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Keep going. What proof do you have that you didn't create everything? What proof do you have that everything isn't infinitely connected?

It's only stiff and unnatural if that's the approach you choose. How are you going about meeting people?

There isn't one "type" for you. Your tastes in women will evolve as you work on yourself and rise in consciousness. That being said, if you want to know what kind of woman you like, just experiment. Dates lots of women and then you'll know.

There are plenty of steps. But perhaps the most important one is just trying.

God / absolute infinitiy / truth cannot be conceptualized. Have a direct consciousness and then see how your theory fits.

You're protecting yourself in some way. This stuff about others people's lives being unimportant is a smoke screen. Look for fear. When do you feel afraid? That will give you a clue where to find the limiting belief.

Your problem is not that you can't orgasm without ejaculation. It's that you can't ejaculate more than once in normal sex. I'd look into that first and then consider multiples.

I have no direct experience with this but my gut says that inter-dimensional beings do exist. Can't prove it yet, just intuition so far.

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"Dissolving" is just a metaphor for lack of a better word for the process of dis-identifying with ego. Tolle doesn't actually mean you'll never function as your character again. It might be true that you're actually the one universal ineffable consciousness, but to paraphrase Jed McKenna, you need something to wear.

1) While you can experiences of no-ego, the ego never totally "dies" as Martin explains. It just eventually becomes like a costume you can take on or off 2) Sounds worth looking into. I did some digging and he has yoga exercises related to his ideas of symmetry

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Neurosculpting, Man's Search for Meaning, Emotional Intelligence, Learned Optimism are all great ones.

@Deepak sadhwani The Confidence Gap and Six-Pillars of Self-Esteem are great places to start. What specific things are you interested in?

A question about cold approach...of course I gotta get in this mix I've done 1000's of approaches at this point and the benefits were shocking. I'm talking in just a COUPLE MONTHS, your range of what you would have considered socially possible for you could be astronomically different. Likewise, I've seen tons of guys go through the same process and have gotten similar results. So it's not just me. That being said, success in this area is probably not what you think. Guys have this idea that getting good at cold approach means that all your social problems will be solved. They think they'll NEVER get rejected again. Or they'll never feel socially awkward and everyone will love them. But that hasn't happened for me. Everyone makes mistakes. In essence, just like anything else, you'll get out of cold approach what you put in. If you just go out for a month, don't study the theory, don't breakdown your interactions, don't work on yourself outside of game, you probably you won't see a ton of change. But if you do put the work in...wow. It's powerful shit.

Sit crossed-legged. See how easy an hour is doing that first.

Inspiring man! This was a total mind-fuck when I became aware of this. I didn't use those words, but I think I can see what you're trying to point at. Glad to hear not every trip is a dive into pure hell. The Kola-nut tip seems really useful. It's very interesting to see the interplay with seeking Truth and your personal development. Incredible that you seem to be getting all these benefits just from taking a drug, although I understand the emotional labor is still intense.

Yes, you're really can be a nerd. The external doesn't matter that much. It's your psychology that counts the most.

