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@Espaim Nice

@Espaim Ye sort of asking about triggering. Or like how you react emotionally when you feel people overstep your boundaries.

@Devin You're welcome. I wish you well re achieving your goals

@Epikur I think its a shame. I've seen Pakman as someone who has the potential to be one of those hosts who really could hit the sweet spot of being assertive, respectful, and intellectually rigorous. However, I have noticed a sort of ungroundness in his approach from time to time which I dislike, and a move away from meeting those three traits. I hope he can start the process of fulfilling that potential again.

@Espaim Do you find your emotional state aligns with your yellow intellectual beliefs?

@ThePointI find those to be interesting questions. "Do you know about developmental psychology models like Spiral Dynamics and/or the stages of Ego Development?" I understand the first model well, and I understand part of the second model but not that well. I want to learn more about it at some point. "Do you think that there’s an intersection between developmental psychology and IFS?" I think so, certainly. I sometimes think about how they intersect. I.e. Can we see each part as being at a different stage of development, or should we always look at stage of development of a person by looking at the person holistically "And out of all models, what model helped you the most? Was it IFS?" So far, the models that have helped me out the most are probably assertive training, talk therapy. I really like IFS because I think if you make it work for you the results you can get are unparralled. Also, it might end up that IFS has had a bigger impact on me, but I find it hard to tell. I know my major goals, such as moving out of chronic emotional numbness haven't been achieved yet. ------------------------- What are your answers regarding the first two questions you asked me. -------------------------------------------------- "Not 100% clear. I think it will involve helping others overcome my current struggles; depression, anxiety/paranoia, fatigue, etc. I don’t know if it will be the main focus though. I was a very productive person before I had health problems out of nowhere a year ago. If I resolve my depression and become reconnected to my “self” and “personality” my life purpose will be a lot clearer to me." I see. That makes sense to me. I actually am along the same lines to some degree. Before I really engage with big commitments to my LP, I want to reconnect in the ways you describe. That's cool that you want to do your LP related to your current struggles too. I think mental health will be an exciting place to be this century, especially with these new depth psychotherapies and psychedelics becoming involved, i.e. looking at the work going on at the MAPs organisation.

@ThePoint I understand re the filter. What I'm trying to say is I don't think its important that they be, 'Approved IFS Clinical Consultant'. So by selecting that filter I think you are potentially missing out on suitable therapists. As always that's just my opinion though. If you decide you want an, 'Approved IFS Clinical Consultant', then its all good. Regarding the second sentence, in my experience most therapists/ practioners offer a free consultation, and I thinks its always worth asking for them. I think generally they are around 15 - 10 minutes. However, I've had ones which are 45 minutes. Regarding what you could message potential therapists, you could state what your preference would be, 'I.e. I would prefer to have an initial consultation session that lasts X minutes' (you pick what X is). Then can say, 'However, I understand you may have a pre-existing policy regarding this.'

@Tyler Robinson Its a shorthand for saying regarding

@Vido Agreed!

@ThePoint Hey, it might be that the 'IFS clinical consultant' filtering you are doing might be cutting a lot of folks out. I don't actually know what an IFS clinical consultant is. Re selecting a therapist I would go with someone who you feel you can best relate to, feel safe with and importantly specialises in your area of need, i.e. if someone had dissociation they would be smart to go with someone who specialised in dissociation. Also, I'd recommend finding someone who says they work with trauma, if trauma is what you are looking to deal with. If none of the level 3s fit, then I'd recommend checking out level 2s. Finally, I'd ask for an 'initial consultation'. Its like a trial session.

@ThePoint Any ideas regarding what you want to do?

@ThePoint I'm certainly very interested in the idea. I'm also interested in combining it with psychedelics. Also, am curious about exploring the ramifications of the IFS model in an academic setting

I think lyrics make people less lonely

@Raptorsin7 lmao drop me a msg if you ever see a job posting like that

@Tyler Robinson Jheez that sounds intense af. Scary too. My ex best-friend was bipolar. Was really disturbing to see how he would change in his actions. He had this agitation during his manic periods when he was out with me which were really anxiety provoking. Felt like the dude just wasn't inhibited enough.

@Tyler Robinson Was he being serious at the time?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LEEblG0B5zw I used to do this one about 6/7 years ago when I boxed! I got about 1000 calories a day out of it, and found it seemless to make.

Probably tbf. I mean you could be a sex worker and see it as a means of connecting with and relating to folk from lonely demographics of society.

Oh I see. I thought you saying that two traumatised people could work together. I could imagine that being possible. Although I don't know why the non-traumatised person would choose to engage romantically with the traumatised person. I don't think their attachment styles would mirror so as to create a relationship. However, I don't know too much about this situation. Curious for sure.

My honest perspective is that your words read as a redemption narrative imo. The fixing of the other partner in the relationship seems to me to be parts re-enacting what they dreamed would happen with one of their caregivers/ attachment figures growing up. I think the advice is usually, when healthy, to ensure that when in poor mental health you do not choose to engage in a trauma-bonded relationship instead of seeking out therapeutic solutions. Also, trauma-bonded relationships, to my mind, are much more likely to lead to unhealthy events occurring. However, I have heard that where two partners both have coping mechanisms and communicate well with each other, they can have a pretty healthy relationship in spite of their mental health.

@Yali I think its important not to do pickup if you have poor mental health, or at least be very selective about how you do it

I see. How is your mental health generally?

Are you interested in learning pick up @Yali ?

Maybe explore some subreddits and see if you can find resources in their wiki sections. I don't know much about poly relationships personally That said, I imagine having/ developing a secure attachment style would be key

@Tyler Robinson Okay glad to hear that for now