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The breathing and relaxation you mentioned are really important, especially relaxation of the front of your body where the sexual energy moves. You can also strengthen the floor of your pelvis by upward contraction to give you the muscular capability to prevent you to cum out your genitals. David Deida is a master of this field. I would recommend reading his books. His aim is to teach you shoot your orgasm up into your brain and even further. Then there are also those practical options you're most likely aware of already, such as using a condom or trying to go more than once. You can also learn to give her amazing orgasms with your tongue and fingers.

Love in action! It's so beautiful. Keep spreading Love my friend. It's gonna move mountains.

Is it the feeling of responsibility of your creation as God that makes you still be active and willing to have change?

I don't mean vision for growing up the spiral in itself, but vision for something else than the default position, vision that leads you to make the right actions to grow. Christian doesn't leave his religion to live a sinful materialist life without a strive towards something, nor does a business CEO to become a hippie. In most cases the motivation could be suffering, but growing far beyond the level of your society doesn't happen with only negative motivation.

Suffering motivates people to grow, but for some people it seems like no matter how much suffering they have they still stay close-minded and reluctant to question their beliefs and paradigms, so they end up living in their small comfortable bubble for the rest of their lives. Moving beyond the center of gravity of your society and culture requires you to have vision and to do serious independent thinking and questioning, which tends to be extremely rare.

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It's good to remind yourself of the fact that you're able to walk in the streets without instantly getting robbed, raped or murdered. To be able to do that doesn't come for free. Hell, you have freedom to start a business just like that without worrying where to get the protection money for the local mob so they don't come and kill you. Man I know the feeling, but life is tough and it'll always be. You need to become strong and start fucking life instead of letting life fuck you. After that you can see all the beauty mother earth has stored for you.

This guy has -- actually has always had since he was a kid -- a very unique "condition". He is super aware and conscious all the time and he can even be aware at night while sleeping. He very well descripes the void and stillness he experiences on this interview.

@Valwyndir I bet you also have personality in the way you pursue your life purpose or how you fulfill your mission ? Let's hypothetically say you were a known energetic extroverted person who's strengths were best utilized by being pragmatic working actively with others as a popular face among main pop and pushing your raw insights to people as hard as possible. Would you be fine turning into a super careful introverted loner who mainly worked alone by himself and really carefully tried to teach even a fraction of his insights and wisdom with a really slow pase and long time horizon?

Having a daily consistent practice routine is the most effective way to learn almost any skill.

Imagine having a nightmare and there wondering if you'd regret waking up.

I think Leo doesn't go mainstream not only because he has a sense of the problems arising from that but also simply because it's not his style. He has his unique style to do what he does, and even all the deep awakenings he's probably had, his personality still plays a big role in his work and vision I think.

Work I do includes lots of co-operation with business oriented SD Stage Orange people, so I come here trying to get contrast. As my passion is to develop and experience life as holistically as I can I use this forum as a source. I come here to get different perspectives on different things from more or less like minded people and also try to share my own. Another reason is the respect for Leo and his teachings. Avoided this forum for a long time before signing up. I also consistently tend to fall for the trap of seeking attention and feeding the ego by arguing and trying to look smart beyond the agenda of sharing perspectives and advice. Sometimes I notice distracting myself with this forum. I'm working on getting rid of that shit.

See your vision with long enough time horizon and try to come up with some smaller more tangible goals that play part in that.

In my social circles that's obvious. Those girls are taken as nuts, as everybody can see through that. Only socially retarded or totally inexperienced guys fall for that shit. I have really good looking female friends sexually open and closed and even those who are active and really open and honest about it tend to be selective sometimes in a way that makes me scratch my head. Maybe there is something under the surface that I'm overlooking or blind to or maybe I simply don't understand their taste lol.

In some places online dating is almost a cultural obligation, which brings lots of women doing it, including SD Stage Blue kind of women who could as an example feel the social pressure to get into relationship, in which case looks are not everything. Don't you think there is also social strategizing that supersedes biological strategizing among some women doing online dating? Maybe you need to have lots of masculine traits in you as a women to be able to do so?

