Ulax

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  1. I was just highlighting some types of people who tend to be the ones who break guidelines on here imo. As, generally, if you don't break guidelines you can't get warning points. I've noticed some folk seemed to break guidelines only when feeling strong emotions. Usually when someone else says something inflammatory. But outside of those triggered moments wouldn't break guidelines. Whether or not they should get warning points in response is a different question. On that I get your point, and agree in part. I think its best to try and to explore more diplomatic options first. But at a certain point you still have to hold people accountable for their actions. A way of doing so is warning points. Can think of it like compassion with boundaries.
  2. If you don't get off on bullying others, aren't very emotional reactive, aren't a drama queen and/ or don't troll too hard, then imo you won't rack up warning points too much. And some users on here used to LOVE drama lol.
  3. You mean they always get pardoned if they make a small donation?
  4. Where is your full stop good sir? Where is your comma after yourselves kind sir? I see its one rule for those in power: and another for the rest of us. Do the right thing and ban yourselves. P.S. You may be pardoned, if a small donation is made to me.
  5. Okay; you will not have any punctuation issues from me.
  6. Okay while we cuddle, maybe you can contemplate why you prioritize boosting your own ego rather than focusing on helping others. Its clear from the way you speak. I get it might be tempting to act in this manner but try and have some self-discipline.
  7. @NoSelfSelf Why you got to be such an insecure toxic guy on this forum all the time dude?
  8. I mean that sort of comes with the territory lol. Can still have fun. Also, Gameglobal is the place to look for wings.
  9. Chatgpt is bae. Wish i had an up to date phone so that i could you the voice chat feature. Found it useful af for studying recently too. Also, i use it to guide me through dong 'the work' by byron katie.
  10. I remember coming against a preacher who's stick was preaching the positives and then when he noticed the person was unmoved would threaten them with hell . Was pretty funny to watch
  11. Yeah i certainly find your point interesting. I can certainly relate to the idea of thinkin it is too simple to be effective. Have you ever come across the work by byron katie?
  12. Also, CBT and 'the work', by Byron katie, can be effective techniques to implement when journaling
  13. I get ya. So its mostly that his vibe that really makes a profound impact on you.
  14. @Buck Edwards Ah I see. I've studied CBT quite a few times, and done some myself. Here is my understanding: A first key idea is that you can significantly resolve many mental health issues by challenging and replacing irrational thoughts. A second key idea is that the emotions we feel are determined strongly by what thoughts we have. Here is how is see the cbt process: - Firstly, you identify your automatic thoughts. - Secondly, you examine how rational they are. You'll learn a series of common types of irrational thinking, i.e. ignoring the positive, magnification. And maybe, identify some evidence for and against the thought being true. - Thirdly, based on your examination, you replace these irrational thoughts with more rational ones. - Fourthly, you repeatedly challenge and replace these irrational thoughts over a period of time. The result of this process is that your automatic thoughts change and become more rational. As a consequence, your emotions will be intense when it is reasonable for them to be intense, i.e. being chased by a bear. And, they will not be intense when they don't need to be, i.e. everyday social interactions. And, therefore, you will have made great progress in overcoming your mental health symptoms. Example 1. Identify: "Chickens are evil" 2. Examine: Ignoring the positive (Chickens can also engage in pro-social behaviors where they look after their mates), All or nothing thinking (Chickens maybe do some bad things sometimes, but not all the time), personification (Just because someone or something does evil behaviors does not make them inherently evil) 3. Replacement thought: Chickens engage in a variety of good and evil actions. 4. When you notice the automatic thought of 'chickens are evil' arise again, you repeat your replacement thought. Hope that helps .
  15. But how does he actually point to the here and now experiences? Like do you focus on something for a certain period of time?
  16. For me it would depend on what type of therapy you are doing. Also, do you mean that you are being assigned a specific therapist? Or that you are being assigned a therapist but you re doing consultations, and get to choose your therapist based on those consults?
  17. Hey dude, respect for taking action. Remember watching a coach once who advised to just go more indirect in your approaches at college. Like opening with a platonic compliment and just arranging hang outs. Instead of a ' hey, i saw you and thought you were attractive... etc... etc...' type open. Still can sexualise but more subtely, i.e. via flirting, or what Todd V (coach) calls premise. By being more indirect you are more like a really social guy who meets a lot of girls, rather than the guy who hits on a lot of girls. Some alternative advice i remember is just to focus on social circle at college. Meet a load of people, throw events, hook up with girls from those events. Treat the girls you are with well and you are will have a good rep. Just some advice I remember hearing a while back on youtube. I don't have direct experience with doing pick up at college. Anyhow, hope you enjoy your college days, dude!
  18. @BlessedLion Interesting share. I'm always quite intrigued by blue. There worldview can lend itself to having a lot of confidence in their worldview because of their clear cut view of right and wrong.