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Let's go slightly meta on this, even asking "was this girl right to block me?" is a partial failure on your part because you are asking the question with bias. Within your own questioning you're implying as if the girl already knows you're a great guy who isn't a pervert, which you very likely aren't you just meant to joke around. Look at it from her perspective though, would you consider blocking that person? That might give you your answer. Adjust your behavior accordingly.

It's as simple as this: If their survival strategy is working well enough in their environment, what incentive do they have to change? A conservative stage blue farmer is never going to give a fuck about rampant stage orange capitalism or stage green social issues and feel the need to develop themselves in the face of those things if their life has more or less worked out for them with little resistance. They got married, raised some kids, had a steady honest job for 40+ years and now own a decent home and can retire. If that's all they value and it's been accomplished it literally feels to them that they have reality figured out and they don't need to do any better. This is why most people die at the stage they are raised in. It just has to work out to a certain minimum level and that's it. Appreciate the fact that any of us being interested in developing ourselves is a major stroke of luck. Just the fact that you're aware of spiral dynamics or any sort of personal development puts you in a crazy high percentile of privilege, let alone having the luxury and resources to pursue such things.

The reason you're not lasting long is because you are probably stuck in thought and so preoccupied with the "result" and anticipating the future so much (oh my god I'm gonna cum, she is so hot I can't cum this fast or I'll look weak!) that it is actually making your body tense up and spasm out of reaction to those worries. The antidote to this? You might think it's more thought of something negative or gross to distract you. It's actually no thought at all. You want to feel into your bodily sensations even more! Counter-intuitively this will actually make you last longer because you are now relaxing your body and slowly enjoying the process of it, instead of obsessing about the grand finale. Don't just focus your gaze on the penetration all the time, look into her eyes, notice other parts of her body, and yours too, notice little details while they arise, explore while doing the act, feel your breathing and make sure it's natural and flowing, communicate and check in now and then to make sure they are comfortable and nothing hurts. Remember sex is shared, sacred event. Do not ever go into it with a selfish mentality of wanting to get off, your role is to be entirely focused about what YOU can give to the other person as a gift, and they will reciprocate (hopefully). Learning this has helped me become quite good in bed and made me last way longer than I used to, even the woman I'm with now who is incredibly attractive to me I can basically last an infinite amount of time unless I want to focus on finishing. It's actually kind of hard to cum when you're so preoccupied with doing what you can to satisfy the other person. Next time you have sex @Solvinden, genuinely focus all your energy and passion into pleasing your partner and let me know if your stamina improves.

I wonder how many people have gone to the doctor panicking after shitting out beets thinking their insides are broken or that they have cancer Yea jokes aside beets are awesome. They taste delicious in almost every form.

Here is what happened man; She was drunk and when she sobered up the next day probably thought what the fuck was she thinking trying to have random sex in the back of a moving car. She didn't text you back because she is embarrassed and doesn't want to think about it dude. Just give her some space and don't talk about it for a while.

The discipline to resist the ego minds demands, and to act authentically in it's place.

Nothing evil or wrong with pornography. Sex is a wonderful thing in life and people should be able to enjoy it in the various forms it comes in. Just try to only use it a handful of times a year when you're single and really horny. The problem comes from the fact it's so readily available, and the majority of people don't have the discipline to stop themselves from using it too much. Where is can easily become an addiction. Think of porn like chocolate bars or candy. Almost everyone in the world likes some kind of chocolate bar or candy, and no matter where you go in our modern society it's pretty easy to find. Whether you're in a small town in the middle of nowhere, or a city. Every gas station, corner store, grocery store, or even non-food related stores will have them, ready to be eaten. However you know they're so tasty and rich that if you eat too much of them, or get one every time you go into a gas station or grocery store it might damage your health, and for sure make you sick if you overdue it. They taste so good because there is so much sugar, and it's designed in mind to give you pure pleasure at the cost of everything else. The cost is any nutrition, damage to your teeth, even the risk of diabetes after years of not controlling the addiction. Porn is just like candy, but the costs of the pleasure are mental, sexual, and physiological. By all means enjoy it, but treat it exactly like what it is (no pun intended)......... a treat.

