Byun Sean

Thats your mistake. You need to make it explicit to her asap that you view her sexually if you like her. Like ask her out or something. if you act not too interested deliberately and just try to run the whole thing through your head she puts you in the friendzone box and moves on. Men can get attracted to a woman without knowing whether she is interested back or not. But women need to know if your interested in order to know to invest more feelings into you.

Bro of course you don't tell people deep metaphysical insights straight up when they are in pain. When they are in pain they need help dealing with the pain first. They don't need to know they manifested it or anything. Those kind of insights can potentially help them after we help them with their pain. Your thinking is a very black and white sort of interpretations of certain spiritual teachings. OF course when someones raping you or robbing you. Don't just stand there. BEAT the living shit out of them until your safe.

EVOL backwards

a problem a lot of people have. They can't distinguish direct consciousness vs belief because their own minds are mish mashed so much with what is their body, mind, self, beliefs etc. This is why spiritual practices meditation is much needed nowadays. As you can see without the proper awareness this dude comes off as a complete nutbag trying to evaluate Tolle.

why dont you test it out? Which one works better for you. Commitment or something else.

Doesn't it depend on finances more than biological age?

alright buddy. Maybe one day you'll get it. This work really isn't about me or Leo or any one particular person. The way you realize what reality is and how you get to the highest potential as a human being is by becoming as conscious as possible. Leo isn't the only one who teaches this stuff. You think hundreds of thousands of religious and spiritual traditions from around the world and cultures and history is just some messed up thought patterns? lol gimme a break. You just haven't done your research.

Go out and socialize. Notice your tendency to be stuck in your head and be grounded in your body and emotions more instead. meditation and spiritual work also helps but ideally you wanna do both.

bro who gives a flux capacitor if he did it consciously or unconsciously. We can never technically prove that for sure can we. All that matters to you is that its a resource. You get to decide whether what is said here is true or not. You get to decide if you self actualize or not. Leo is just an avatar. Leo is a distraction.

Bro think about how absurd it is. What does Leo have to gain out of making this stuff into a cult. like 99 percent of his content and teachings are given out for free. Access to the forum is free. He's definitely not doing it for the money. Even if he was a cult leader what the hell would he have to gain from you by posting some youtube videos. Anyways. You yourself when you are debating with people and yourself about whether the teachings are legit or not is not helpful to you. You see what your doing. Your trying to get yourself to believe one way or the other. But Leo gives you a method to go beyond belief. He constantly says "don't believe anything I say. Verify for yourself what I say is true for you." But the method he gives to do so transcends belief. Most people have no idea how to know anything without believing one way or the other. And of course your'e very attached to your precious beliefs in order to feel safe and secure in the world.

@Raptorsin7 To be honest man I took the same approach. If you walk the spiritual path long enough the need to have a long term partner fades and it just doesn't seem important anymore because your so fulfilled from within. You can still have a partner if you want after that for fun if you want but you realize the one and only thing that always mattered in life most was basically just how much consciousness do you have. Anyways the entire purpose of relationships in a personal development context (other than the experience itself) is to raise your consciousness. So basically with or without a partner your looking for more consciousness. Just go wherever the spiritual gains lead you and you'll see finding a perfect person won't matter anymore because life for you will already be perfect.

@Uchral thats because when you teach advanced spiritual teachings you are bound to come off as crazy to people operating at a lower level of awareness. Spiritual work is not about adopting another belief system like a cult but rather raising your awareness so much that you transcend beliefs entirely. Raise your awareness sufficiently through practices like meditation, kriya yoga, self inquiry etc and you'll see what is being said.

bro when will the sex wars end

well if your upset by other spiritual egos 'out there' your just projecting your secret hatred for your own spiritual ego within yourself.

@somegirl Lets look at why you aren't ready for marriage. What does marriage represent: Lifelong commitment. So you aren't ready to commit. Why not? Well I would assume you are unhappy for one or more reasons with your relationship. The reasons you listed in your post are a good start to shed some light here. The goal here is to find what you are unsatisfied with in your current situation so you can see more clearly the right approach to resolving them: -Unhappy with sex life-----> reason: fears of STD's and pregnancy. -------> ask yourself: What is your ideal sex life look like? Why can't you have that now? Whats blocking you from that? -age gap--------> reason: ???Judgement from his mother--------> ask yourself why you want someone your age rather than someone older? How do you expect that person who's around your age to make your situation different for you than the one you are currently in? My advice to you is to pinpoint the precise set of reasons that you are unhappy with your current situation. You are not selfish for wanting to make yourself happy. Everyone deserves happiness. You may be able to solve them and move forward in your relationship or you may not. Ex. Lets say you are unsatisfied with your sex life because you can't be comfortable and enjoy sex but you have fears around stds and preganancy instead. Ok well then ask the question: What would my ideal sex life be like? Do I even want to have sex? Lets say I want to have sex but be comfortable and free. How can I make myself more comfortable and free during sex? What practices would allow me to work toward that new space of inner freedom and what external environment would support me in that end goal? See so the goal here is simple. 1. Figure out what you want. 2. Find the blocks to it. --------->(Why can't you have that right now?) 3. Think up strategies on how your going to resolve those blocks to what you want. (It's 100 percent ok if the answer is to break up. It may even be the best call depending upon the circumstance.)

