Kshantivadin

How do people know you're legit, how do you even become legit enough to be able to help other people, what are the skills required if you don't need to go through a course? I'll be having a psychology degree in 2.5 years so it's a relevant degree. But is it enough qualification to be acknowledged formally, and then you can just work on your own the skills needed to be a life coach? thank you

Bro, you've got a lot to learn with women. Read The Way of the Superior Man. I can't give you concrete advice though. I'm not that experienced myself either. But your post seems overly rational.

I just don't see the reason. Why should I cultivate love in the situations where someone caused me great harm ( I am aware it's because of ignorance, but still, why love instead of non-hatred and just not harming them back). Why love all facets of life? I love myself (ego self) way too much to want the harmful situations to be happening in my life, so why love them? It all boils down to want, and I don't want them. I truly don't want any of these things to be happening, so why approach them with love? What's the "benefit" of loving everything? Thanks for solving my dilemma.

@Serotoninluv thank you for the lovely reply <3 @SOUL great insight. thank you.

I see now. It's hard. Would I truly suffer less if I were to accept everything? I could still cling to samsara and, while being aware of all the spiritual teachings, try to make the "best" life with the most of the "good things" and the least of the "bad things" and suffer less than if I were to go head on into loving everything without yet being enlightened? Surrendering reality itself could mean radically different life circumstances (for the worse) while I'm still unable to fully love which would create more suffering - because of the choices I make while being in a higher state of consciousness, mystical experience, divine love that's not yet "permanent". my dilemma is solved though, thank you leo. enjoy taking a break!