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@Matt23 heck yeah

@Thought Art I'm more of a finger snapping kind of guy

@RendHeaven Yeah but I'm not talking about a guy who's going about his day, sees a pretty girl and confidently decides to approach her. That's fine. Nothing wrong with that. I'm talking about a guy who chooses to go to a specific place at a specific time of the day with the sole intention of waiting for a pretty girl to walk by so he can approach her. I don't think the thought of doing that would ever cross the mind of someone who already has abundance, he probably has better things to do .

@Leo Gura Are you then denying that day-game is inherently a needy activity? After all, a guy who already has social abundance wouldn't need to go around approaching random women going about their day. How is this reasoning wrong? You care to explain?

@Preety_India Yeah, It's sad, but we live in the selfie-age

@Preety_India I guess a part of me thinks they're just attention whores playing the self-worship social media game. Trying to get attention by doing a silly thing that takes almost no effort at all. I know it's just kids having fun but the grumpy old man in me says otherwise hehehe

@Preety_India I think you're probably just a black sheep amongst a shit-ton of white sheep hehe Indeed, the kind-hearted, wisdom-seeking people are few and far between. It's probably a good idea not to have an unhealthy expectation that these people are somehow gonna be easy to come across in life. We live in a selfish and shallow society, so most people are gonna be in accordance to those values. It's not their fault, it's just ignorance, and also everybody is on their own personal journey and we should respect that, so there's no point in being resentful towards them either. You need to decide how you wish to relate to the "majority" of people, the "masses" people. What you wish to get out of them (if anything at all). And about feeling bad about yourself for not having as much money... Is having money something to want? Just how much ambition do you have in that sense? Maybe you're more family oriented and want something more along the lines of being a stay-in-home mom? You have to define what success (or a "good life") means to you and take action towards that, whether that means raising a family, getting a job, playing an instrument, etc. And also ask yourself, how realistic are you being? How much effort and sacrifice are you willing to put for the things you want? You could feel self-pity about the place you started in life, but that doesn't really help or change anything. Given the chance everyone would choose to be born in a wealthy, wise and loving family.

Hey Preety. Why do you hang around people like that at all? Are you comfortable being alone? Do you develop relationships with people that can appreciate how you naturally are? Also what kind of people are you comparing yourself with? Do you admire those people? And why a loser? In what areas of your life do you feel you're not winning?, And are you in control of winning or losing in those things? Just some questions...

@Pseudom Hey, thanks for your answer! got some decent ideas out of it

23 year old male here. So I kinda went trough a bit of a crisis a couple of years ago. I became really depressed, I stopped talking to everybody I knew, deleted all social media and isolated myself completely. Fortunately I'm doing better now, renting my own apartment, paying my bills on time, and sharing my days with a beautiful kitty cat But I also have become a big time loner. I pretty much have no social connections other than some family members, no girlfriend (surprise!!), and I also work from home which doesn't help either. I was wondering if any of you have been in a similar position, if you've managed to outgrow it, and maybe what steps you took in order to do it. Any advice is welcome, thank you!

Focus on having a great social life before trying to have a great romantic/sexual life.

Well, I think the point of bars, nightclubs and such places is that people there are naturally more open to meeting new people, rather than some random guy approaching you in the middle of the street trying to insert himself into your life when you're just trying to go about your day. So I'd suggest going to one of these places instead, especially with a group of friends. If that's not an option for you then I think you just need to accept that street game is fundamentally a numbers game. If you want to see results you'll have to approach literally hundreds and hundreds of girls. But honestly I'd rather reinvest all that time and energy into yourself. The best dating strategy in my opinion is becoming as successful as you possibly can in every aspect of your life, financially, intellectually, socially, etc. Life tends to be counterintuitive like that. Like Sadhguru says: if you want mango you don't think mango!, you first think soil, sun, water, etc.

Are you practicing with random girls on the street or are you going to bars, nightclubs etc?

Assumptions, assumptions, assumptions! It's all I see here How come we're so unwilling to question them? Instead we just take sides, as if we were perfect all-knowing beings...

I started asking myself this after watching Leo's conspiracies video the other day. I see it everyday. Those who are against Trump (besides their reasons) seem to be a 100% percent sure of it. Those who support him seem to be a 100% sure of it. Those who suspect the world might be run by lizard people seem to be a 100% sure of it. Those who think that's ridiculous, impossible, or just plain-stupid seem to be a 100% sure of it. Those to believe cv19 is a hoax seem to be a 100% sure of it. Those who think otherwise seem to be a 100% sure of it. Those who think exploring conspiracies is just a distraction and a waste of time seem to be 100% sure of it. Those who think it has importance and value seem to be 100% sure of it. And I just want to ask the simple question: Where is all this certainty coming from? How are people (even some I respect and consider otherwise smart) so sure of themselves? So nobody has doubts anymore? Nobody considers that what they believe might be wrong anymore? I mean, I myself lean towards the whole Qanon stuff (As misinterpreted as it has been. And I know I'm gonna get attacked for this lol ), but I would never claim to be 100% certain of it. I'm pretty well aware it could all be BS in the end, and I'm ok with that. I'm just trying to ponder of how people seem to be so sure of themselves these days around these topics. I mean how can we even pretend be certain about things like these? What even IS certainty itself? And why does nobody seem to care about it? Thank you.

Well, you see, it's all about the assumptions that people make and them taking a defensive position about things they cannot really verify.

Care to elaborate?

Not in my experience, sadly. Not even around this community.

I know this is gonna come out quite egotistical, but hear me out for a minute. I am a 21 year old man, a working web developer (programmer), just about to graduate from college. I speak two languages, (Spanish and English), I play music; Piano, drums, I sing, produce and compose music. I stay fit doing calisthenics and try to read habitually to learn about the world and about other people, and to sophisticate my use of language and therefore, my thinking process. I of course care about self-development and 'spirituality', and while I'm not by any means enlightened, I have had a couple psychedelic experiences and I do wonder what the fundamental nature of this thing we call reality is, just about every other hour. So those are some things I can say about my persona, but man... When it comes to interacting with other people, and especially when trying to escalate and dig in deeper to get to know their core beliefs about life, I just find my myself so incredibly disappointed. I just can't seem to come across anybody I find fascinating or the least bit interesting. I mean, people don't really appreciate art and beauty, they don't really develop (or at least not consciously), they don't question themselves or wonder about reality, They mostly just seem like mindless robots of capitalism and pop culture. And It's not that I can't cope with people, I'm fine with that, I can blend in fine and play their social game. It's just that I can't never really seem to touch in conversation the subjects that really matter to me. And whenever I try to even hint at these subjects people just don't know how to react, they either ignore completely the fact that the subject was mentioned, they don't ignore it but have nothing to say about it, or they simply just don't get it at all. And they just go back to talking about their boring crap. And I know what you're thinking: Man... don't you think you're being a bit pessimistic? I mean, you're probably just not looking in the right places, interacting with the right people, or simply just haven't looked enough, or deep enough. Things to which I would absolutely agree, which is where the 'actual' conflict of this whole thing comes in: I live in a small, highly indoctrinated and deeply catholic city in a third world country in Latin America. We don't have anything like cultural variety here. People here are just the way they are, behave the way they do, and if anybody doesn't (which is rare), it's not because of any variety, but because they are an exception to a very well established norm. I'm not trying to play victim here. I know the obvious right choice is to just carry on, stop being a whinny bitch and keep grinding, keep working for the things I want (whatever that means) until I get them. I guess I was just hoping some of you could shed some light on my story. Thank you.