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Transmission? What do you mean by that?

My dude, we watch the same content for sure. Was gonna recommend that first link too! Tian is the man!

@StarStruck What level is your therapist btw?

I see. Had something in mind if you struggled with reading. Re not feeling many emotions, I'm sort of in a similar boat except I feel 0 emotions. Except for anxiety when I see people I've had conflict with, and anger when someone pushes past my boundaries and my defence mechanisms to my boundaries. Re IFS, I'd advise trying to get as a high a level IFS practioner as possible (Level 3 = Highest). One from here: https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners. Funding wise: - https://youarerad.org/therapy - https://psychosynthesistrust.org.uk/counselling/low-cost-psychosynthesis-counselling/ (somewhat similar method to IFS) ---------------------------------------------------------- Also, would you say your a controlling person? I.e. You seek certainty a lot in your life with things. For example, certainty of good marks on a test.

Also, @Leo Gura, on another note, what are your thoughts on doing an/ some actualized.org in-person event(s)? I recall a few years ago you floated the idea around.

Hey, I came across the forum yesterday. I spoke to someone who mentioned they were joining it (they didn't try and recruit me). I checked it out, and it was an almost exact replica of this forum. My first thought was that it was setup as a sort of revenge against this forum. Appreciate this dude ^ I get this must be difficult to do. Kudos for doing this. The cult issue, to me at least, is a v tricky one to avoid with the sort of work on here, I agree. All in all, thanks for this post, Leo. Will report this sort of thing in the future to you. Look forward to seeing how the forum progresses.

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Ye seems a bit sus lol.

Hi mate, My opinion is that enlightenment can be used as a tool to escape reality. And, can be done out of a desire to self-actualise. I think it depends upon where you are in the spiral (spiral dynamics wise). For example, if you are stage yellow, then I think its a natural progression to then later seek enlightenment. However, I think it can be a perhaps unhealthy coping mechanism for those who haven't integrated their stage red enough. Their thinking might be I need not fight the dangers if I can escape them entirely.

@Esilda I get you. Glad ya feel safer.

Internal family systems 2nd edition by Richard Schwartz

@Esilda Yes, I know of Nahm. He was recently removed from his role of moderator on this forum. Their site looks v similar to this one in terms of format/ layout lol.

@Esilda Ah okay, good luck with everything And, thank you

Hi guys, please could you recommend me a book/ books re this subject.

I love Mate too. Was a route into depth psychology for me, alongside Peterson.

@puporing Hmmm good point. RuPaul ftw btw

@Raze Any on friendships specifically?

@Raptorsin7 Glad to hear it for you bro. What do you think the cause was?

Love the vibe. You seem like a very caring individual. Looking forward to seeing your progress on this journal.

Nothing significant so far that I can tell. Although, it is hard to tell, imo. I'm realising there's al lot of charlatans in the field though. People who claim they are IFS therapists very misleadingly. The top dogs will have done training with the IFS institute, and have a certain level, i.e. 1, 2 or 3. However, some therapists will do a random ass course on it, or have literally just read a book. Fucking manipulative if you ask me. I'm starting with a level 3 IFS practioner now in conjunction with my current one. Who is a random ass course person. I'm thinking of dropping my current one soon tho. I only recently realised about all this charlatanism. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Also, I'd advice going as high level as you can. Saw some worrying shit on an open-access IFS forum of a level 1 therapist asking for advice on how to deal with a client, re an issue she seemed to have no idea about. To my mind, that person has business being that person's therapist. Becomes the blind leading the blind. All the level 3 practioners seem to know what is up though.

This is gold

I've been trying desperately for the past decade to change my life through various techniques, and journeys - including actualized.org, therapy, meditations, pick up, challenging myself. However, I feel so much like I've missed out on life. I wanted so badly to be free of my mental chains so as to live freely during this time. And it is painful to think about all the things I missed out on. How do you guys recommend I cope with this? I guess grief, self-contempt, and hopelessness are the main things I resonate with currently. Thanks in advance

Haha that is wild!

Learn about the book from various sources. I.e. watch some introductory videos on YouTube about the book or content of the book. For example, if I was reading a Ralston book I would watch a load of ralston interviews before it. Also, I like audiobooks more.