Rasheed

Does 6 month, hardcore 10+ hour meditation lead to God-realization? If not, and if meditation cannot lead to God-Realization, then what's the point? When I said meditation is great for self-actualization, I meant the same thing as you Leo for human benefits, but of course for serious existential understanding that is ain't enough...I am the proof for that for example.

Om Swami won’t agree with you upon that point…Then why did Buddha left for 6 years, Mahavira 12, Om Swami meditated 15,000 hours…? Also, why did Leo do over 200+ psychedelic trips?

So, 2 hours of meditating even for 15 years won't get me anywhere, retreats and 6 month of 10+ hours of intense meditation is necessary to get what non-duality is talking about. P.S. I think 1 hour a day meditation is amazing for personal development and self-actualization work but not for consciousness work...as I concluded. I meant Osho before he started to run ashram, he spent hours in meditation from like age 12 and up. And then he kept it up his entire life, that is what I meant. I know that he was already woke when he built his cult, of course...

P.S. At the same time, don't think that I am bullshitting meditation. MEDITATION IS STILL FUCKING AMAZING but for: Self-Actualization Personal Development Self-Improvement Fulfillment Reprogramming one's mind Living consciously Psychology I am simply discussing meditation here in ENLIGTHENMENT, RELIGION, SPIRITUALITY, CONSCIOUSNESS WORK context, like you gonna get enlightened and never get incarnated again, Gautama Buddha type of shit.

I want to read literature aka fiction books because it will make it easier for me to socialize I guess because many people are into literature and non-fiction. Thing is I like to read psychology, philosophy, religion aka non-fiction and reading fiction for me is tough. Right now I am reading Virginia Woolf's 'to the Lighthouse' I am halfway there, I don't like it even though Virginia Woolf is one of the greatest fiction writers of all time. I don't like fiction because it is impractical, it does not teach me anything valuable like non-fiction reading of psychology, spirituality, personal development does. Another thing I discovered about these fictions books: They are way too long. For example Tolstoy's main book is like 50 hours. Dostoevsky's 'Brother Karamazov' is 40 hours. His book 'Idiot' is 30 hours long. James Joyces's main book is 30 hours. (I am listening to them as audiobooks that is why I am writing hours here) (so right now I realized I probably won't be able to read this, it is way too much.) Imagine that!!! These books are super, super long. I have no problem reading huge books because I have read super complex, super long books. for example Ken Wilber's 'Religion of Tomorrow' is 40 hours long. I read that book and loved it. Thing is I can read Ken Wilber for 40 hours without any problem. I can read long non-fiction book because it is non-fiction but I can't read 40 hours of Dostoevsky or Tolstoy i.e. fiction...That is my problem. That is why I am talking about length. If non-fiction is long, that is great but for fiction...Hell no. So my question is: WHAT TO DO? Can reading summaries of these books be enough? Probably summaries will be shorter but at the same time, I don't want to be faking like I read these books when I only read summaries of them. That is because main reason I want to read fiction is to help me socialize, to become what Mark Manson calls in his book Models: "a man with artistic taste" Should I read summaries? What should I do? Are summaries enough for me to understand these books?

If you guys are interested in Jung and Freud and recommendations on what to read, I would advise you to first read Ken Wilber's 'No Boundary' where he gives recommendations about this exact topics. Excellent book. Concise, to the point, beautifully written.

That is the point, what if someone wants to do both...Sadhguru's point starts to not make any sense when we are talking about living an active life because he also says since body memory gets accumulated through hands as well, Indian's don't shake hands. WTF, you should do if you are wrestler, boxer or a pro fighter, I mean you got to touch people...Honestly, it is confusing... + Osho advises and point of view about sexuality is way different and more evolved than Sadhguru's + Leo's advise about sex and consciousness is completely different as well.

Thanks. Entire point which got me confused was: I want to date, do pickup and develop myself into attractive man and at the same time be conscious , hardcore into consciousness work and Sadhguru’s point did not make sense to me because of that

Thanks guys but truth be told, you confused me even more...

Dale Carnegie advises in his book: How to Win Friends and Influence People to focus upon becoming a great listener and be genuinely interested in other people’s opinions…

Do you also advice watching movies in order to connect with more people rather than literature?

