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You want both partners to have a secure attachment style, imo

Almost agree. Everyone is doing what they think is best for them imo

@PixelMonk Dude not cool at all to talk to people that way. You can disagree, but keep it from being abusive.

@Consilience You seen what's been going on with maps.org? Its really promising!

@at_anchor No idea unfortunately

@Someone here Here's an overview: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People You're welcome btw

Shame you're not coming to the UK. But here are some things from me. I don't have any tips other than I advice checking out travel blogs that individuals make about their travels around Europe. If you like their trips, you can copy them. Also, you can contact them, and I reckon quite a few of them would be happy to answer questions, i.e. best places to go, hidden away places. ------------------------------------------ On another note, when doing napoleon type things, at least once, you have to stop, put some headphones on, and play the following piece of music: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Finally, I'd recommend you wear suitable clothing to avoid pickpockets. I.e. put essentials in zipped trouser pockets. Hope it helps bro!

Hi all, Would highly recommend this book for those seeking to overcome trauma. Seem to me like quite a few folks who struggle with the unblending aspects of traditional IFS find value in the teaching of Fisher. Also, seems to me that quite a few of these guys, including myself, are rather dissociative. So, might be worth checking this book out if you're struggling with IFS whilst dealing with dissociation. Btw, although I think the whole book is valuable, the exercises for parts work included in the appendix of the book are particularly great. I'd recommend checking them out as soon as you get the book, if you do choose to get it. Cheers. (P.S. Fisher also has a workbook called, 'Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists'. I haven't finished most of it. However, it seems like a really useful step by step guide for learning her approach to parts work.)

'The four Agreements' By Don Ruiz, and 'Seven Habits of highly effective people' by Covey, could be useful books for a general secular blue framework. The most blue integration I've personally felt was when I followed covey's advice of, 'Make small commitments and keep them'. I intend to return to that mindset one day. Regarding discipline, 'Atomic Habits', and 'Deep work' are useful for discipline imo. Military dudes can be useful sources for discipline and examples of integrity. I'd be wary of toxic masculine elements of their teaching though. Hope that helps.

@something_else I think we have a difference of opinions

You can always blame people for reacting badly, imo. People can tell you to leave. Or that they don't like you. That's cool. But if they start yelling at you that they don't give a fuck, that is abusive behaviour, and that's on them.

Dude you're good. Having people yell at you, or tell you to fuck off is abusive behaviour from them, and that shit is on them. You aren't doing anything abusive by approaching or talking to someone or attempting to stand up for yourself. I'd read, 'When I say no I feel guilty' so that you understand your assertive rights. Those police officers were acting weird too, unless something about your vibe struck them as a bit off. With the officer's, in future, you can try to do 'seek first to understand then be understood', i.e. repeat back exactly what they said to you in different words. Then I'd leave because you could be dealing with an erratic police officer.

Lol sounds fun for a while. But feel it would be a very limited life nonetheless. So, I'll pass.

@Someone here Ye dude I'm with Raze. I'd get into Internal Family Systems therapy. Your choice ofc but think it could help you. Btw if the unblending stuff is hard for you, and/or you're pretty dissociative, Janina Fisher's take on the IFS model is useful too, imo. Good luck

@Someone here Okay, gotcha. I believe every description made and that ever will be made is entirely filtered by human biases and emotional state. Regarding your example, I'd say there are numerous subjective claims that are involved with that process. Any means of measurement is something subjectively created by man.

@Tyler Robinson Respectfully, I recall you previously saying you have BPD. To my understanding, this sounds very much like a BPD emotional reaction. I'd recommend being wary of looking to the spiritual path for answers at this point in time.

@Thought Art Dafuq, what point in the vid did he say that? (I havent watched the newest vid)

I think the two go hand in hand. People tend to rationalise what they desire to be okay. That said, I don't think its widely considered to be okay. Most people seem to condemn it.

Imo its because of a combination of two things. Evolutionary biology and gender socialisation. Firstly, evolutionary biology shows that men and women have different mating strategies and these lead to different perceptions of cheating. Men have a stronger natural desire to have as much sex and reproduce with as many women as possible. That is largely because there are low repercussions for engaging in the process of child bearing for them, for it is women who have to deal with the vulnerabilities that come with pregnancy, and men have way more sperm than women have eggs. A woman will naturally be more inclined to want a committed relationship, particularly during pregnancy and as the couple ages, because she is vulnerable and, relative to the man, loses much more of her sexual attractiveness quicker and at an earlier age. Therefore, compromising the existing relationship via cheating makes much less senses from an evolutionary perspective to women. Secondly, gender socialisation refers to the different ways that men and women are generally socialised in societies. I'll focus here predominantly on US style socialisation. Men are socialised to exile feelings of sadness, and compassion, where as women are socialised to exile feelings of anger, generally. Men's process of socialisation makes them less able to care emotionally or themselves or for others as women - making men more disagreeable. Women's process of socialisation makes them less able to draw boundaries, and makes them more agreeable. Cheating in relationships involves breaking the expectations set around that relationship, in other words, it involves overstepping the boundaries of the agreement between two people. Men are socialised in a way which makes them less likely to respect other people's boundaries than women, while women are socialised in a way where they will overly respect other people's boundaries and preferences. The result being that men are socialised in a way which makes them more likely to cheat than women, from a socialisation perspective.

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I think you would need a economics or sociological study to hand in order to analyse this. Also, it could be that in some areas of the states its much harder, and in some places much easier. Also, it might depend on what kind of business you are starting. On a more intuitive level, my opinion is that this isn't likely to be true (re US being worst for entrepreneurship). The republicans have just been in power, and had control of the house of representatives. Which, to my mind, would make it likely that small businesses would have gained numerous benefits over the last few years, making entrepreneurship generally easier, at least from the governmental side of things.

Imo, the parts of the mind are all well-intentioned. They all think they're really doing what is best for you. However, often they are misguided. For example, they desire junk food as they see it as a high-calorie meal that will help you survive for longer.

@FlyingLotus Thanks for keeping up with this!

That's sick! What type of meditation have you generally done?

Nice!