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@Chaosofthemuse Awesome! Always great to see more conscious creators.

@QandC Yes unfortunately many people aren't ready for the pressure of fame. That's partially why star childs go crazy when they grow up. This is a good time to show some appreciation for your fears and limiting beliefs. They're keeping you from pressure that you aren't yet prepared to handle.

It's not that simple, overthinking is not something you can just solve with a 1-2-3 step formula. You've got to put in the work meditating, doing yoga, healing old traumas etc. That's a long term commitment. But if you really want something you can do in the moment, make an idiot of yourself. Do something that feels so embarrassing that there's no more point monitoring your impression anymore. The key is that it actually has to feel uncomfortable, not theoretically uncomfortable. You really have to stretch it. But once you do, you are going to feel like a completely different person. For instance, something I'll do if I'm out at a bar or nightclub is just start shaking my entire body. It looks absolutely ridiculous and I don't want to do it. But almost inevitably nobody actually gives a shit. And you realize that you cared so much about protecting nothing at all.

@Callum Milner There's a whole thread on this in the Meditation / Spirituality section of the forum. I'd suggest checking that out.

The reason you socialize more when you're in a good mood is that you are at higher vibrational frequency. When you're tired, you're at a lower vibrational frequency and so you want to conserve energy. This is why I don't like the whole "introvert / extrovert" debate. It largely ignores energetic realities and the power of the mind over our personalities. The reason people who call themselves introverts get tired after socializing is that they're expending massive amounts of energy overthinking and analyzing everything. It's exhausting. Just look back at what you wrote in this post. Look at all the questions you're asking. Look how your mind is trying to understand and analyzing every possible little detail. All that mental chatter cost energy and is draining you. When I go out socializing, I know I'm doing well if I'm gaining energy and I know I'm doing poorly if I'm losing energy. Gaining energy = present to the moment, free flowing, authentic. Losing energy = stuck in my head, putting on a social mask, overthinking. This has nothing to do with being an introvert or extrovert. It has to do with whether you're TAPPED IN to the infinite source of energy all around us, or if you've cut yourself off by thinking too much and not allowing the energy the move through you.

This is definitely accurate and something a lot of people neglect. They want to give before they have anything to give or understand what true giving is. This is where I see things differently. Yes, technically you only need Being if you want to be fulfilled. But what I've found is that as you become more conscious, your life purpose and desire to serve others increases. You can't ignore it. As far as the wealth thing goes, I'd challenge you on your beliefs about money. I don't see wealth as a hindrance to raising consciousness at all, in fact I see it as a great tool as long as the person has the right intention. For example, let's say I wanted to open up a yoga studio that teaches people to become more conscious. Or maybe you wanted to attend some workshop to see a spiritual teacher. All of that tends to cost money. I want everyone to have more money than they could possibly every spend. The behavior that people engage in when they are in financial scarcity is the complete opposite to what it means to be conscious. It's selfish and downright sickening to be honest. You could argue that everyone should be so enlightened that it doesn't make a difference, but that's not living in current reality. We live in the 21st century where money is still a valuable tool and people very much care about having enough.

@ExodiaGearCEO I've definitely had breakups where I just was not ready to get back out there right away and took time for myself to recharge. And I know that feeling a starting a business and just wanting to focus on that and nothing else. My only concern is that it's been almost a year since you've guys broken up. That's a pretty long time. Meeting new girls can be emotionally challenging, and you don't want to use your breakup as an excuse not to do that. It's an important area of your life. Girls are not going to flock to you just because your business is successful and you've developed yourself. That's like creating an amazing product and then never promoting it. You do have to put yourself out there to at least some degree.

Of course, everything is neutral at the absolute level. When I said "fucked", that's not a judgemental at all. It's just an observation that if you want to be at peace and not in fear that your relationship is going to crumble any moment, you don't want to tie your self-worth to someone else's validation.

No, RSD is legit. There's valid criticisms you can make about the company if you really wanted to, but there's no doubt they know pickup inside and out.

I think we think the same thing but with different words.

