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Thanks for your reply. Regarding how to calm my mind, I like noting meditation

@Jacob Morres Imo, it just threatens your survival. What survival need are you meeting by claiming they need respect and manners in the way you do above?

@Tyler Durden I reckon that he's either lying or suffering from severe dissociation when in solitary

Because metaphysics and epistemology is full of politics. These fields exist because of survival needs. People will co-opt anything to meet their survival needs. Metaphysics and epistemology are no different. I'd recommend pondering on the following questions, 'Does the idea of foundationalism help the left or the right's agenda more?'. 'Does the idea that human's have free will help the left or the right's agenda more?'. If your familiar with spiral dynamics, I'd recommend you analyse those questions using green and orange, rather than left and right.

@StarStruck Thanks for your reply. I'm also curious to know where you'd place yourself on the spiral.

@Carl-Richard Hi again, I'd be grateful to hear your perspective once more. Would i be right in thinking that sociology often doesn't take into account that they are only dealing with a sub system which is a part of a larger system? Hence, they are looking for win-win solutions, rather than win-win-win solutions?

The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation

@StarStruck Would you be willing to say what, you believe, were your major developments re professional help and trauma healing?

I'd recommend looking at it through a lens of needs. We all have universal needs, i.e. need for food, need for significance. And meeting needs drives everything anything any us will ever do. This is all how ego works. Attraction occurs purely because certain needs are met. It doesn't make sense to me that women are attracted to men with resources and positions of power. Those may be a strategy women tend to unconsciously choose to meet the needs that attraction corresponds to. No one needs positions of power or resources, instead people need things like significance, safety, security, intimacy etc. By what you've said of Buss, it seems to me like he has conflated a common need meeting strategy with an actual need. So, its not that science disagrees with pickup, instead its that Buss has made an arbitrary interpretation of the data. Here's an analogy of what Buss has done and its effect on you. Its like Buss has seen data which says that a certain community only eat soup. He's then said, 'People from this community want soup'. No! What they actually want is to meet their need for food. If this community was given another type of food, assuming no other need got in the way, they would willingly eat this other type of food to meet their need. Because eating soup was only a strategy for meeting their need, not the need itself. So being with a man in a position of power might be a strategy that many women will unconsciously determine meets certain needs effectively. However, if there exists another strategy that women unconsciously determines meets certain needs effectively, she will choose that one. So, by doing pickup you are just learning a strategy that women unconsciously determine meets certain needs effectively. It just that strategy is different to the power and resource strategy. Except, its exactly the same because its still only about whether women unconsciously determine that certain needs will be met!

@StarStruck Bruh, love these analogies

It sounds to me like you've had some success in this area. Why do you think that OP already knows the answers to the questions he's asking though?

second wave v third wave feminism

@integral Ye its totally cool to my mind. As long as you're not being abusive, its other people's responsibility to tell you where there boundaries are or if they'd prefer to talk about something else. Some people won't vibe with this sort of talk and that's not a fault on either person. Way I like to think about it is, imagine everyone at the party is given given a card from a deck of cards. The suits (i.e. hearts, diamonds etc.) are evenly divided amongst the party. Your job is to go and talk to people who have the a card of the same suit as you. If you have a card of diamonds, start talking to someone and they have a card of hearts, then it turns out you guys don't match. Its nothing personal you just don't have cards of the same suit. It might get frustrating, but if you meet enough people and ask what their card is, you'll eventually find a match. I think its the same with finding people of similar interests, just talk to enough people, find out what their interests are and you'll find a match. You are a human being, who seems to me to looooove philosophy and want to talk about it at parties. Imo, there will be many other human beings who loooooove philosophy and want to talk about it at parties too.

@The Mystical Man Looks beautiful to me

@BlessedLion Are you afraid because you don't trust that if you continue the relationship in the present way and then later end it, she won't have the same mindset that she wants you to feel free and do whatever you want?

@UnbornTao Do you think its better to contemplate with a journal or just in your mind?

@PretentiousHuman What do you do to train your mind to be calm?

Is there a specific argument in the video that persuaded you that Leo shouldn't promote weed here in any way?

@Federico del pueblo You're welcome

@Federico del pueblo Nonviolent Communication -- A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides) Paperback – 1 Sept. 2015 by Marshall B. Rosenberg. This video, to my mind, also can be used as an alternative to the book:

@Federico del pueblo All the best to you too :). Would you like a book recommendation btw? I believe it helped me to understand the style of perspective I gave to you.

Hey @ThePoint, thank you. And you're welcome. My current understanding is that I think we can stop caring so much what other think of us by doing the following. Identifying what need/ needs the strategy of caring what other people think of us is trying to meet. For example, maybe safety or the need to belong. Then try to meet that need/ needs. I'll note that I am feeling confused because I want more understanding of how exactly to meet your own needs reliably. I personally think depth psychotherapy can be useful. Further, I've been finding value in Thais Gibson's free YouTube videos so far. I'm also aware that someone with that coping strategy might actually be in an environment where its a useful coping strategy in many ways. Hence, meeting the relevant need might require a real world change, i.e. leaving abusive household.

@ThePoint Okay. I'd recommend the following: - Learn how to meet your needs on your own (Note you can still request help from others in doing so, just keep in mind that they are allowed to not do so) - Learn how to change your attachment style to secure - Find other people with secure attachment styles that have similar values and interests to you, and connect with them. - Be wary of trauma bonding and learn about relationship red flags. If you still want to meet up with them despite red flags, then try and identify what need is being met by hanging out with them and try to meet that need in a healthier way. - Read the books 'Non violent communication' by Marshall Rosenburg, and 'The Social Skills Guidebook: Manage Shyness, Improve Your Conversations, and Make Friends, Without Giving Up Who You Are' by Chris MacLeod (this second one is useful, imo, regardless of your unconscious state of mind)

I haven't really explored the discographies of these folks. I like Jay Z tho. I'd say I am a hip hop fan. Not massively so tho. I really like Juice WRLD, and Kanye West. I've liked a few of Young thug, asap rocky and Lil Uzi Vert's songs too. Recently I really vibed with this: I really like this inclusiveness and vibes of that vid. Brought me joy too

@ThePointWould you like to hear my perspective? It may be what you've already heard from me.