Ulax

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trigger-Massager-Massage-Shoulder-Myofascial/dp/B076HQY44G/ref=sr_1_5?crid=2TU2RDT75VUIX&keywords=back+buddy&qid=1691161767&sprefix=back+buddy%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-5 Great tool for massaging out the knots and tensions in your back. Very useful if you have dissociation and/ or trauma you want to work through, imo. Its designed for self use.

Often professorships require the professor teaches a certain amount for the university

https://www.amazon.co.uk/AERLANG-Percussion-Handheld-Massager-Recovery/dp/B08H133S2L/ref=zg_bs_g_3360464031_sccl_1/257-6634318-3647921?th=1 In my experience, very useful for body awareness and reducing muscle tensions

@KatiesKarma Also, I'll add in another suggestion I've recently come across. It would be to buy a percussive massage gun. Its, imo, an easy and enjoyable way to increase body awareness and relax muscles. With the release of tension that might allow for emotions to come up for you.

@Raze I think these are all fantastic books. I haven't read the righteous mind personally. I think no bad parts is one of the most groundbreaking books of our era too. And Shinzen's work has completely changed my relationship to intense emotions in my life. I especially love his noting gone technique.

@SeaMonster What about the people who would be left to die without the progressive provided welfare states around the world?

@Shakazulu You the man bro. I had a friend who was sexually abused when he was a kid and did pick up too. I saw how devastated his psyche was from it but he managed to transform himself, both externally and internally. Your story here reminds me of him. So, major respect to you dude. And I wish you all the best going forward.

https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/art_PowerofGone.pdf By Shinzen Young

@KatiesKarma Also, if you want a somatic meditation. I heard someone with severe dissociation who got significant results from using the linked guided meditations: https://www.shambhala.com/somaticdescent/

I see. Perhaps you could consider working with an online practioner.

@KatiesKarma Ye i get the confusion. Maybe you have a child part that got pretty triggered by something and decided to dissociate.

@KatiesKarma Sounds to me like dissociation I note also you haven't mentioned any somatic oriented practices. To my understanding, dissociation is often most effectively resolved via somatic work, i.e. IFS, craniosacral therapy, Somatic experiencing, acupuncture.

@Ayham you could read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear

@pablo_aka_god Shows her character at this point of her life imo. Perhaps see the money lost as the price you pay to get to see her real character.

@Ayham I'd learn different scheduling techniques

My laptop broke once and I had to use my phone to access the forum. Made me want to jump off a cliff

Lmao what a weird guy? ? Dude definitely felt that one

@Ayham Thanks

@Eva I'd say actively listen to him, help him identify his emotions, and validate them. Then give your guidance or set boundaries if you want. I think Brazillian Jiu Jitsu could be a useful thing to encourage him into at this point of his life too. From my experience, they are a respectful community but also help young dude's develop that inner warrior and can develop healthy masculine qualities in the young dude. Will be some further role models there for your boy too to model.

Lmao what did you say exactly to make those implications?

I think this whole demonizing 'nice guys' is very misleading. The real issue is with guys with unconscious shame, and narcissistic traits. And I only really see the latter as worthy of criticism. Though I get sometimes these sorts of guys can put the 'nice guy' label on themselves.

I sorta have a theory that some types of ocd are actually ptsd symptoms, i.e. pure ocd

ptsd

@Enlightement Moderate-to-severe disintegration/ fragmentation of the mind.

That's great dude. But where is the growth with that route? For me and many others, cold approach is so prized because of the character it builds