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@Rigel If I may add in a bit to your great advice, that I prefer to taste the waters as well at first and every now and then. What do I mean by that? Well, consider the first example you gave about learning a new language. I think it's wise to focus on one topic at a time, yet I would take a look every now and then at the whole project, how it is going, how big it is, what are the main keys (highlights/headlines) to it, how other people are handling it, where I am best and where I have to work more, and so on... The point is to get a clearer picture of what I am going after, and to make my actions optimal for achieving the best results possible in the shortest period of time, and to get myself motivated towards the end of the project as well. Another example is when I'm reading a book, the obvious thing is to read it chapter by chapter. The counter-intuitive move is to always check with the index. Another example is when you're studying a chapter and you need to memorise it, you don't try to memorise it first, but rather you take a wider look and read the whole chapter to get in touch with the points being made, and then after you've finished you can start memorising stuff.

Absolutely. I mentioned earlier that I'm merely interested in sex right now. No, she was/still is attached to me for some reason, but never a stalker. This is good to know. Thanks!

The funny thing is that before you knew that you don't control your thoughts, you actually thought that it was possible to take full responsibility for your life. You thought that you had a free will, and you actually used to have it, no? It's amazing how tricky thoughts are! Until you break that thought of no free will, you will stay be thinking that you have no free will. Break it, and you will have a free will again. For that to happen, you need a paradigm shift, you need to move your thinking outside the bubble of spirituality.

Not a single response from the opposite sex. It must mean something bad ?

Congrats! You did the right thing for the both of you. You will look back after one month and be thankful for this decision. Sure. And sure the pain won't last. Let it all out in a journal, or here. We all support you.

By engaging in life and facing more challenges.

@assx95 No.

Of course, and thanks. It's interesting to me that I was stupid enough to not be able to think of that move. It didn't even cross my mind. Guess I'm still warming up ? Me too. That would be problematic for me at the moment.

Answer it for yourself and you will become enlightened. Try the question: what is deception?

@Gili Trawangan You, sir, are the best! Thank you!

Dude, you're very young, it's okay to have a strong sexual desire at your age. I would say go with it fully and don't hold back, discover your sexuality, whatever that means to you.

I told you, I don't necessarily want to get laid, but I also don't want to miss that opportunity. Instead of just criticising me, how about offering some practical advice?

My intuition tells me that she wants me, but that she's afraid probably due to her traumatic past with her husband. And although she seems to want me, she doesn't give much room for me to make my moves, but still she never rejected anything I did. So, maybe she needs more time to adjust? Maybe she's a bit shy?

I don't mind her completely out of my life and I don't mind being friends with her if that's what she wants, but I received mixed signals from her and I thought why not have sex if available without much work or trouble? I mean seriously, why the night before Valentine's day? It would be an extremely rare coincidence if it's so. I mentioned so much details because I wanted you to get a clearer picture, not because I'm overthinking it. I could easily just go on with my life. Then why contact me again multiple times? I completely stopped talking to her, and basically to most people at that time. If she moved on, she'd have just let it go not call and then come to see me at work and telling me that she missed me. I didn't mention that I used to stare deep into her eyes, I'm not sure why, she's beautiful, and she would laugh and then blush, but now I tried to avoid that strong eye contact, I also am not sure why. How so? What would you do? And for God's sake, is two hours so much wasted time? The whole thing was two and a half hours. Not true, but please ignore this, and help me get laid ?

@Serotoninluv Thanks for taking the time to respond. I like the movie analogy. I noticed that the transition between stages happen while the structure of the identity remains untouched. It is still there as a structure, but only the content has changed. That's what I'm asking about. Do you think that at tier two the whole structure of identity dissolves instead of being replaced with another structure/content?

You're right, and I'm sorry. But I'm not poo-pooing anything. I shouldn't have jumped to the end and given the ultimate answer just yet. Other people need contemplation as well, I shouldn't ruin it for them.

@Leo Gura I appreciate and understand the importance of the relative, and I am actively working on transcending my survival. Come on Leo! Don't treat me like that.

Yes. It's unexplainable, just as much as love is. We can have our theories about relating desire to survival, but they aren't enough to explain the unexplainable. In the end of the day, it just is what it is. (P.S. I'm not a newbie).

So, if mind and nowhere are identical, and nowhere and everywhere are identical as well. So...? I guess all are labels for the same thing?

So where is where? Where is the place happening at all?

I can come up with many theories, but ultimately it's unexplainable. And desire is indescribable. Just like God. Perhaps desire is God?

This is so fancy! I like it, it kinda made me motivated already.

@assx95 I overheard that certain kinds of Yoga can be helpful. Also Shamanic Breathing is amazing and works well for me. Side question: how long have you been addicted?

@Anton Rogachevski The way I see it is that there isn't actually a mind but rather a made-up concept of being a mind. That being said, I think we're free to play with that concept however we like. For a communicator like Leo, body language is required, and most people identify thinking or "the mind" with the head or brain. So, I believe this is a practical gesture more than a metaphysical truth, even more of a habit I would say.

@assx95 I see. This view can be really relieving, right? I just felt some tranquillity from understanding that it could be fine to be addicted, that I don't need to demonise addiction all the time. However, do you think it's a good idea to be addicted on the long run? I mean sure it can feel good in the moment sometimes, but could it possibly be hurting us on the long-term? A bad posture example comes to mind.