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And now you know why people told you to meditate. Meditation is definitely not a quick fix, but it will definitely help.

Excuses. Why are you really not doing it?

Yes the point is to create that tension and large range of emotions. It’s supposed to be fun. The intention is not malicious. Try out more minor versions of what I’m talking about and see how she responds. If she doesn’t like it, 100% stop. But if she likes it, you can ramp it up to more extremes.

@Amadeusz I think you’re fine, don’t psyche yourself out over these stages. It’s just a model. @Joseph Maynor My experience is that it’s not always that simple. Usually people get a glimpse of a higher paradigm and then have to spend time going back and forth from their old way of thinking to the new.

I would focus on getting the basics down (meditation, clean food, exercise) before you try anything else.

@Shadowraix I would read everything you can by Grant Cardone, Gary Vee and MJ DeMarco as a foundation. I’d also highly recommend Building A Story Brand by Donald Miller. From there, you’ll probably need more technical specific advice depending on what you’re selling.

@Elisabeth @Aquarius Yeah it’s something you’d have to know she’d be comfortable with. Like if you know she likes a little bit of drama just to make it exciting. You don’t just do that with any random girl off the street.

@F A B Fool around for a bit and get her turned on to the point where she really wants to fuck. But don't actually fuck her. Instead, steal her panties so she can't wear them and then take her out somewhere normal like dinner with friends. That will get her really sexually frustrated and create a lot of tension. Tease her over dinner, but not too much. You want it to be almost like an unspoken conspiracy between you too. Then later you can fuck her. You can also do forms of orgasm denial. Fuck her until she is close to cumming, but then abruptly pull out and act like something is wrong. Walk away for dramatic effect, maybe leave the room entirely. Gauge her reaction. You can even start yelling at her things that don't make sense, like "No! I'm sick of this!" Once she is thoroughly confused and upset, then without warning you walk back over, pin her down and start fucking her again.

You're free to do that if you want, maybe that's something you need to experience. I don't know. But know that giving up your desires ultimately won't solve anything. You've been cursed with the awareness that things could be better.

@SFRL I personally don't enjoy online dating. It takes the experience of meeting someone and turns it into this very transactional thing. Too logical, too boring. And the girls you will meet online are no where near as attractive as the girls you can meet in person. It's like the fast food of getting laid. Technically it will get the job done, but I generally don't really find it meaningful. Cold approach I find very meaningful, because almost every time you get laid is usually like this epic adventure. Pushing through uncomfortable emotions, strange foreign environments, having fun with friends, solving logisitics, etc etc. And it's especially meaningful if you're the kind of guy like me for who that wasn't easy to do when you were younger. Cold approach also gives you skills sets that you're unlikely develop just by online dating. It's so easy for me when I go to networking events for my business because you've got so many repetitions of knowing how to create immediate rapport with a stranger. Of course, there are downsides to cold approach too. Mainly that it takes a shit load of time to actually get laid if you're just continually running up to random girls and not building any kind of social circle. So I think the real answer is just to know what you want, know what kind of phrase you are in your life and then go after it.

There's no simple answer to that, the reality is that it's going to take time. The good news is that you will continually manifest situations that will reflect what you're repressing until you figure it out. For instance most guys who continually act meek and passive, which is fake, end up being really bad with girls. You keep getting that negative feedback from women until you realize that something needs to change. Maybe there's parts of my masculinity or sexuality that I've been denying. Maybe my meek and passive behavior is just me internally holding on for dear life. It's actually a perfect system when you think about it.

@Viking It’s because you’re not free and unhibited. You’re unconsciously holding in your energy in ways you probably don’t even realize right now. People will pick up on that. The more you can accept every part of yourself, the more free you will become. The more of an energetic presecence you will have.

@natebunger Brother if she just disappeared like that, she doesn't feel the same way about you that you feel about her. Keep the no contact rule going.

That's an oversimplification of what she is suggesting. Teal herself has done lots of meditative solo work, she even talks about her Shamanic journey in her latest video. I don't think she's telling anybody to not do those kind of things. Rather, I think she's trying to get rid of this idea that spirituality = not needing other people. Everything is interdependent on everything else. And you can heal the ego by accepting the parts of yourself you've been rejecting. I think she's absolutely right.

@Annoynymous I think there's some truth to it. It seems absurd that the planets could effect us, but only if you look at the world through a simple Newtonian model. In reality, everything moves as one and everything effects everything else.

@Wekz Keep meditating. It will help sync head / heart.

@Ampresus I definitely think it's a piece of the puzzle. If someone claims to be self-actualized but all they do is repel people, that's suspect. You should be developing a magnetic energy by doing this kind of work.

It depends on the person. I played sports my entire life growing up. Very competitive, all I cared about was winning. Now as I've gotten older I've learned more about the value of collaborating. At the same time, I do believe you need to have a mentality that you're going to succeed at whatever you're doing no matter what. That's called confidence. Anyone who doesn't have that likely hasn't been successful at very much in their life.

@MM1988 Sounds like you're stuck between the pain of getting better and the pain of not getting what you want. It's a tough place to be, but I suggest you keep moving forward. Better to die trying than give up. Keep taking action, keep studying the theory and keep working on yourself. That's the only real answer.

@Max_V I would question whether you really have ADD in the first place.

That's like trying to convince yourself that Mount Everest is beautiful, even though you've never seen it or been there before. It's not possible. Get the real thing.

@WhiteCongrats Unless you specifically need a degree, the only value I see in college these days is that it gives you time to explore yourself and party. That's all I got out of it.

Sounds like you need a Series license then.

That could definitely happen. But it's undoubtedly effective too.

@Leo Gura I think it’s awesome man. Respect for taking the leap of faith on this. Also, I got you when you come to Miami. I’m connected with a lot of people here who would want to see you.