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@Chrissy j There's many good points in that video, but I've never believed that it justifies swearing off many of the benefits of living in modern society. The result is I'm a bit of an enigma to my friends. I like going to nightclubs and parties, but I don't drink or do drugs. I like going to nice restaurants, but I'm looking for the plain, organic vegan option. I like chasing money, but I largely take that money and use it to fund my life purpose. You have to be very careful not to fall into black and white thinking. If you want to be a hermit living in the woods, great. But it's not what I want, and I believe you can have a truly fulfilling and self-actualized life still living in modern society.

I love RSD. No one else is even a close second except for maybe Jason Capital. But Jason has shifted a lot towards success coaching rather than dating coaching recently.

@LaucherJunge To add to what @Ether said, find out why you're attached in the first place. For instance, let's say you're attached to a certain relationship. Why? What are you afraid of that is making you cling to this relationship? Maybe it's a fear that if you ended the relationship the person would hate you. Or maybe it's a fear that no one would ever like you again. Attachment = fear, always. Your natural state is non-attachment. So don't seek to be non-attached, instead become conscious of the fear that is holding the attachment in place. The hypnosis then crumbles.

@beatlemantis He's insecure and now he's unconsciously shaming you in order to make himself feel better. It's all about his needs, not yours as an individual or a couple. Notice that since he brought all this up, you've been feeling guilty. That's exactly the point. It's a strategy to stop you from cheating on him in the future. That's as blunt as I can be.

@zoey101 It's complicated so I'll break it down as simple as possible. Most people want a positive attitude in life. That's because when you think positive, you tend to manifest positive. And when you think negative, you tend to manifest negative. It's self-reinforcing. Makes sense so far. But what about when you're not feeling positive? What if you are angry, depressed or sad? Well then your attempt to "think positive" can easily become your way of resisting what is. You're "shoulding on yourself" by feeling like you should be positive. Which just makes it worse, because now you're angry or depressed that you can't be more positive. These are the overally positive people with fake painted on smiles. They're wearing a mask of positivity, but it's not authentic. In that case the solution is to just let go and feel whatever you feel. Don't judge any of it either positively or negatively. But it gets even more complicated. While some people wear the mask of positivity, some people wear the mask of "letting go". This is when someone who is actually addicted to their negativity and ego drama will rationalize it as them just expressing themselves authentically. Because we're not supposed to resist negative emotions, right? Like I said, it's a complicated question. It really just depends on the person and the intention behind what they're doing. Are they being positive because they're hiding? Or is this them actually growing? You basically have to decide that for yourself.

@Cammy It's perfectly fine to go by yourself, but I'm wondering why you feel the need to go alone in the first place. You don't have friends who like comedy?

@Slade Awesome! Keep leaning into those edges.

It's been a while since I've seen it, but from what I remember that video is really misguided. The problem with making a black and white critique of the PUA community is that there is no definitive way to do pickup. Every guy gets in it for their own reasons and leaves with different results. I've seen tons of guys come through PUA at this point. It's true that the majority are not really using it as a tool to grow. They just learn a bit theory, go out, and get wasted at the local dive bar. I was the same way. I was a 21 year old college student who just wanted to get laid when I found the community. I didn't give a shit about "self-actualization" or "spiritual growth". So does that mean there's a problem with PUA? Or is the tool being misused by people who don't really have an intention to grow in the first place? Anyone who argues that you can't grow spiritual doing pickup is wrong. But you have use it the right way. The other argument I remember from that video is that pickup = manipulation. This is such a limiting belief for guys who are trying to learn this stuff. Any guy who thinks they can manipulate women against their will into sleeping with them using pickup, come visit me in Miami and we'll go out together. It never works that way. How do I know? Because I know all the lines, all the strategies, all the tactics. They're useful, but not nearly as important as most guys think. When I'm doing game, I'm constantly asking myself WHAT DOES SHE WANT. Because if what she wants and what I want don't align, you're fucked. It's not going to work. Oh, and sometimes what the girl wants is something we would judge as "low consciousness", like alcohol or status. Guess what, it's not your job to be Captain Save A Ho and save the poor little princess. She's human being that's allowed to live her life the way she wants, even if we might judge it as a "mistake". I could keep ranting but I think you get the point. There's so many misconceptions about PUA it's crazy. And it holds guys back tremendously.

