hoodrow trillson

A cheater that cheated and still lost is even more embarrassing

OP, you're not going to get the brutal truth that you want to hear on this forum lol. Almost all of the replies are just blaming you for not taking initiative or not being "confident enough" lmao. It's crazy to me the obvious blindspot of lookism that exists in our society yet it's much easier to just blame the person themselves for not having "confidence" lol. In this illusory dream world we all live in, (speaking in the 1st world perspective here) women tend to like immutable traits in men that are impossible or difficult to change or fraud. Height, hair, face, dick size, etc--stuff that's set in stone by your genetics. Women have a lot more to lose in the dating game because they can get pregnant and that's a huge fucking deal because the consequence is massively life-changing. The stuff you can change like body, hairstyle, money, etc? Who really cares, just don't go too extreme with it as a coping mechanism because you will stand out far more in a bad way. (like being hilariously muscular and ripped, or having 40 yachts or like wearing ridiculous clothes, wearing a silly toupee etc). Just embrace that and it will set you free. Then you have nothing to lose once you understand this and THEN you can approach and just take it easy and have more success without that burden on the back of your mind. Luck is also a massive component that no one talks about too. You have to destroy that paradigm and also the "be more confident!!!" paradigm at the same time, so you don't end up going in circles in a dark, twisted, self fulfilling prophecy. Good luck.

Escapism? The use of this word is based on the assumption that there’s someone here, wanting to exit somewhere “out there” to end “suffering”. Spirituality/meditation is used merely to stay here and question our use of thoughts, words and labels as gospel, and begin questioning this “reality” you speak about. You’re not going anywhere, “reality” is inescapable. I get what you’re saying and it makes total sense but I think (lol) what’s really happening, it the opposite of what you’re saying. Leo made a good metaphor of the movie The Matrix. Most people think that spirituality is breaking out of The Matrix/reality because it’s an illusion like a dream, right? It’s actually the inverse—The Matrix/reality is real—but YOU aren’t. The whole time the entity trying to escape the matrix wasn’t there the entire time lol

Go to the doctor and explain what you're experiencing. You don't know for sure and posting on a forum won't get you the correct answer. You could have a heart problem, even if you're healthy and young--it's the luck of the draw with these bodies. It's best to catch it early if that's the case.

I think it's fair to close those high risk areas down due to the uh, unprecedented 1-in-100 year global pandemic. Personally, I really miss going to bars/clubs not going to lie. It'll be back when things go back to "normal" but a lot of those businesses are going to crash and burn. They will pop up again because humans have always loved dancing and partying since the dawn of time but if you're in that business right now--it'll be wise to start side hustles to keep you afloat and change professions if you can--that industry is taking a massive hit, much more than the restaurant business.

Thats amazing! You definitely did get a peak of what's really happening. Same thing happened to me except it was a potent edible. When I would watch Leo's and Spira's videos, everything made complete sense in the most simple way possible. It was obvious and almost laughably so. It was almost like the mind eventually would butt in and begin to do the mind things it does and it's completely wrong. Thanks for sharing!

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I've been on the other side of your situation OP. I was the best friend hanging out with my best friend's ex. I wanted to bang her so bad and that was basically our reason for hanging out--the exciting slow back and fourth of it being a naughty taboo thing to be doing and also being chill with each other since our personalities were similar. We were just flirting while being friends and maybe if we felt ballsy enough we'd end up fucking. Ultimately, we didn't do it out of respect to my best friend--the weight of guilt that started looming over me slowly, was far too much--that I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to look him directly in his eyes if I did it and tried to keep it a secret. It's a classic situation that happens very commonly actually. it's not really a "love triangle" but more of a "hmmm we totally want to bang but I have loyalty to someone" problem. It is very scummy and I felt dirty about it.

When I tripped with a FWB, we didn't even fuck because it would've been too weird. We weren't even in the same headspace to do that. Not like the sex would be bad, it's just it would probably look like some weird alien-fleshbody action and it could weird you out. I know someone that it kind of ruined sex for them because they saw it for what it really was.

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That girl looks like she wants to kill herself listening to that

Apparently the game is incredibly buggy and causing brickings of PS4/PS5s that Sony actually pulled Cyberpunk off the online store and is issuing refunds. I don't think that has ever been done before. It was definitely rushed.

Santa Claus.

