university. Im just kinda fine at home. I like to improve myself. I would like trying few jobs or idk. I dont have lot of points to go to a good uni. Im not depressed. My mom says study because if i dont i cant go to gym. But i cant see the consequence of not studying, im kinda apathetic about what she says. I did a good exam that can get me into good unis this year but other then that i was just going with the flow. Im making a mistake here. In the past few months i made a lot of progress in my self improvement but i did not cared about studying

I messed up my writing My mom says go study because if i dont i cant go to university. But i dont really care about going to uni. I dont know why i wrote gym... Btw heres what ive wrote in my journal: Why should i study? • Because why not? Its just a little bit pain, its just an emotion. U build discipline with it • Although u dont care about it it doesnt mean u shouldnt do it. • Its takes just few years, its not a lot • If u go to uni maybe you will go through it kinda lazy or whatever but still u get new experiences • You shouldnt worry because u can skip few years then go to uni @RobertZ yes i know but still dont have motivation to go study. Im improving myself in areas that will make me happy. Diet, fitness, psychology, socializing, meditation and other goals etc. But im making the mistake that i dont do the stuff that not makes me happy(im thinking about school lets say) @Yarco i should just think about something that will be worth in the future. Pick something thats worth it. Thank you, thats really important. When i was surfing through the degrees there was few that excited me, but how many are actually worth pursuing it? What do i want? I want a job that is not stressful. Lets take example something thats have to do with computers. Building computers or programming. I thought to myself i like to think, solve problems. But i realized its stressful, and even if it pays well,etc. it doesnt worth it for me. Because i would dread going to work everyday @Husseinisdoingfine not a job related

@JonasVE12 ok. If i do yoga, embodiment exercises will that do the job? I dont understand repressed emotions. How do u even notice it in your body? @StarStruck how do i find it? Step to step? @Benton im going to do it now. Im serious because if i feel emotional i also feel some anxiety and maybe im insecure about myself. I dont feel comfortable laughing sometimes

Im in 11th grade and i was on a classtrip few days ago. Everyday my classmates talked about what mix with what, what to drink for the day. Also they smoked all day for 3 days straight. They give their e-cigaretts and try it. Everyone smoked and drinked but my friends and me. I was thinking about why people do it, try to be openminded to question it. I had this thought that u shouldnt base ur friendship on drugs, or on alcohol. U dont need drugs to be able to socialize.u need to develop to behave differently when socializing. U know u shouldnt be that serious but i should be "stupid", playful and just speak. Ive never tried alcohol because why so? According to many sources it has many cons.

Lots of people here share the same stuff. Few ideas: Reduce your screentime Go to gym 4times a week. Do heavylifting or run a lot Quit social media, porn Go to nature a lot, please Emotional vipassana, just notice ur body more. Develop small goals, try lots of new things(it doesnt matter what, just try them) Go out in the sun And yeah its very important go out socializing. It doesnt matter what again. This is the most important imo. It doesnt matter u dont go to party, although thats very good. But then go outside just walk, clubs, sport groups, cbt group or any kinda psycjology group. Do volunteering. I think most of us messed up how ur brain works by the internet. Also. Feel your numbness. Everyday make sure u track ur feelings 3times!!!please

I know this might be a reply that u dont want to hear and maybe doesnt help but theres problem with your thinking. Try to work harder at habits you are already doing. Dont say oh i tried this and that. No still continue it for few months. Dont overthink. Dont play the victim. Maybe it have done bad stuff on ur psyche but learn to let go. It happened, forgive it. Just do small things. And notice how you are feeling, what thoughts you have. Your mind is always there to deceive you. One bad thought come up and you just continue it, start complaining Im sorry all these things happened, let go

@Husseinisdoingfine then start developing skills. Or think how you can use ur language skills. What is the big problem with wage slavery? You work for 8hrs a day or idk. Its giving you discipline, u develop work ethic. Look at ur first jobs as them improving you. You can always escape wage slavery when u develop skills, just start learning about business Change ur thinking in the 9-5job. Its not that bad as people think. U just making ur depression worse Go start going out, only your thoughts holding you back. People will look at you weirdly maybe and few will laugh but it doesnt matter. Just because u feel bad it doesnt mean there is a bad thing happening. Its just a feeling Dont look at other peoples lives that oh that friend already got a kid. Who cares? Is it a bad thing that u dont? Just focus on your life.

For real? Dont look at people who live in africa and cant eat, people who have serious diseases, homeless people etc. People who already have a hard time enjoying life Look at it through average persons In % how would you rate it? I think 70% dont enjoy living 30%do but maybe im false

@Sine i think if people would try psychedelics or do lucid dreaming or any kind of stuff that is new to them. Or something that just gets them memories of the past or help them become feel like a kid again would help. Or just become a monk or live in a hippie community for few years would be interesting for them

@Vision i dont think its bad. Everybody lives as their development. It takes time for everybody to move "forward".

@Kksd74628 yeah that idea too is benefical an simple and true. But when i realize this idea, why do i continue falling back to the same thinking pattern? Why do i deceive myself again that i need more and etc.? @LastThursday exactly. Just simply trying out the things continously one after another @JonasVE12 right @zurew thank this all i needed really practical

Take any book, or a philosophy video, 1 leo video or any idea. I cant remember ideas that i've already learnt. I wake up but how do i remember f.e. - do something new - your mind is deceiving yourself everyday - etc. There are thousands of ideas that could make me feel better, be more conscious. I feel as there is nothing to do. Why do that, also why do that other thing? I eat healthy, go to gym, meditate, journal, have good sleep, take my medications,vitamins, plenty of water, dont have bad thinking I still feel something is missing. <- but writing this down my mind thought well whats the problem? Everything is good on its own. Sure you can improve ur life here and there but everything is fine I think i should tackle big things like internet addiction. Also do bunch of little things that would make me feel better and somehow hope something changes the way i see the world and how i feel

@Kksd74628 i dont understand why? It wont give me satisfaction or what u mean?

U can write down anything that comes to mind. What helps u to be more happy, to improve, to achieve ur goals? What is ur daily routine like?

There are thousands of traps they can fall into. But the one is that they think badly. If u create awareness in them, u teach them meditation few months and they realize oh thats whats making me depressed! Why do i keep telling myself these things? F.e. If u have awareness with time u ll find the cause whats making you depressed.