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It can be lonely being a screw, in a nail world

I know you're a real person and this is generally good advice, but with the way this post is I can't help but be reminded of cringey YouTube comment spam

Well that's good, I might play PUBG again if this reduces the amount of Chinese hackers LOL

In my opinion I wouldn't go about it trying to hit a certain number of approaches just for approaches sake, because you're gonna get your practice no matter what if you're out there and putting proper energy into it. Quality over quantity. It will probably get monotonous and your encounters will get less meaningful because you'll be talking to the 48th/50th girl for the month and just want the conversation to be over I would focus more on setting what specific result do you want. Do you want phone numbers? Do you want to set up a date? If you want to get a phone number for example, just go out until you achieve your goal. It might take 4 approaches, or 23! But you keep your eye on your goal and do whatever work comes.

I thought you were going to split up with this guy? So he is so busy with work he barely wants to hang out and have sex, and when you do have sex he isn't even able to do it properly? It's awesome you're trying so hard to get things to work, but should you have to try so hard?

Find what works for you, things in your life will generally backfire if you just try to ape others. Kobe Bryant was a world class athlete that only slept 4-5 hours per night, imagine how many aspiring basketball players screwed up their health trying to imitate that without considering that they didn't win the genetic lottery like him.

Can we stop talking about Trump? He's so boring and like so last year.....

I'm not advocating for suffering. In fact I want to minimize it as much as possible! Which sometimes means being forced to pick the lesser of two shitty options. Your attitude on the other hand it seems is that you are too triggered to even accept that suffering exists at all, and want to manipulate reality to create options where there is no suffering, which of course ironically creates even more suffering in the struggle to do so.

I'd be willing to bet money a lot less Afghans will die in the next decade, compared to the previous decade from NATO being in the region.

Perhaps consider why it was so easy for the Taliban to take control of the country is because A LOT more people than we are willing to admit are either supportive of, or neutral in having the Taliban in charge. I'm sure most don't care who is in charge ultimately, they just want a unified government that will bring some stability. Though they definitely don't want white foreigners running their country after 75+ years of non-stop war and occupation. There would have been WAY more resistance if most Afghans weren't content with letting the Taliban take control. They practically waltzed their way to the presidential palace. We have to dispel this naïve notion that the Taliban is some completely separate evil entity. The Taliban IS Afghanistan, MADE UP of Afghans.

I honestly didn't even read this, wow this is bad. This is just a defeatist attitude to use to rationalize selfishness and devilry. Not the kind of behavior you want to be condoning as advice to others. We are on a personal development forum. It should be obvious we are trying to do that consciously, not by exploiting others.

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Read my post again. I'm talking about OP as the third party. Him enabling her is pretty much just as bad as her cheating herself. That is only if we know she is married 100% which is ambiguous based on what he said. The whole thing sounds sketchy.

Then she would be fine with letting you talk to him, or not getting instantly defensive. Yeah based on what you've said this sounds like some bored married woman looking to cheat on her husband. Don't be the catalyst for that to happen. Cut her off. Being the outsider of a relationship and sleeping with the cheater is basically just as bad as the cheater themselves, in my opinion.

You look healthier! I hope you feel that way too!

This^ It should be mostly obvious, you don't need to drive yourself crazy questioning everything because of a simple remark. Either you are attracted to guys, or not. You don't do this by logically thinking by the way, you do it by feeling. The actual thoughts that arise in your head are more reflections of those feelings. Perhaps, and I don't mean to sound offensive, but maybe you just don't have a lot of experience and don't know exactly what you like. I'd recommend really putting yourself out there and exploring so you can get a better idea of what that is.

You worded it as if it was a statement and not a question. That you can't accept that they are losing interest, so they ought to win you over. Sorry if I misunderstood it's not always easy to interpret what people mean through just text.

Don't think too highly of yourself if you're genuinely wondering and questioning why things aren't working. It's going to be hard to find someone who is into being a third wheel. And yes while technically you can make it a "separate" relationship it will never feel like that for them.

You love him right? Is the relationship great? If yes then I don't see why you should leave. Do what you can within reason, but remember to set the boundary it's not on you to be his only support or solve the problem. Make sure he is getting professional help like therapy and consulting about what medication he needs to take.

If you start eating healthy for a while, you'll likely become disgusted by shitty food, or at least react badly too it. I haven't been able to eat McDonalds for 10 years even if I craved it. Yea it would still taste good, but if I ate a big mac meal with a coke, it would make me physically ill.

I'm not saying you need to get blackout drunk. Just enough to grease up the wheels and slow down all the neuroticism. In fact now that I think about it, this might be the only thing alcohol has any use for at all.

Yes they do. All the time. I worked in an old folks home for just a little of a year. In just that short time I learned you have to be mindful of making bonds too close with too many of the residents because every wintertime the common flu rolls around and kills a surprising amount of people. We need vaccines because the human body is only so strong and we live an ever changing biological environment. The particular issue with Covid is although it's only somewhat more deadly than the flu statistically, it is OVERWHELMINGLY more contagious. So many more people will get it, and many more people will die. Think about it, every year a new common flu strain makes a lap but it's something we barely think about. If you're old or work in healthcare you gotta get a shot, and it's more or less optional for pretty much everyone else. You stay home if you get sick, but that's about it. Hell nobody even ever thinks about wearing a mask when having the flu, it's just common sense to stay away. Now we have Covid, where even after 8 months of vaccinations, we've mostly opened up from lockdowns and we are seeing it spread like wildfire back to contraction levels we had with no vaccinations and moderate lockdown. This demonstrates exactly how stupidly contagious it is. Imagine if the vaccine didn't exist, nobody was wearing masks, and there were zero lockdown rules anywhere. There is a very high chance we'd be looking at the collapse of most societies and an extremely strained civilization. Supply chains would break down, global trade would halt, health care systems everywhere would fail. Somehow a virus that doesn't give a shit who it infects has been politicized though and many morons would be completely fine with all the above, well at least until they couldn't order a big mac in the drive thru, or when they are having a ventilator put down their throat. Mortality has a nice way of purging the stupid out of you, that is if you make it out the other side. Like I'm pretty sure there were no Black Death deniers and conspiracy theorists back in the day lol. If you were preaching on the streets that it was all a hoax you'd get stoned to death back then

There is a reason they call it liquid courage. I'm just saying. Why go through hours and hours of study and courses, what $15 can show you isn't that big a deal?

Why would it not be worth it? If you want something out of life, you have to put something into it. I'd argue you might not be aware that the reason you are just going to "let it happen" is because you actually want to be depressed about it and feed your ego secretly. I can tell because I've gone through exactly what you're going through. Let's take a look at all these (judgmental) words you've used; And you don't need to meet 5000 girls to find a girlfriend or someone to click with. Leo uses absurd hyperbole with numbers like that. Maybe a few hundred, even less. Not a big number considering how many people you meet in a given year.

I'm the exact same way, I can't be bothered with the majority of people. You know what is great though? Those FEW people you really like go find them.