@SaltyMeatballs What do you do with your dick? Do you just not have a sex drive?

@Applejuice For me at 17 it was all about friends in high school. If you don't have friends, it's fine if you want to learn some general pickup theory. It will help you with your social skills. But you're not going to have many options in terms of meeting girls. Make do with whatever you can.

@Applejuice We don't know if it's a good idea and neither do you. That's life. Don't buy into the hype that everyone has it all "figured out", they don't.

@shapeshifter This may not apply to you because you're in engineering, but I'd say anyone who cares about professional success in the modern age needs to be on IG. It's not uncommon when I'm networking that people don't even ask for a business card anymore. They just ask for my IG. If you're an employee looking to get hired, you can guarantee that your employer is googling your social media before they decide to call you in for an interview or hire you. It's such a fantastic opportunity. Let's say you wanted to get hired by some engineering firm when you graduate. You have two options: 1) Go around submitting your boring resume, just like everyone else. Get lost in the noise. 2) Create an amazing IG page called I<3Engineering with you doing 60 second videos talking about engineering or maybe building some shit. Post pictures of your accomplishments and your personal life, which humanizes you. Option 2 is so much better. A resume only existed because we didn't yet live a world with social media. It's going to die fast. And that's only for professional success. Don't even get me started on all the benefits it can have on your dating life. It's seriously changing the game and I love it.

This is you right now: You can't reconcile these ideas because they're both true and false at the same time. Contradiction is not the problem. In fact it's inevitable. The problem is that you're failing to see that these ideas are true in a certain CONTEXT. They're models, approximations.

@Deepu You need the ability to self-reflect, but you don't want to turn that into self-attack where you hate yourself. Meditate.

You're only 19 and I'm assuming the opportunity for these kind of things is not great in Egypt. However, it also sounds like there's a part of you that still wants it. So if you're telling yourself that you don't care because you're already happy, I would definitely question that.

From what I've seen, yes. It's always about a wound. But be careful. It's tempting when you here that to think "wow that's fucked up" or believe that something has "gone wrong" with you or anyone else. No. You chose for that to happen. That wound is ironically your way to waking up. The dark energy builds until you decide to let it go.

You're welcome brotha

@WildeChilde McKenna is a bit of an enigma. On the one hand, he seems like a very caring man who has had some deep existential insights and is passionate about his work. On the other hand, he seems likes a grumpy old man that wants to sit on his porch and yell at the kids for playing on his lawn. Is it marketing? It is a genius enlightened master's trick? Is he so far beyond us that we can't even understand him? I don't know and I don't really care to know. Speculation beyond a limit is pointless. What really matters is your own journey and how you choose to live your life.

@Widdle Puppy Any sort of healing practice will help here. Look into meditation, yoga, breathwork, reiki etc. I'd especially focus on opening up your heart and solar plexus chakra. Beyond that, I have no blueprint. You want an engineering solution to an emotional problem. You'll let go when you're ready to let go.

@BobbyLowell More accurate to say you'll be giving up your emotional attachment to being understood. Being authentic means some people will not understand you, ever. You don't have to like it but you do at some point need to accept it.

@Solvinden I've gotten professional coaching before. It can definitely be a great investment given that you found the right coach. I don't know anything about the program you're talking about so it's hard for me to say if it's a good deal.

@Viking I'd say just the opposite. We'd probably develop the empathy, compassion and understanding to stop killing each other and even live in harmony.

@7thLetter Meditation, yoga, healthy eating, gym, sun gazing, affirmations, visualization, life purpose, pickup, reading.

It doesn't matter what normal is. Normal is bullshit, there is no normal. The question is, what do you want? You're free to do whatever you want. Maybe you really do just need to focus on yourself for awhile. But don't use that as an excuse to not take action. No, the universe will not do that. If I wanted a successful business, but never actually took action on starting a business, what are the odds that I'd have a successful business?

@SuchIsLife I got this from Jason Capital. I don't always use it but when I do, it works well. Split your note taking paper into to columns. Label one column "insights" and the other "action steps". Whenever you read something that you like and sticks out, put it down in the "insights" column. And then IMMEDIATELY write an action step for how you will implement that insight in the "action steps" column. Pretty simple, but it forces you to think action and not just theory. Very useful.