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@Flowerfaeiry I have similar thinking. It’s what draws me to IFS therapy this most. What else really is there of value in this life?

Well you can do IFS therapy on yourself. Another way is to label your feelings and then validate them ie say to yourself “I am feeling sad and that is okay” In terms of dealing with your sister I suppose it depends on the context of the conversation. Though you’re probably dealing with an immature and toxic person if they are calling you trash. Reason being that immature and toxic people will tend to shame you instead of guilt you. In that they communicate something wrong with your inherent nature, ie YOU are trash. Compared with a guilting approach which insinuates something wrong with a behaviour, ie your behaviour was trash.

I think you underestimate severe mental Illness caused by trauma

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@soos_mite_ah was just in a dumbass mood and fucking around lmao

I have done life purpose course and realised this is my ultimate vision for my life 🎉. Anyone else managed to become a stay-at-home child-free single dad as well? Or have any advice on how to make this vision work?

@Finax I don’t know too much about his background and haven’t watched your linked video. But from what I’ve seen of him he just seems like someone who read a culture war handbooks and started spitting of right wing talking points. He seems pretty inauthentic to me. Like compare to someone like Patrick Bet David who I think is actually sincere in his political beliefs, or Dennis Prager.

Interpersonal theory of suicide says suicide is the result of feeling like burden plus also a sense of thwarted belongingness.

@Ryan M I’d watch moral foundations of politics lecture series by Ian Shapiro. Haven’t watched it myself but have watched another lecture series by him. He’s a Yale political lecturer. He’s a great speaker, and also from seeing the course content of the moral foundations series it seems great for beginners.

And start shouting that your gonna eat Zelensky’s butt

I just like that it puts everything into an impersonal perspective. Like a trump supporter is just where he is at.

@kyle barnett There’s no failure only feedback my guy imo. You made a commendable change in your life and now understand what result that brings in your life. Before you didn’t know that and now you do. Thats very useful information. The way you are is the way you are. You gotta work with yourself rather than fight it. What do you need for you to do x productive action? Experiment with various things and see what leads to you consistently doing that thing. Key imo is to work on not beating yourself up for not doing that certain thing. But just see it as a process of trial & error and experimentation until you end up finding what gets you to do that thing consistently. All best bro

We’re finally free to express ourselves whilst still retaining our respect and dignity of others.

@MarkKol Imo they resonate well because they are very good at marketing. And from their marketing skills they know how to emotionally impact you. I’m not too in the know when it comes to specific marketing principles but I’d argue that that is what is happening here. Some of their content has resonated with me too in the past. But just because something resonates strongly doesn’t mean that that thing is a useful thing to bring into your life imo. Otherwise everyone who joins a cult would be having fulfilling lives. Anyhow, all best to you mate 👍. Interesting topic.

When dealing with a suicidal person I think it’s useful to try and guide them towards seeing a trauma therapist. A therapist who works with modalities like EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, somatic experiencing, hakomi. I also think psychodynamic and gestalt therapists can be useful. But importantly puts on their psych profile that they work with things like CPTSD. ———- I think there are also resources online (you can Google), regarding how to more effectively dialogue with people who express suicidal attitudes. ——- Finally, you are a good guy mate and your friend reaching out to you is a sign of that. But don’t feel you need to pressure yourself to be the one person to lead him out of the darkness. A trained expert is what he needs. All the best mate 👍

I find that an interesting idea. Richard Schwartz (the founder of IFS) was originally a family systems therapist. Which works by doing sessions with whole families. He then created IFS by applying family systems therapy onto the mind.

@jacknine119 Bro I swear this is the biggest life hack. Just active listen to people. In other words just repeat back what they say back to them in order to show understanding. ie say ‘so if I’m understanding you correctly you want xyz’. And keep doing it throughout difficult conversations. I got it from Stephen Covey’s book ‘7 habits of highly effective people’. It’s the 2nd habit ‘Seek first to understand then be understood’. I think it works because it sets an underlying collaborative frame.

@Javfly33 You could do the unified mindfulness (UM) training and the you become a certified UM teacher. UM is Shinzen Youngs organisation. They’ll then advertise you on their website. Then you can get clients and do say hourly sessions with them. You could set limits on your client numbers as you start out and do it part time. That way you can gain experience teaching meditation but with less extreme demands that going full time would entail. Then later down the road you can setup your own full time gig from a place of better experience and understanding.

Nah, still a way off for me. Congrats on the progress though 🥳. It’s a beautiful thing. Maybe you could do with some meditation coaching. If you look up unified mindfulness teachers I think some of them could help you. It’s Shinzen youngs organisation. I’d just recommend voicing what specifically you want help with so you can get a coach with suitable experience. Either way all the best mate

There is too much bs in this world 😂😂😂 ”I believe we are entering a new era of honesty” 😂gtfo of here.

As in through meditation?

Can start a solo hobby like painting, drawing, learn an instrument, reading fiction. Whatever takes your fancy.

Yes I would agree it is hard to understand their lives. And that people are often uncharitable in their arguments about how easy it is to be them.

Not sure how I was trying to sound smart, it wasn't a deep point I was making lol. But if you took it as a sign of me being smart then sure, thank you. Nonetheless, I disagree with your points here. Your argument is too absolute. People could put a lot of effort into a book and not much effort into the summary.