You're only looking at the surface level of things. You're seeing the "badboy" getting women and assuming "okay, this is how I must have to act". When in reality, there are underlying behaviors that the badboy might exhibit from time to time that make him attractive, but the entire strategy isn't what is winning him women. Vulnerability or "being nice" will make you crush it with women. But the problem is I can already tell you have no idea what people really mean when they say that. So it's useless advice to you, even if it's true. Here's some Game 101: When you meet a woman, she wants a man who she feels simultaneously wants her, yet doesn't NEED her at all. It's kind of attitude you usually have when you're just having fun with your friends. Things are good, and nothing necessarily needs to happen for you to have a nice time. Fall too far to one side of not giving a shit, and you're an asshole. Fall too far to one side of wanting her, and you come across as a needy pathetic nice guy. The badboy isn't needy, and that's why he does well when he does. But actually, most guys are complete assholes are not at all doing the best with women because the girl eventually feels like this guy just doesn't care at all. Guys THINK that material things like money, looks etc are what causing the girl to like you. So we spend our lives trying to manipulate our circumstances to meet what we think women want. But the reality is that when these things work, it's really because you psychologically allowed yourself to act in the way I described. And you can alter your identity to where acting like this is just feels completely natural. It's just "who you are". What sort of behaviors does a man who is in this mental head space tend to exhibit? 1) He's RELAXED and AT EASE WITH HIMSELF 2) He's not afraid to offend someone if deemed necessary 3) GIVING good emotions to other people 4) Laughter, having fun 5) Other women around him or seeking his approval 6) Being a leader 7) Knows how to make himself feel good 8) Not afraid to put their full personality and desires out there 9) Knows what he wants And I could go on and on. Don't get me wrong, I'm just presenting a model here. There will be lots of nuances and special cases. For instance, some women are more validation hungry than others and so will often go after guys who withhold validation more. But, generally this is how it's done. Now let's circle back to our original thesis, which was that being vulnerable is effective with women. Notice that many of the traits I listed could be defined as "being vulnerable". BUT it's being vulnerable in a very different way. We've pulled away false assumptions, like that you need to be afraid of rejection. So vulnerability takes on a much different meaning.

I'm honestly probably not the best person to answer this because I know I still have some emotional walls around love. But I've at least seen the direction I want to go and share that with you. Ultimately, love isn't about what you "get" from the other person. Now, that doesn't mean chemistry isn't important. Because certainly some people are just better matches for each other. However, most people ONLY care about chemistry and how this person fulfills their own needs. From that perspective, love is honestly kind of selfish and just a tool of the ego. But I don't believe that's the highest form of love humans are capable of. True Love starts with YOU. You coming from a place where you're so fulfilled and at peace that you can't help but love other people. It just pours out of you. You can't help it. In that sense, True Love is really a love for yourself and for all of life. Then when you meet that person who you do have amazing chemistry with, your focus is more on GIVING. Another point: Love is a choice. No one can go into your brain and turn the "love dials". Ultimately, you do it to yourself. And so, you just make a choice that this is going to be the person you love and your actions reflect that. Now, most people won't like what I just said because it's validating to believe that it was something about THEM that made their lover fall head over heels. And certainly you do play a role. But you can't change a person who doesn't want to change. Do you and your boyfriend fit this description? I have no idea. I'm not faulting you if you don't because I certainly struggle with it. But just think about it.

A quick note, it's very hard to break a habit unless you replace it with a new one. So for instance, if you're trying to kick TV watching, replace your TV watching time with maybe watching a self development video or listening to an audiobook. As far as incorporating multiple habits, it definitely can be tough. But I'd still try. What will probably happen is that some will stick and some won't, and then you'll eventually come back to the ones that didn't stick when the time is right.

You don't. You can't actually repress emotions more than temporarily. That shit always comes back. Rather, observe your emotions objectively and see their impermanent nature.

Awesome! Many people will not have that kind of experience in their whole life. You had it very quickly

Who said they don't?

It depends on your definition of happiness. I'm not defining happiness as "excitement", like when you lost your virginity. I'm talking more about like a calm, present, peaceful state of being fulfilled instead of needing anything to be different. But yes, your positive emotions aren't "you" either. They're something going on in experience, and I'd much prefer them to negative emotions, but the truth is you can get attached to positivity as well and create suffering for yourself. Think about doing drugs. People get ATTACHED to the good feelings that come from the drugs. They can't handle when it goes away. They're still heavily identified with their experience. People who say they love life...great. I love life too. But actually, if you're so attached to "living", you won't be able love life because you're constantly afraid of death. Thus, you go through life actually suffering because of your attachment to it. When you drop those attachments to the either positive or negative, that's when presence and fulfillment comes in.