I don’t know bro about that, when it comes to fiction I love both so that is probably ain’t the reason…

My goals are from doing this: to connect with people on social level, like friend to friend Also, to connect with women on man to women level. ———— So @Yarco you are telling me that reading literature for those goals is stupid and I need to watch movies instead? Right now, I am contemplating reading summaries of those literature books, but at the same time I don’t want to fake it but will that be considered faking? Come on, I can’t imagine most people reading 50 hours of Tolstoy, they probably are faking as well…Who knows.

Does day-game depend on the season (time of the year) and weather? Like day-game is more suited for summer, warm weather than winter...or is that ain't true?

When do most intellectuals write their first book? I googled it and found that for example Jordan Peterson, Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris all wrote their first book in late 30s... So, let's say individuals wants to write a serious book about psychology/philosophy, at least he/she should be in my mid 30's to do it?

The Cold Approach Dilemma: Leo said to approach 20 women per week. If I only approach women I feel are cute, I don’t think I would be able to reach 20 per week. At the same time, when I approach women who I think aren’t cute, I am building social skills but at the same time it feels boring. So, what to do?

1 million people live in a city which I am in right now…Should I move? probably, I am just a bullshitter. Wasting your guys time with these questions cause Today, I walked around 30 minutes around university buildings, I did 0 approaches, my ego mind is playing tricks on me. That thought of “creepy approaching machine” around university reputation is f****** me up badly now. I got 0 approaches this week as of right now. Sorry for wasting your time guys.

That was super helpful, thanks.

How to approach on a dance floor? I mean, when you open at the dance floor (not talking about bringing girl to it)…I don’t think this was covered in Leo’s series, but probably it was and I need to rewatch it. If it was, just block the post, because it is unnecessary…

Thanks bro, I don’t know where would I be without your expertise. After physical opener, Can I just be like: “Come, let’s dance together”? Or is that too logical and rational? I was in a bar last night dancing, I just opened up with “what’s your name”…I wanted to ask above question to dance but did not do it, thinking that kind of opener was way too logical, so that’s why I’m asking…

How do I date and do 'pickup' (by 'pickup' I mean cold approach, what Leo teaches in his dating series) in university? Basically, like I explained in my previous post, I do 1 hour cold approach session around university, after lecture, every single day I go there (basically, 5x a week). I have done that for 7 times already, including one 2 hour & 30 minutes session. Basically, what I am doing is walking around university buildings (university I am in has several buildings, like 5-6 buildings + another university is located close to it) and when I see girl which is either sitting or standing alone, I go ahead and approach. I got so many questions about what I am doing by doing this that it is hard to kind of explain. The questions which arose for me after I did this consistently for this week was that: Basically, If I go there and do 1 hour approach session after a lecture, would I not technically meet same girls over and over again? Another question which arose is 'How one is supposed date and do what Leo says in his series in university'. Question which came across in my mind was 'Is what I am doing actually correct way? (P.S. I learned everything I know from dating, from Leo's series on it, I know this is correct for a nighclub or a bar but for question is university) (P.S. Leo's series about dating is extremely powerful, amazing, life-changing without it I don't know where would I be at this point) Another thing I came across is that, I cannot approach and talk with girls during the lecture because that is against the rules. Next question I got is: Girls I would actually invite on a date i.e. like are often times in groups with other girls, not standing or sitting alone (This ties back to my previous post), but honestly I am ain't sure about that, maybe that is my bias. Another question which came to mind is that: When I do this 1 hour cold approach session around university, eventually I am going to come across same women and they gonna realize that I am basically doing cold approach session like this around university, over and over again and that technically should get me into trouble (by trouble I mean, that would be a turn off, because I will come out as needy), I am not sure about that as well. If you read everything until this point, you probably understand that I am confused. So, what to do? How do I date in university? How does what Leo says in his series apply to university dating? Is cold approach suited for university and when studying in university? Is what I am doing correct, or basically I am the only dumbass who does this, and I basically did not understand what Leo talked about in his series and I need to stop? Honestly, I can write more and ask more questions but scope of this post came to be long like the previous one, and I don't want to write another post since that would be like me spamming actualized forum. Spamming of course deserves a ban. I don't want to get banned from here because this forum is really helpful.... Thanks everyone, sorry if this is too long...

I get what you are saying but most people here won't agree with you on that point. Day game approach is good in malls, not in college campus like I concluded from what I have read here + what @Bando and @something_else said...What do you think?

Yeah, I thought about that as well...