@The White Belt You're in classic codependency. Her validation = your self-worth, so if she leaves you your self-worth will be crushed. That's why you're afraid. The ironic part is that the fear you're experiencing is going to drive you to do things that actually will want to make her leave. You think you're hiding it, but trust me you're not. One solution is continuing to do self-actualization and working on your insecurities. Another solution is her leaving you, breaking your heart, and then you realizing that attaching your self-worth to a person's validation is totally fucked. Your choice.

@Freakrik I'm actually friends with Jmulv. We used to go out together when he was living here in Miami, haven't seen him since he moved away though. He game is undoubtedly legit. I wouldn't hesitate to go to him for advice on pickup. But he would also admit that he definitely has some unresolved inner game issues. So if you're going to learn from him, that's fine. But I would also balance his advice with self-actualization work. It's not worth banging 500 girls if you're just going to be miserable all the time.

@Staples I'd try thinking about the problem differently. Instead of just saying "how can I willpower my way into not being addicted", take a more holistic approach. Do you have an idea of your life purpose? What does your diet look like? Do you have productive habits like meditation or going to the gym? Part of the reason people can't beat their addictions is because they're trying to resist the urge when it comes up via willpower. They treat it like an isolated incident. But that's a bit like trying to win a game you've never trained for. You beat your addictions through everything you do outside your addictions. Spend more time looking at what your whole life looks like.

And don't let people make you feel bad about that, especially in the spiritual community. Everyone evolves in stages in accordance to their own journey. It's actually better for your growth if you just own where you're at than do spiritual bypassing and pretend like you're too evolved to get involved with something like pickup. Pickup can be amazing self-actualization tool. And it's tons of fun because you get to socialize and have sex. Personally, unless I transform into some angelic lightbeing in meditation one day, I'm pretty sure I'm going to have a dick for the rest of my life. And when I'm not getting laid I basically can't think about anything else. So might as well get that area handled properly.

@F A B Don't be nervous

@Scarecrow You have trauma energy that hasn't been released yet. All the techniques Leo talks about will help you here, especially Shamanic Breathing.

@-Rowan The only teachers I tend to still learn from at this point are the RSD crew and Jason Capital. They’re the best I’ve seen, especially since they place a heavy emphesis on the self-actualization aspect. So much more than just getting girls.

Because it’s all serving you or at least served you in the past. It might be difficult to see how, but it always is. I’m not saying it’s easy to get to that point. I’m definitely not there myself with some of my own issues. And it’s easy to turn what I’m saying into spiritual bypassing and pretend like everything is fine when it’s not. But ultimately I’ve found this is where you want to get to. Gratitude for everything because it was all part of your journey.

Yeah great points. We’re all into self-actualization so we tend to view homeostasis as “bad”. But that’s just not true. If you took a person being run by low consciousnesses and had them experience all their trauma energy at once so they could release it, it would probably either kill them or give them a mental breakdown. On a physical level, your body would die everytime it got slightly too hot or too cold. So the only thing that makes sense is actually to be grateful for homeostatsis. Be grateful for your addictions, coping strategies, negative thought patterns and everything else that you can’t seem to get rid of because they’re probably saving your life.

@Raphael Yeah people massively underestimate the desire for homeostasis. It's incredibly powerful. Building momentum slowly is one way to overcome it. E.g, instead of trying to meditate for an hour right away, start at five minutes and add 30 seconds everyday. The only other thing that I've seen work besides that is emotional leverage. People can make a massive shift all at once if the emotional punch is strong enough, e.g they just lost a love one or something. Strong emotions = change. That's why rock bottom moments usually are so transformative. The pain of staying the same finally outweighs the pain of change and the person feels like they no longer have anything to lose.

Are you justifying that people should shame you?

It's not about the homeless man.

Yeah he shamed you. It was subtle but usually that's how shame operates. Sounds like it was his own inner issues projecting onto you. You shrunk back and didn't respond because of the shame. How do you think he would have responded if you expressed yourself honestly?

@F A B He shamed you for having money. Do you get the impression he resents rich people?

@iyfe Examples? They're obviously not perfect but the RSD crew in general are great teachers.