Goes to show you how trash the GOP is. Conned by Donald fucking Trump?! Lmfao. I wouldn’t be surprised if some Republicans switch to being Democrats after all this shit. It’s absolutely embarrassing and the whole world is watching the GOP with a raised eyebrow. Does Trump have dirt on all these people in the GOP who are blindly having his back?

OK!

I'll inject anything from the US Government.

That's it! I wouldn't worry about it too much. A lot of girls "date" older men in secret anyways so *shrugs*

It's the face that counts! And a HUGE personality.

lol it's usually just a preference for them so I wouldn't really hold it against them. Part of it is mainstream media with regards to beauty. Can't escape it bro

If the guy is good looking then it's probably just her finding an older man hot. A lot of younger women tend to like older men. Not all older men though, only ones that don't look old as shit, ugly or are balding, wrinkly, fat, etc. Sounds to me by your description of 'he doesn't look like a serial killer' (lmao) might be the reason she's attracted to him and she's just having fun. Besides, you can't do anything about it anyways but you just gotta at least have her back in case the guy is nuts or something.

As a fellow extrovert: I think it seems that way because part of it is projection. A lot of people on this forum have more of an introverted type of personality going by the threads and posts I see--once in a while, this forum will catch a curious extrovert just looking to broaden the life paintbrush out of sheer child-like curiosity--and these extroverts might not even be coming from a place of trying to cope from suffering in life or any myriad of mental issues some people on this website have. They just enjoy life so much and they want more on top of that! I'm a 34 year old guy and I am ABSOLUTELY glad I did stupid shit like partying, chasing women, drinking, smoking, hanging with friends, etc. Hell, I'm still doing some of that stupid shit lmao. Some can point and call it immaturity or unenlightened but that action of pointing and judgment is actually immature and unenlightened! Tomorrow is never promised and having these weirdo guidelines of "don't party in your 20s, get serious in your 30s, by your 40s you should be a CEO" is absolute crap. Have fun! This life thing is a fucking miracle to even experience in the first place and nobody knows jack shit about this life. My personal "rule" is to have fun, take the fun routes in life, try the counterintuitive methods sometimes and live it up! Just don't hurt anybody in the process and remember that there are consequences in this life so do not end up in prison for God's sake. If you get joy out of something harmless, enjoy it!!!

The one thing I don't get.... is why even respond to another teacher? Isn't that just a big circle jerk? Isn't that action in itself technically 'unenlightened'?

This is pure speculation but if Trump actually went up to the podium before coronavirus hit the USA, and bullshitted his way into pretending he was being a very presidential leader with shit like “We’re going to crush this pandemic at the gates. Have faith in me and my team and with the cooperation of you, the American people—we will stop this disease at the root.” He would’ve most likely won the election. But no, he downplayed it as long as he could for the stock market and economy. Also tried to shoehorn some more snake oil hydroxychloroquine into the mix for personal gain. But then you had the civil unrest in the summer time from the murder of George Floyd at the peak of the pandemic during the summer. It was over for Trump in that aspect. So like Leo said, wayyyy too many variables.

Alright, honestly I’ve been holding on off posting about this topic... and I don’t mean any offense to anyone practicing NoFap and semen retention here: I think it’s all broscience. The scientific part of “your brain on porn” is a little insidious because there’s an internet addiction aspect to it as well that’s completely glossed over. The internet addiction part needs to be addressed separately for each individual. Masturbation is normal. The fact that we have high speed porn at our finger tips, let’s you do your animal instincts (to cum and cum and cum x 1,000) much easier with content yes—but there also the aspect of we as men have a finite amount of time to use our dicks. That’s right—it won’t last forever. Even if you use a boner pill when your older—it won’t be the same. Your dick eventually will not work the same as when you were younger. The last thing you want is to fully regret not jerking your meat as much as you could because of some internet movement that you took in as fact—which made you get to the “finish line” but as an older man with a dick that doesn’t work the same as when you were younger. The “super power” part of it is bullshit and placebo. Yes, I know placebo can be “real” and give you results but you’re just fooling yourself. You have to fix yourself internally (meditation, self awareness, love) to actually get what NoFap really wants and will never attain. It’s being grounded and in the present moment! That’s what gets you laid. Just BEing. As bullshit as that sounds lmao. Yes, you can have your cake and eat it too. PLEASE reconsider doing NoFap because in this illusory dream life, we literally have a finite amount of orgasms until time runs out. I realized all of this on a shrooms trip and it really put sexuality on the map for me and I will always be grateful. I just thought I’d drop my two cents.