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@Hardkill stop doing all that nonsense. You need to strip away the layers also, not just add.

I used to think that too. Honestly, the more enlightened someone is, the more unfamiliar it feels to us, until we have a grasp for that mode of being (in my experience). but if your intuition tells you that... it’s possible you’re not entirely wrong

very Interesting. I’ve been stuck on the slingshot for a while as well

Do you remember your dreams? Start there... they’re pretty honest. even if real life you is not conscious enough to know the emotional issues, dreams are much more revealing. I recommend you start writing them down. And try to decipher what they’re trying to tell you. People here or another forum or maybe through books can help you decode the meaning.

guys I just want to know how to sexceed

@Martin123 thx sinbad

@Adam M zan perrion is green af

@Meetjoeblack how do you dhv? i know how the rest work: 3sr, preselection, compliance, and isolation.

@Identity Yes, out of my whole body it feels like energy is always trapped their as well. Mmmm.

love guru nanak

It’s pretty difficult, if you’re not in 4th Jhana

@JonasVE12 that is very good advice. This is the type of stuff I was looking for @Arzola yes either LSD or psilocybin. @JunkyJu funnily enough, I tried that already for this very reason. It’s quite brutal at first so but I bet it would work long term if i would have stayed longer. School got in the way and I’m not welcome back, oh well, lol.

@TrynaBeTurquoise i've done plenty of this but it seems like unless i dont get some level of actual, direct exposure is a more immediate way to face this issue. perhaps not at the root cause, but certainly prevents me from avoiding it in some sense. so perhaps a mix of both... being on this gradual desensitization protocol, combined with lots of meditating on the feeling which will inevitably arise in quite an intense manner.

Doing something badly, is better than doing nothing at all. Procrastination is a bitch and at the end of it all a half-assed attempt that takes moments to do, is better than something you never did or took too long to do. A start is a start. Even then, when you give yourself permission to do something badly, creativity is unstifled, so the work is likely better than your cynic mind expected. Wonderful that you got this insight.

I think I've been out 2-3 times since I made this post. Will leave notes for me to reflect on, to get some constructive advice from others, and to hopefully help others dealing with similar issues. I am working with an anxiety workbook I bought at a bookstore. Will come back later to give field reports so to speak. Also, if you're here to criticize or leave primarily judgmental remarks, please I don't want anything to do with that. I know this is an intermediate step on my path in life. A bit superficial in some sense, but I believe it is an essential one that cannot be skipped.

I think youre right.

@28 cm unbuffed yes, i dont care too much about the SA anxiety either and fighting it feels contrived... its just my counselor said that my SA is REALLY bad but I'm okay generally speaking in spite of this, I dont see it as an issue. .... i wonder what is the best option. i wonder if I am BSing myself when I could force myself to do some of these things and it will have good long term effects. thats precisely why I made this threa, so people can point out flaws in my reasoning and help me avoid my own traps/

and... it tends to snowball and carryover into my important aspects of my life like school. Getting depressed, angry, and consequently not very functional. I know this is all rooted in trauma from being ignored. But I cannot keep relying on others to give me the attention and validation I want especially since my mind probably fixates and exaggerates these things. This causes me immense suffering. And I truly must overcome this soon. or maybe the best way to say it is: feeling unloved

orange bcus i always gets caught up in it

@Bridge to Infinity i was having the same issue for days. only mobile worked for me

So more like Theravada? Thai forest tradition - would look into these guys

lol chill...

I remember RSDTyler talking about this a long time ago. Said girls were too ADD to appreciate a good guy and needed more spikes in emotion. Similary, with attachment style paradigm, it's that "anxious" dynamic between individuals that leaves us craving for the other persons attention and we confuse that with love.

that country needs help.

A fool is not someone that doesn't know, rather a person who simultaneously doesn't know and walks as if he does.