Snader

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  1. I used to date a girl with BPD and bipolar. She had gone through therapy and been working on herself alot. Things went great, but unfortunately our plans for future separated enough to make a mutual decision to break up. It was after that decision when shit hit the fan and she tried literally eveything to get back together. I can tell you it wasn’t nice and she was like another person at the time. I think that even when handled with therapy and serious personal work, the darkest symptoms of those disorders can trigger and they tend to do so in stressful life phases, which life seems to entail plenty of. What I’m trying to say is that there are risks in having a realtionship with someone who has serious mental disorders. It can work for sure, but I myself personally value psychological stability too much to put myself into such situation again.
  2. Increasing dose might not solve your problem, especially when it comes to mushrooms. They can get weird pretty quick. Remember the deep understanding comes with time, after serious contemplation. It should not be forced.
  3. Of course you wish you could do without medication, as everyone who has a medical condition wishes. For you it seems to be a life quality med, so I wouldn’t worry too much about using it regularly, if it really helps your everyday life. Maybe consider it as an investment for the future, as using it helps you build resources you’re gonna need, including the ones that might eventually replace the meds in some degree.
  4. I agree that to expect one to master all the basic human level areas and still dive deep into the deep end of the spiritual sphere is in itself an overkill. But a bit like @universe already sided, it’s a lot about your own perception. Perfect life doesn’t have to look specific. You make it yourself and you evaluate it by yourself. The skill that becomes central is your capacity to not give a fuck, to not take the metrics for good life from anywhere else but from whithin. It really is hard, but it becomes easier as you become more conscious and learn to make sense of everything - the meaningless and the meaningful aspect of life and your existance. That’s what the process of working on yourself is about. But I understand. It’s messy, hard and frustrating. A really small portion of the work we do on ourselves becomes concretely visible and sometimes it fools us. Hang in there my friend!
  5. Definitely! Although those moments tend to be rare. People are so often occupied with different survival shit that they are totally stuck on their heads and unable to surrender to the moment.
  6. Yeah, it’s amazing how much more enjoyable relationships can be when you can approach them more consciously. But sometimes it’s hard, especially if you are constantly forced to be social e.g. in your job.
  7. Living healthly in the meantime sounds like a good investment for those days.
  8. One interesting thing is that when you look at people who are interested in exploring their true essence and question reality, they have spent some real quiet time with their suffering. Instead of running away from it, they have sat down with it and contemplated the nature of it. The capacity of a person to confront one’s suffering, probably depends on many things; genes, life situation and environment being some to start with.
  9. I guess I'm kind of a hybrid by going through public schooling and playing smackdown vs. raw on a PS
  10. The face of the kid in the front row at 6:49. How the heck is this shit allowed for kids?
  11. It could be. Maybe I was just projecting my own behavior That's what happens when you let your primitive needs run your action. Don't be The Donkey. Be a man and you'll get The Princess, just like Shrek.
  12. Haha it's funny to observe people in public and notice how they secretly try to get a peek of an ass, especially when when they try to keep their gaze as long as possible. And the improvising they do after that to demonstrate that they were not watching the ass.
  13. It's interesting what abundance of options and possibilities do to a human mind and how that contrasts with action stemming from having only few options. Anyway, if I were you I would use all my free time diving into self-help to really work on myself so that I could find my true passion in life. You've heard it before but having sense of direction really is crucial and without that a man is most likely to be doomed.
  14. Then pick a self-help book that feels comfortable to you, like Think and Grow Rich. There’s plenty of value in there.
  15. My female friend was cutting my hair as usual as she suddenly noticed some new grey hair. I panicked first, but then she said that I will become a cool silver fox soon and this future self-image came to my mind: So I calmed down.
  16. About a month back I was walking on a market square towards home. It was pretty late so it was very quiet and peaceful. Suddenly a group of scout girls (around age of 6-8) ran to me wanting to sell me a fucking advent calendar. As a cheap but kind boy scout myself I didn't want to turn them down too cold, so I said ''I would love to buy one, but I don't have any cash, sorry'' (I assumed they don't have a method for electronic transaction, as they were so young). They said ''don't worry, we have plenty of payment options!'' after which they gave a signal to an adult far away, who then came to me with a fucking payment terminal. I ended up paying 15 euros for a stupid silly advent calendar, just because I was too kind and naive. So I was played like a bitch and it really got to me. That really reminded me of how sneaky people are to get your money. After that I've decided to be cold and concise everytime someone approaches me with merchandise and I've applied that to other intercourses as well, and haven't been fooled ever since. You can be kind (and you ought to), but it's wise to filter every agenda through a shit filter first, just in case.