@Spiral Wizard Because see if you only pursue truth when it feels good and makes you happy, you'll never really want the full Truth which is what awakening is. The full Truth kills you literally. States of consciousness don't exist for you until they come into your experience. Until then you are just imagining what it will be like when you hit the next level. If you pursue states of consciousness for the purpose of feeling good exclusively and that is your only reason you will be very disappointed. States of consciousness are just lenses for how much of the Truth are you seeing at any given moment through your direct awareness. Life was always the same as it always has been. Spirituality is just changing your own lens enough to see life the way it actually is more and more. Pursuing the truth is such a counterintuitive thing to do because everyone thinks they already know the Truth (Their own dogma/ worldview). And then all those people usually end up defending their worldview until they die rather than ever questioning it too deeply. Also don't conflate absolute Truth with relative truth. Relative truths can still be very useful like studying spiral dynamics or other scientific models. Studying sexuality, business Etc. You can meditate in a cave for 40 years and return and be super enlightened lets say. But then you won't know how to operate or understand anything in the world at all. Since your not infinitely conscious as you experience life as a human it is still very useful and in your best interest to pursue relative truth in addition to absolute Truth.

The question your basically asking is what is the measure of a guy's value in the eyes of a woman in the context of a long term relationship. Here's a list: -emotional availability and emotional maturity -masculine vibe (she feels safe and protected around you physically and emotionally) -humor -inner strength as a general quality. Confidence is one way a man demonstrates inner strength. -social status status -money -looks The key thing you are going to be able to improve tenfold in a personal development context is your inner strength, emotional availability, and masculine vibe. (Anything that has to do with improving your personality). Looks, money, and status can help too but generally your looks hit a limit at somepoint due to genetics and money and status takes time and effort to acquire. Thus the easiest way to improve your odds is improving your personality. Now if you play video games and are on the computer all day, your number one problem will be actually getting out there and finding ways to meet and socialize with a lot of people. You'd be surprised if you just socialize on a regular basis it's surprisingly easy to meet quality people fast.

well your wrong

True if you never speak with her or hear her speak then yeah only looks will matter in that decision. But there is still a lot a girl can do with her femininity to make you wet as a guy. I've had instances where I see a girl and I'm like "eh she's kind of cute but whatever." But then I talk to her and I get really attracted because of her feminine vibe. Don't underestimate the feminine vibe if your a girl and the masculine one especially if your a guy. You can work magic as far as attraction goes with it. It's like what all of us are subconsciously gauging that make us realize who has the strongest spirit.

It's not all looks for men. There is plenty a woman can do. Your just looking at the surface. More developed men won't settle for a woman purely based on looks. The woman will have to be conscious to an extent and have value in other areas of her life if she wants a shot at attracting a top quality man.

This is a mad projection. Money is useful for our survival and it helps bring us comfort and convenience but it also hits a limitation at survival. The only way to be completely fulfilled = more awakening. You'll see. Once your awake enough you'll laugh at your dream of being a billionaire as if it was a children's game.

Your imagining what its like to fully awaken but see thats the mistake. Your imagination is not the real thing but the opposite. You've just spun a belief in your mind. But awakening is beyond language and mind. You still have no fucking idea what a rude awakening your in for. You forget its not like awakening is like a spice that you just add more of that makes life sweeter. Awakening radically recontextualizes all of life and reality for you because you are becoming directly aware of the true nature of reality on deeper and deeper levels. Even if you've studied thousands of enlightened masters. You walk that spiritual path and you will be still be mind fucked over and over and over again. So far for me awakening actually does the opposite of what you said. Now even something as mundane as washing the dishes is an exhilarating and amazing experience because you see the beauty of God radiating everywhere you go. At this point you realize that since your totally happy and fulfilled that you naturally want to give all your time and energy selflessly to others who need it.

guys have different preferences so she could be very attractive to someone else. On top of that physical health matters more than personality for attracting a guy simply because of reproductive value. Dating is survival. it's a negotiation of value between people that is very conditional. Thats the way it is and always has been. Your just going to have to accept the fact that no matter how good your personality may get or looks may get, there are some women who you will just never be able to date simply because your not their type or whatever and vice versa. And it's better for you that way. If all guys had the exact same taste in women the species would be extinct in no time because all the men would be after the "top" attractive females all the time. But it's not like that because attraction is way more deep and complex than that. No one has to give you access to their genitals if they meet a certain criteria in your head and neither do you have to. This is a made up set of rules spun by your ego.

Not all perspectives are equal. Its great to be openminded but also you need not waste time on perspectives that are clearly dogmatic and foolish.

yeah this happened to me lol. enlightenment by 19 but couldn't operate well in simple social situations lmfao In the end I had to round myself out by working at a job and interacting with a lot of people. It's easy to forget that spirituality is liberation of the mind but also of the heart.