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No it wasn't. Not from his point of view. In fact he thought what was was doing was great and perfectly good. Evil doesn't really exist. All it is is an illusion of a simple majority social consensus. Let's say history played out different where the majority of the world actually sided with the Axis and their worldview and they won WW2. What you would live in is a world where people like you and me would be Nazis too and think we were perfectly good, and if you thought you'd think like you do now in this hypothetical, you'd be lying to yourself because it would mean you would have to sacrifice your survival and die being a conscious objector. 99% of people cannot admit how quickly they'd abandon their principles once their skin is in the game. In other words, Evil is precisely what we call things that are inconvenient to our survival. Where whatever is convenient to our survival we call good. The intuitive distinction we make that actually draws us to a higher "goodness" is operating in the background of the traditional conversation of moralism, and it's that we recognize any strategy for survival that is too blatantly limited, not expansive, and causes excess suffering (like Nazism) can't be a good strategy for a constantly evolving species. I guess you could call this intuition a "spiritual" morality and it takes the brutal relativity of reality into account. Though this intuition is more like an overarching guiding force and most people are completely unconscious of it. This is what people are really talking about when they bring up the "Moral Arc of the Universe".

I don't really have a dog in this fight as I outgrew all his content years and years ago, but I have to say it................ The amount of Jordan Peterson hate I see on here is ridiculous. He is a great speaker and teach er, and has helped tens of millions of people with his work. He's making more of an impact than most public figures and "intellectuals" these days. Yes he's got flaws in his epistemology and rails on progressives way more than he should but cut the man some slack. Take the good and leave the rest.

Any substance use will fundamentally cloud your mind, your ability to think, and your consciousness. It's best if any alcohol or substance use is relegated to only very rare occasions like Christmas parties or birthdays. Prepare yourself mentally because you WILL be judged for living a cleaner lifestyle, but how you feel will be worth far more than any razzing you get.

Yea YouTube can be crazy addicting but also crazy beneficial if you are mindful of what content you watch I'm extremely selective with my subscriptions. I've actually only been subbed to the same 7-10 channels for like 10 years.

OP didn't say it was for spiritual enlightenment, just regular personal development and relationships. They overlap but certainly not here.

Everything has it's place, up until the point it doesn't. Perhaps one day we will reach a point where there is next to no killing animals for food, but until that day, this is what is. Of course someone will interpret this as being dangerously passive and as a way to dismiss the problem, "Oh so we shouldn't strive to improve anything at all then?" But that's not what I'm saying, and is just a bad faith interpretation driven by emotion. I'm simply pointing out reality that it exists. Not moralizing or making a judgement call about it. If you accept reality as it is and for what it is, you can see it more clearly and therefore act from a better place. Notice how by moralizing and being upset about something you are actually perpetuating even MORE suffering than otherwise would be the case. This doesn't mean being upset is "bad", any experience is a valid one. Just consider - If you want to improve the situation by reducing suffering and increasing consciousness, would it not be wise to start with yourself first and foremost? Do you think people who want to help animals and change societies habits would be more effective from a place of peace and acceptance, or anger and unacceptance? This post isn't directed specifically at you @Lyubov but anyone reading.

What I just mentioned is the method basically. Your emotions are a good indicator if something is toxic for you, because you will literally feel it.

It's not a science. But the method you should be using is always be cross referencing how you feel internally and observing your own results, vs what proper authorities in society/culture/science might be telling you and looking at results where it HAS worked. Of course only YOU can truly know internally what works for you and what doesn't, but you need to develop radical honesty and increase your consciousness so your ego doesn't delude you back into inaction. Reflect on anything in your personal life that you're trying to work on or improve, is it not obvious most times if something is working or not, when you really sit down and look at it?

Anything can be used as a personal development tool really, as long as you're being conscious about it's use and not letting it become toxic for you. See although it can easily be perceived as a trolling post, there is actually something of value here. @Fandango seems to be already content enough about his dating skills that he can put it on the backburner for a while, but also knows he still has to fulfill his need for sex and pleasure. So instead of giving into his ego and using his ability with women to get that sex in a bad way he's found a healthier way to go about things until he has worked out enough things in himself that he can eventually go back to dating a healthier way.

Ray Comfort has infiltrated Actualized.Org forums lmao.

I believe all this nonsense about diet can be remedied if only we all remembered what our moms said to us growing up - "Too much of anything is bad for you."

Huh? Could you elaborate a bit? I know there are probably genetics that affect the psychology that makes people more "open-minded" and in touch with their emotions/spirituality than others, but 90%? Are you saying 90% CAN'T do spirituality at a deep level? Or that 90% of people WON'T be interested in pursuing it? I mean it's not like University astro-physics where some people won't have the cognitive ability to comprehend the equations no matter what you do. You could teach someone spirituality though if you hit the right cord with them no? I mean some egos will be denser than others........

Well do you really want to keep doing pick-up right now? Or consider that you could always go back to pick-up later on in your life. What matters is expressing how you really feel and accepting the consequences of it. This overthinking and hoping for the "right" answer like it's logical math question shit, is only doing you AND her a disservice. Are those feelings for her genuine, you enjoy being together, and there isn't anything toxic about the relationship? Then what are you waiting for. Commit to each other and see what happens.

