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Can start a solo hobby like painting, drawing, learn an instrument, reading fiction. Whatever takes your fancy.

Yes I would agree it is hard to understand their lives. And that people are often uncharitable in their arguments about how easy it is to be them.

Not sure how I was trying to sound smart, it wasn't a deep point I was making lol. But if you took it as a sign of me being smart then sure, thank you. Nonetheless, I disagree with your points here. Your argument is too absolute. People could put a lot of effort into a book and not much effort into the summary.

Okay I think I get you. I think when you say 'there is no credibility to our judgment' that is too absolute of a claim. I think that it would be more accurate to argue that there is doubt over the credibility of our judgment regarding some aspects of their lives. Like if you saw Elon Musk dropkick a baby, you wouldn't need to understand what it means to be rich to be able to credibly judge him.

I see. So you are essentially arguing that these sorts of public figures are easily misjudged?

Your earlier argument: “because You have no Idea what they are really like, who they are, what they stand for and what it means to be them and live their daily lives, all You have is information that is biased one way or the other telling You stories about them, there is no credibility.“ That argument would still mean you can’t judge isis for chopping off peoples heads.

I dunno from what I’m seeing the key reason trump won was because of high inflation. Which many blamed on the current presidential party. And the idea that Harris wasn’t seen as a candidate that could enact necessary change.

You could make the same argument for not being able to judge ISIS for judging peoples heads off. Your argument leads to absurdity

I guess my point was that it doesn't matter if the summary is low effort. You can have a book that you put a lot of effort into, and make a low effort into/ summary. A low effort summary isn't a reflection on the effort put into the book.

Oh my mistake. I misread your original comment. I thought you were saying something about him not perhaps speaking from experience regarding his advice. That’s what I was saying I thought similarly on. If it’s all chatgpt then that’s not as much action taken… but still some action taken lol. I say taking action is a positive here because publishing a book is something quite a few people might feel fearful about. Or might want it to be perfect before putting out there. So OP has displayed some courage in putting a book of his out there imo. And also started to build the identity of someone who is courageous and puts himself out there. Which is a positive thing going forward.

Having an AI write you a summary intro of your book isn’t a bad thing. I had some similar reservations but I think it is good to highlight that he has taken action. And that is certainly a positive in my book.

I swear we're living in an Onion video

@Yimpa various places. Mostly from Dan Ingram and Kenneth Folk I think

Can you do a vid on the 16 stages of insight please.

Nice bro

Yeah tbf there are many socially uncalibrated people calling out others for being socially uncalibrated imo. A clear one is when someone calls someone else boring. I think not uncommonly the accusing person is also playing a key part in the interaction not being fun.

Neither of you decide, you try to work it out. Its not an act of inventing your own standard of what is socially calibrated. Its a process of working out what is socially uncalibrated. It should be treated like a scientific study imo.

Well you can't just decide on your own what is socially calibrated. Because being socially calibrated is about understanding how to generally have pleasant interactions with other people. There are a certain set of traits and behaviors that exist for that. You can't just start claiming that displaying traits that generally lead to unpleasant interactions aren't socially uncalibrated.

@Buck Edwards You might find value in this too: IFS Buddy Chatbot: https://www.ifsbuddy.chat/ Its an AI powered IFS therapist.

@Buck Edwards I can certainly relate to your frustrations. It sounds good to me though that you have been able to quickly identify that you don't fit with particular therapists and move on. That's something I've struggled with personally in therapy. So kudos to you there. I've been with quite a few therapists now, I guess I try to see each new one as a learning experience. And if it doesn't work out with them, then its all part of the overall recovery process.

@Buck Edwards I think a depth psychotherapy can be useful, so I second IFS therapy. I'd also recommend looking into somatic healing modalities, where you work with the becoming comfortable in your body. Things like deep tissue massage, TRE and Yoga. I understand that finances might get in the way though .

@Scholar Sorry for your loss. What comes to mind for me is to keep the stages of grief in your awareness. Try and talk to a trusted friend, or a grief counsellor. Vipassana meditation can help you be with the emotions that come up. Massage and Trauma release exercises can help you release stress that inevitably rises during such a time. That said, I haven't looked into grief processing that much. Hopefully my recommendations are helpful though.

I was just saying that a certain aspect of pickup is low consciousness. Hence, my saying that there are various positive aspects to pick up.

Tony Hinchcliffe. He is a stand up comedian who hosts a popular US comedy show called 'Killed Tony'.

I mean this is tame by his standards no? I watched some of his Kill Tony and he was a complete asshole from time to time imo..