I thought Leo would appreciate the larger picture at play here for something like this, but it seems he's adamant in being a contrarian and pointing out the selfishness coming from all directions , which he is isn't that wrong in by the way. Still, I think moments in history like this are perfect examples of how we're evolving. It's never been so hilariously transparent that our systems are deeply flawed, corrupt, and unequal. It's so blatant now that no apologist should be able argue otherwise without getting laughed out of the room like a flat-earther. Hopefully when all is said and done some laws are passed that insulate us all against this stupidity, and regular people start to decondition themselves from the money cult of a society we're in and realize; Rich people truly don't give a FUCK about anyone but themselves. Fuck The System

Be patient. When things are meant to happen, things will click and you will feel it. Stop expecting to be successful with every encounter, you're just gonna disappoint yourself. No guy or girl is good enough to game every other person from the opposite sex. Sometimes people just aren't that compatible. You can know all the theory and do everything "right", that doesn't guarantee shit. If that spark isn't there, it isn't there. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop overthinking and dwelling on any mistakes. Use that time and energy to be working on the next girl, make sense?

Eat the rich.

You're so off the cusp @Striving for more, I don't even know where to begin mate, but I'll do my best to address everything you said as I think it's warranted. Maybe it will help some other readers as well. First of all nobody who was raised with the social conditioning that taught them to have any level of success and experience with the opposite sex feels the need to do pick-up. If you already know how to catch fish, why the hell would you go to fishing school? You wouldn't go. It's not smug to point out something as simple as that at all. What I said isn't even controversial, how you came to that conclusion is frankly confusing to me, I'm guessing you're just being a bit defensive here. Also "95%" of men not having the social skills and confidence to attract the opposite sex is not only anecdotally absurd to anybody here reading that statement, if it were even half that number let alone close to it we literally wouldn't even be here having this conversation, because the species wouldn't be able to survive and reproduce LOL. The vast majority of people know how to get in relationships or get sex in some capacity, the lack of social conditioning is mostly a recent phenomena, likely caused by technology being too abundant and popular No, but they CAN. You have to realize, whenever anybody lacks something and they try to compensate for it, they might feel it's necessary to go overboard or be reckless/hasty about it because there is social pressure to "catch-up", which was my original point. If you take a chronically impoverished person and suddenly show them all the potential ways they could make money, they might be tempted to take the easiest, selfish, and most ruthless route they can. The same goes for someone who has been deprived sex and human connection for whatever reason, whether it was their fault or they were a victim of a shitty environment. The lesson here is you can never underestimate a desperate person. "Lacking" can push people to improve healthily, but they can also improve unhealthily. Watch out and observe all the ways the mind will justify and rationalize exploiting other people to fill that "lack". There is too much in this salad of a rant so I'll just say a few things. - Be clear about distinguishing pick-up and general self-improvement and not mix them up like they are the same thing. Yes pick-up has a lot of general self-help in it, which is great I hope people do that and it helps them, but don't misconstrue the fact that the heart of "pick-up" is to get better with the opposite gender so you can have relationships/sex. To challenge YOU specifically, think about the fact calling yourself someone who practices "pick-up" might be apart of your identity. So it's of course in YOUR best interest to defend it and make it appear as noble and great as possible. "Oh yah, pick-up is awesome. It's all about self-improvement. I just want to be the best I can be. I wanted help with women and now I got it and I'm better because of pick-up." Really challenge your own biases. - Yes maybe it would help a lot of guys to get into pick-up (once again they wouldn't need to do it because well, most guys already know how to get laid. It's actually the exception to struggle on something so basic, unfortunately) but it also has the potential to be abused in toxic, selfish ways. A lot of people are very egoic and aren't responsible, they will abuse the spirit of improvement and the power they might get from it in awful ways. There is countless evidence of this. This isn't even debatable so I don't need to bring up a semantic list, but just the fact ALONE that some of the biggest most successful pick-up channels that existed on YouTube and the internet have been permanently banned and had countless accusations come to light. If that doesn't make you immediately laugh, and then question your position a bit, I don't know what will.