My advice to you is to slow down with the enlightenment process and focus on becoming independent and building a solid financial foundation. It's great you've experienced with psychedelics and that you are interested in spirituality, but there are also real requirements that need to be met if you want to function in society healthy and free way. Enlightenment doesn't pay your bills. You can -- and you should -- still keep doing your consciousness work, but try to see your life as a project and strategically make your personal development a part of your mundane life. Make it work as a snowball effect while you build your independence capital. I know it's easier said than done but metaviewing your situation I feel that would be a key to your life. I'm talking from my own perspective. I made my way to a versatile good salary job with creative capital while doing consciousness work, and now I can grow with good balance, without worrying financial stuff. Enlightenment and psychedelics are not going anywhere. No need to rush the process.

You are not a weird one, no one here is, we only have different perspectives. As an answer coming from deep down, I say no, I wouldn't choose a constant high state life over a slightly painful one, even though my ego would love it. I know you won't understand that and that's okay. I wouldn't be able to explain it to you. Sounds crazy, doesn't it? But that's exactly the level of difference in perspectives we are dealing with here. If your body reacts to it, does it mean that you react to it? Are you serious? Where did you come to the conclusion that he did it to show off? You are clearly being self-biased there. That story is from The Book of Not Knowing and you really think that he talks about a surgical operation he just wanted to grind through in a book titled like that? You think there was nothing deeper to that, something like doing self experimentation on himself? Naah man maybe I'm just a naive hippie thinking so, maybe it was just to show off how bad ass he is. He should've taken anesthesia, what a fool... Maybe the book is just about him telling about his day to day life. Ralston would definitely make a good blogger.

It's no bad thing to becoming emotionally attached, as long as you have a safe haven to get back to if thing go south. So in other words working on yourself and having a life purpose or something that grounds you and something you build things -- such as relationships -- upon is crucial. That way the relationship will also be healthier and both of you be happier.

@Gesundheit I'm sorry about your grandma, that really sounds horrible. I hope you don't get offended by me referring to that, but I think that the shit your grandma went through and the emotional pain that you and her loved ones suffered affect your judgment so that you can't be open-minded enough to consider the possibility of pain to be something else that it was for you and your loved ones. Can you be open-minded to agree that this self-bias could be the case? I'm not to say that I know any better, I might be totally deluded and it could really be the case that pain is pain that's it. But In my life pain, sorrow and unhappiness has changed it's meaning and function so radically that few years back I wouldn't have believed is even possible. It wouldn't have made sense back then. As an example I now have a weird unknown skin condition which I've been fighting against for over 6 months now trying so many different methods and different medical specialists with no results. It causes me physical and mental pain every day and makes my life harder. I had the same condition 6 years ago for about 9 months and back then it made me really depressed and I kept blaming life and everything, I screamed and cried and I was really desperate. Today I suffer from same symptoms but I can say that I'm really happy and enjoying life anyway and the pain is really different than it was back then, even though I can say with pretty good accuracy that the nature and amount of the pain is exactly the same. Of course, if the pain became let's say 10 times more painful, I would most likely not handle it, but my point is to tell you that I myself -- because of other people's examples and my own experience -- believe that it is possible to transcend even physical pain, but is so rare that it seems impossible. I remember reading from some of Peter Ralston's books how he realized pain to be just a feeling. Well, I don't blindly believe him, but that coming from a mouth of ''enlightened master'' again makes me open-minded to possibilities.

Why business per se?

Body awareness is crucial. Bringing awareness to your breathing and keeping the front of your body loose and relaxed is better than any drug.

It's funny you call other people's advises naive, when all you have to give to this topic is your notions of dangers of hippies philosophizing, which is a solid point with truth in it, but irrelevant to the question asked. You can't give anyone a practical step by step guide on how to embody infinite love or how to be happy per se. The best you can do is point one to right direction, which is raising one's consciousness, which is what all those ''naive and philosophical'' advises are for.

You sound like you think philosophizing is a bad thing. If you do real philosophy you know the difference between philosophy and practice well enough. You know how to use philosophy as a tool and not turn it into an ideology.

Haha just recalling how it's been with myself and trying to put it in the frames of wisdom. Of course I tend to avoid pain and discomfort as much as anybody else. I know the shit waves can sometimes hit really hard and when they do it's hard to avoid falling to victim mindset. Remember, ultimately I am your dad