You're having too much time to overthink, and stew. It exacerbates negative feelings. Find something you enjoy doing, and do that instead. Without thinking about it.

Yes I am registered to get vaccinated. Just awaiting an appointment to be booked. I will list some simple reasons why I want to be vaccinated ASAP. - I don't want to catch the virus, because that would suck. - I'm a responsible citizen, and a first responder. I do not want to be a vector to infect other people. - I want to be able to travel again as soon as possible and enjoy life.

This is good. I know it's painful, but facing the emotions and understanding them will make it easier to pass through. Part of the reason they persist is lack of understanding and acceptance. So you are headed in the right direction

Some people (those girls) just have a buzz about them sometimes where they just want to interact, and unfortunately they aren't always perceptive to other peoples emotional states. As for your question, look man you don't want to do this. You are thinking about this from a place of fear, which I know you know is not a good thing. Being even more guarded and reclusive may "protect" you a bit better against people like this, but you have to understand they are rare anyways. What's even worse is you would be closing yourself to all the beautiful, positive interactions you might have. The question you should be asking yourself is, "How do I let go and become emotionally unphased when others aren't being considerate". That place of strength is where you want to go, and you will not get there by being protective. You think being "protected" makes you strong, but in fact it's the exact opposite. What makes you strong is being vulnerable and then building up from the hits you take.

There is a lot of bullshit in life, especially in our Western culture. It's a wise decision to try and minimize it so you have more time and resources for what's important to you.

Your potential is limitless so of course there is a lot of work to do It can be overwhelming always looking at the big picture though, you have to learn to stay present and trust the process of chipping away a little bit at a time, day by day. It's also hard to notice any strides you're making until years go by and you realize just how much you've accomplished. One thing I like to ask myself every few months is, am I better off now than I would have been if I hadn't been doing all this work?

The phrasing you used reminded me of a great song

It's certainly advanced teachings, but the depth and importance of it is precisely why it won't become mainstream or known enough as it "needs" to be. It will stay buried under mountains of other stuff, perhaps some people who discover it in the future will be more open minded and recognize it for what it is and make it pick up steam, but we aren't there yet. Even just consider now what @Forestluv said. Only 1% (less I bet) of people can really access it and appreciate it, and that's the advanced stuff where the real juicy work happens. 99% of people can't even do the basic personal development work and consider the fact you can radically change yourself and therein the world by taking a bit of time simply looking inwards and weeding out all your own biases and bullshit. The overwhelming majority of humanity is still consumed by the projection game and fighting outwards. It really shows how dire the situation is when even the most calm, well intentioned, conscious person will get completely rejected by 99/100 people in even the most advance societies for showing them how to look inwards. They will be dismissed as radical spiritual hippies with an agenda. It will probably take hundreds more years and many more disasters with tens of millions dead before we exhaust the projection game as a species and it becomes tolerable for most egos to finally calm down and look at themselves. From the Roman Empire until the end of WW2 is took us nearly 2000 years to learn the lesson of nationalism and stop killing each other over imaginary lines in the sand. We really can't appreciate enough how fucking ruthless and high stakes the game of reality is. I know it's against the attitude of these communities to flaunt because it is in opposition to the nature of it, but we have to admit this work is extremely Esoteric. You should count your lucky stars and really reflect how privileged you are that are open minded enough for it.

I have a little pro tip that might help you > Uninstall all apps you have on your phone that you can do on your computer. So Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, etc. That way you'll actually have to deliberately sit down and be at home to use those things, and it won't be distracting you during your day - whether you're at work, with friends, and so on... You want your phone to basically just be a way to text and communicate with people, and as an emergency device encase you need help or need maps because you are lost. You won't only save time but can actually save some money by cutting back on your DATA plan You have to be ruthless about this though. Actually sit down and consciously go through every single APP on your phone and eliminate what you consider a distraction that needs to go. I exclusively use my phone for communication and google maps so I can find things. No social media, no games, etc. A minimalist attitude and approach is what you need to adopt. Because you see, we are in a "Cult of Convenience". Everything about our economy and the way technology is designed is to make just slightly easier, and to have the ability to do more pointless shit anywhere we are. All of this serves is to endlessly distract us from living life purposefully. Just think about how many people have died being hit by cars because they were looking at a stupid Facebook notification. It's just so convenient that it is right there on their phone, and they couldn't wait to look because it was so convenient when they felt their phone buzz in their pocket. Now they are dead when they could have just waited to get home and check it from the safety of their living room.

It's just another sad, dark chapter in Africa's history. Out of the frying pan and into the fire, they say. I hope by the end of my lifetime that continent, it's peoples, and it's resources finally stops getting exploited and humanity can put this all behind us.

I think most coffee is largely pretty benign. It only becomes a problem if you're furiously addicted like me and become hysterically violent if you don't get your fix like I HAVEN'T HAD TODAY RAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just brought it up because your language was leaning in that direction, and our language usually reflects our attitude about things.