  17. As far as I remember 7 habits offered more practical tools on top of the mindset it promoted.
  18. Yeah it's blunt but it's also clear and succinct, which as a means to communicate might be something worth pursuing, no?
  19. Happens to me as well. If I read about a specific subject my mind tends to offer me a memory to which I can contrast that subject while I read about it and try to make sense of it. I guess it's just a common unconscious function we have to make sense of stuff, but to be conscious of that is completely another thing. I've also become conscious of something like that while playing the piano. Some quick flashes of memories or fictional scenarios appear every time I play a specific sound or a part of a song and it reappears every time I play the sound again, even though I put zero conscious effort to any thinking whatsoever. The scenarios change from session to session depending on what's going on in my life. A bit annoying sometimes.
  20. I’ve managed to quit/minimize all the unhealthy drugs and time wasting activity by becoming busy with more important stuff and also by becoming disgusted by the untruthness of many of that stuff.
  21. As we all know, life is hard. There is constant pressure from outside but also from within. We are trying to become better versions of ourselves while trying to figure out what we are in the first place. We have values, ideas, thoughts and sensations that inspire us, but which are continually challenged by the outside world, which then bounces back as self doubt, adding to the mental struggle of ones' identity and values. We cannot settle for the medium of what society expects from us, but we cannot diverge too much either, as we still need to pay our bills and satisfy our basic human needs to stay sane. There is also personal backlash when pushing too far too fast. So, im interested to hear from you about how you reconcile your life – if you feel there is something to be reconciled in the first place. Can you describe the metal process/(es) you go through? How do you justify or rationalise your action? What are your pitfalls? To what extend do you settle and sacrifice, and to what extend do you challenge? What are the struggles or areas of life that create the most turmoil in your psyche? As a bonus question: Do you feel it is your own mind or the society that is holding you back the most in life? This is a very broad topic and the questions are ambiguous, so don't take it too seriously. Just try to think about them deeply and share your thoughts. No right or wrong answers here.
  22. Seems like a hard, but also a wise and practical mindset. Thanks!
  23. Thanks for a totally different perspective! This thread wasn't meant for any non-dual or metaphysical discussion, but now that you poked, I might dive in just a little. I am aware of the dream I call life. I do know this doesn't matter at all and this whole play with all its seriousness is silly as fuck. Yes, I am a big clown here, but unless I decide to kill myself (which I will not), what should I do here? Are there better and worse ways to amuse God? When I mentioned spirituality, I wasn't referring to any school or ideology or any other construct. To me it's about the level of awakening I've embodied in relation to the human self I play. This typing is from the human self, who intuitively knows the Truth, but who cannot possible live to it 100%. All it can do is carefully install - out of wisdom and deep intuition - bits of that Truth in itself, until that Truth finally does its thing, or does not. Yes this is only game, but man what can I do? What should I do?
  24. That's certainly an endeavor worth pursuing!
  25. I also reflect back and think about the bright side of being born and raised in poor and disadvantaged conditions, but also the lucky side of having resources to avoid inheriting those conditions. I can imagine the mess I would be if I hadn't had those resources. That's a good point. Nothing wrong with complaining per se. I've recently turned a new chapter in my life and along with that I've started new endeavors. Those endeavors are investments towards my future, increasing my possibilities to build a life where I can live up to my values, at least a lot more than I've been able ever before. This process is mentally demanding, which is already detaching me from some more ''noble'' activities and state of mind that is important to me in a different way, but on top of that I'm forced to deal with different kind of human shit that kind of comes with the package. So as a spiritually wired person with relatively high level of consciousness, sensitivity, and criticality, I find it pretty exhausting to almost daily deal with stupid petty human bulsshit, fakeness and selfishess. But that's the cost here, nothing comes easy. I'm now delicately fine-tuning my life, including all the dimensions which it contains, to be able to go on without too big of an identity crisis. I thought it would be nice to ask here and get some perspective on the matter. Not just so that I could cultivate those perspectives, but also cause I'm genuinely interested in how people handle their lives in all its vastness.