Here is all you need to know to understand "pick-up" >>> It's from and for, men and boys who didn't get the social skills and development growing up that they needed in how to deal with the opposite sex, so now they are overcompensating. That's literally all it is. It's not any more complicated than that. Of course as should be obvious, whenever you are overcompensating for anything in life, it tends to be done in sloppy, reckless, and selfish ways.

It doesn't even matter at this point. They will have no chance of beating Kamala Harris. They either try to backtrack and save face by nominating someone milk toast and boring compared to Trump, who won't galvanize the nation enough to win, or they introduce someone even crazier than Trump that they won't want to rally around because of the fiasco they just went through. Either way the GOP is colossally fucked for 4, 8, maybe even 12 years.

You are shaming and gaslighting someone when they are trying to respect the fact we are in the global pandemic that is killing millions of people? What the fuck is wrong with you @Hello from Russia?

How @narkuser you are one solid looking guy! You will be fine if you stay persistent.

@Striving for more I don't use the word clown merely as a negative thing like. Of course you can also get positives from them like you mentioned, which is great. I mean more the essence of a clown itself, which is too distract. People lose the bigger picture, and get too caught up in the "hey look at this guy, he said X". And then people are further drawn into arguing the XYZ's and the positive/negatives of the clown. Which are all endless semantics, because the clown doesn't care. They're just happy the distraction is working, of course this isn't a conscious process. I do hope for people though that they have the consciousness to see through this, and know better, so they can make the world better.

Remember not to get distracted from your own inner work by paying attention to these clowns too much. There are so many wacky and boisterous personas in the world, that you could spend a lifetime getting invested and being entertained by them all, only to have all that time pass and realize it was a waste. Just drive by the circus with a smile, and wave.

That is ego. If everyone could get away with it, they'd fuck and marry the maximum value person they could no matter where they are at themselves.

I'm going to spend a bit more time optimizing and investing in my health with supplements, just looking for some advice from people with lots of experience in the area. What are the overall best/cost effective supplements to take that actually noticeably help your health significantly? Not looking to spend $100's on every little mineral or placebo, just want the ones that pack an actual punch with (hopefully) no side effects. Some information on me (if you need more ask); - 27 year old male - Live in northern Ontario (cold climate 6 months of year, hot/very humid other 6 months) - Quite healthy, only health issues are mid-day fatigue/brain fog some days, and bad psoriasis. - Good diet. Limit sugar intake to just coffee (2 cups a day), eat mostly fruit/veg/organic food, was vegetarian for 4 years now added just fish (1-2 times per week) - Currently take Maca, D3, and Calcium every other day (forgetful lol)

Happiness is simply being radically content and accepting of reality in the present moment.

Spontaneously doing little things that make their day brighter, or make a hard day a bit easier. I like communicating that they are special (to me), and that they are worthy of support and love. Stuff like making breakfast for them even though they never asked. Or leaving a nice message (or sexual one) in their car or texted to them. They can be really small gestures that cost little energy and can be completely free money wise, but go a long way on the impact they have on your partner. Acts of service is my outwards love language I guess hah. My preferred one to receive is quality time.

I might watch it, Thomas Jane is a good actor.

Who has time to watch porn lol? It's way too much of a time investment, it's like 20-40ish minutes for a video to watch the whole way through if you want to build suspense. Just don't get it.

I was in an unfortunate place yesterday as well @Preety_India. You know what I realized? All just bad thoughts, stop thinking! Stop THINKING. STOP. THINKING! Thoughts don't = reality. Reality = reality.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having preferences. Intimacy is a private domain of YOUR life, so it's only natural you get to choose who occupies that space. It's not like you are being discriminate towards who are your co-workers or family, that is where the line gets blurry. It's only limiting if you feel it's causing you to act in more unhealthy or selfish ways, watch out for that. But also don't abandon or guilt yourself out of enjoying and controlling your life in some capacities. You don't need to be a leaf blowing in the wind.