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I feel you. Escorts are not as fun, except for @Princess Arabia of course

In some ways, seeing an escort is the polar opposite of doing pickup in your early 20s. In your 20s, you probably don't have much money or social status. Pickup therefore forces you to win on sheer personality and logistics handling. This actually can add to the appeal of doing it. You feel like she's into you for YOU, not just because you pay her rent. Seeing an escort is the reverse. Your personality is irrelevant. You don't have to solve any logistical problems at all. You just flash some cash and that's enough. You as a person are barely in the equation. It's anti-game.

That's right. The women are usually more professional. They know why they are in this business (money) and why they aren't. It's the guys that often end up cracking in these scenarios and catching feelings.

I don’t deny that. Of course there are self-reinforcing dynamics. Okay, but the point is that’s still your perspective. It’s not safe to assume people will value community wellness over their sexual needs. It’s not safe to assume other people will value what you think they should value in general. There is no skirting the fact that escorts can consistently charge such high prices because the demand is there. Basic economics.

There is no "true use value". All value is relative and subjective. I'm not claiming what people value is intelligent, non-compensatory, higher consciousness or even ethical. I'm just saying people value what they value, and they pay accordingly. Whether they should or not is irrelevant to that. Many people value low consciousness garbage. So there's the reason for your price tag. Also, many if not most men who go to escorts are married. It's not compensation for having a relationship, it's compensation for a sexless, intimacy-less marriage. See the YT channel I referenced earlier. She explains this all very clearly.

It's not about capitalism, it's just how money works. Money follows value. Whether it's hard physical labor or not is irrelevant. It's a question of how much it's valued. I could go out into the forest and spend hours trying to move some heavy rock. But if no one values that service to pay me, then the end result is I will make no money. It doesn't matter how hard it is. Sex with an attractive woman is extremely scarce and therefore valuable for many men. Scarcity of something you want = value.

I wouldn't say it's insignificant work at all. For guys, having sex is way more valuable than some cleaning service. So of course the women will charge more.

This woman is an ex-escort and Madam. She has some unique perspectives on escorting and dating in general, definitely recommend her channel: In some ways, I feel like seeing a sex worker can actually be more ethical. If you just want sex, now you can get it without having to play many of the manipulative games guys often resort to playing. Just pay and be done. Also, some of these women make an insane amount of money as an escort. In just a short period of time, they can basically set themselves up for life if they are smart about it. They would likely never make that kind of money otherwise except for marrying into it. So they are securing not only their long-term survival, but also their independence since the money is hers. But of course, I imagine such work has to take a toll on women as well. To be able to separate sex and intimacy that easily requires a certain kind of mind. Exploitation is also a concern, though there do seem to be some brothels that are run relatively ethically. I think the biggest concern for guys is that it just becomes a substitute for non-transactional relationships. In which case you are going to miss out on a lot of real intimacy. These women are essentially professional actresses. They do not have feelings for you.

One of the most rewarding parts of flirting is seeing how creative and spontaneous your mind can be. You learn to be able to trust yourself more once you see that your mind actually works better off-script.

If the majority of people were actually progressive, it wouldn't be progressive anymore. It'd just be centrism. Centrism by definition is the majority position.

You talk less about spirituality with others.

I’ve tested the alternate tunings. No noticeable difference for me.

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When have you ever experienced another mind? If you could experience another mind, where would that take place?

No, this is incorrect. All supposed "other dreamers" are in your dream.

Seed oils do improve outcomes, within a context. All health interventions are done within a context. If that context is not understood, we get silly debates.

It's a good book, but not for serious awakening. Pop-spirituality.

He makes a good point about fiber mainly being about compensation. It's not clear to me how much additive benefit fiber gives you if your diet is already clean enough. It might be marginal.

I agree that you are God, imagining you have a body and sense-perception based on biology. All of what you call perception is pure consciousness without a perceiver. What I call "embodiment work" is just becoming conscious of this more and more, on a moment to moment basis, as apposed to peak state experiences. Yes, I agree there is a difference between actuality versus just intellectual belief in this regard. If someone is genuinely conscious of the ontology of what I said, they are awake. If not, they are asleep. Simple as that.

Look, I get it. I am also not such a savage that I can just chase endless ONS. Usually I will have a few casual encounters in between longer relationships for the sake of fun, novelty, adventure. But inevitably, the part of me that wants a deeper connection with women will rebel. And it becomes obviously how unsustainable what I'm doing is. Eventually, I meet a woman I am just not willing to let go of. But this DECREASES my body count. It does not increase it. If you want quantity, the way you do that is by being a detached player who doesn't give a fuck and who can just run through woman after woman without catching feelings. This idea that you will get more women (quantity) by focusing on quality is mostly nonsense. Focusing on quality gets you quality. Focusing on quantity gets you quantity. So just take your pick. Each comes with upside and downside. Lol, are you positive she "accidentally" messaged you? Girls will do that as an excuse to talk to you. Regardless, everything you're saying does not invalidate my perspective. Yes, you can be friendly with women you have had a ONS with. I'd recommend it for decency sake. But that does NOT mean you built a serious bond with them. The fact that you're talking about casual encounters while traveling is proof of this. It's extremely difficult to build a serious bond that fast. Real bonds take months or even years to build. And you will NOT be so casual about breaking them. Breaking a serious bond is soul-crushing. You will probably think about it for months or years after. So really, you are building quite superficial bonds. And this works for you because traveling automatically disqualifies you from a deeper emotional / romantic commitment. Here's an uncomfortable truth: a significant percentage of women interested in a ONS are already in a romantic relationship. They have no interest in a deeper romantic bond, and will actively rebuke you if you try. They just want dick from an attractive guy. The majority of the rest of women are single, but interested in meeting someone long-term. They will fold extremely quickly if they meet a guy they like. A ONS is problematic because they are going to quickly want a deeper commitment. That leaves just a small, sliver of women in the Venn diagram who are both single and genuinely just interested in a casual encounter. They might be traveling, recently broken up or just young and experimental. Which is why if you want a high quantity of hookups, you need to keep distance. You need to very specifically screen for these women by explicitly or implicitly broadcasting that you're not available for romantic connection. Which is what traveling helps you do.

Yes I get that sense about you. It comes through in your posts.

I'd say it depends on how hard you push. If you handle logistics elegantly, it actually doesn't feel like force. It just feels effortless. Like when a husband perfectly plans out a vacation and handles all the details so the wife can just relax. If you broadcast fuck boy vibes and push for sex too soon, then yeah that might turn off mature women looking for something long-term. Even mature women will appreciate some convenience and leading. They may just not need as much.

That sounds somewhat exaggerated. Phytic acid barely even binds to heme-iron as far as I know. It's mostly about plant-sources. You might be right overall though, it could be superior to just eat the white rice if you feel like meat already gives you everything you need.

Actually this is pretty similar to what it's like in a fraternity. One of the best things for getting laid if you're in a fraternity is to live in the house, ideally with a single room.

You do want to be careful about "buyer's remorse". Sometimes it's better to slow things down.