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@Mount Bananas The clouds parted for a little bit. Keep meditating and they'll keep parting more and more.

@John Iverson What do you want us to do? It's a sad story, but you're the only one here that can fix these problems. Go meditate. Things will become clearer.

I'd really question the assumption that the UN knows what it's doing. Don't fall victim to the authority bias. Anyway, if something on that list strikes you as important, fine. Start moving in that direction. Your life purpose is about narrowing the infinite potential list of things you COULD DO into that small niche of a thing you ACTUALLY want to do. So if you're just getting started, it's okay to go broad. You'll get more specific over time as you learn and development more self-awareness as to what you truly value. Just start moving.

@Ross You've got a long road ahead of you man. But it seems like you're open to changing, so I'll leave this here: General gist is this is gonna take a lot of work. You're going to have to find ways to practice socializing, improve your inner confidence and much more. But it can be done. If going out and socializing is too hard right now, you might have to take a step back and just work on you for a while. Start a meditation habit. Study what women are attracted to. Get some exercise into your daily routine. And then build from there.

@Spiral I like nudes if it's a girl I'm already having sex with. It's fun if you're both horny but can't physically get to each other at the moment because you're at work or something. You can use it to build the tension for when you finally see each other. It's like foreplay. Also, getting nudes from a real girl is way better than some random nudes on the internet. There's a connection with her and you know you get to fuck her later But some random girl I've just met? Nah, not my style.

@Hardkill I never understood how much slut shaming girls went through until I started doing cold approach pickup. What you quickly realize is that a lot of Game is not even being this super confident, alpha guy. It's creating a situation where the girl feels totally comfortable and that she is not being judged. Whatever that means for her. I've seen girls flip from cold to receptive in just a few seconds by alleviating that concern. I've seen girls flip from receptive to cold once they feel judgment. Then you start having sex and you realize how many girls are sexually repressed. They sometimes have these bizarre rules that have nothing to do with you, like she can only have anal sex or do it in certain positions. She can't let go. This is why something like Vegas is so popular. It's like a free pass for casual sex because Vegas "doesn't count". What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Also, a lot of slut shaming is subconscious. Maybe people aren't running around going "don't be a slut!". But it's implied. It's in their subtle actions, not necessarily their words. It's really no different than how you get conditioned into all sorts of subconscious beliefs. Then you have to go on this whole personal development process to uncover it and rewire it.

@Hafiz I'd try exercise and a hot sauna. Also, get some sunlight. It's not a perfect solution but it will help with the day to day.

@Siim Land It's tough to accept this because everyone is so attached to their thoughts being "real" and "theirs". But if you can just accept this, then it becomes the ultimate advantage. Because you realize can consciously program yourself to think any damn thing you want. Want to have gratitude for every moment? You can train yourself to think that. Want to have total confidence in your abilities? You can train yourself to think that. So really the hardest part is just the letting go. Letting go of your old identity and comfort zone. From there, you're free.

That's a lie. Of course she does, that's what is in her best interest. Would you want your supply of free money to run away? I'd break it off asap. Find yourself a girl that is at least self-sufficient.

@rorghee I'll second what @AleksM said about doing it first thing every morning. That has worked beautifully for me. However, you may not be energetically in a place where you can handle a daily meditation practice of 30 minutes. Try just 20 minutes and build from there over time.

@Jedd Try some Kundalini yoga. There's a girl on YouTube named Kimilla who is fantastic: Also, there's a book on Leo's booklist about awakening your Kundalini. You might want to check that out.

@Colin Nice shares. A technique for reprogramming I don't hear talked about often is what Tony Robbins calls incantations. They're like affirmations on steroids, because instead of just repeating your affirmation over and over, you're going to make some sort of physical move at the same time. Makes it sink in deeper. Here's an example of him having people do it at his seminar:

@Mohamad Tahmas Yes this works really well. Speculation, but I'd guess part of it is because when you take on the role of the teacher, your subconscious mind assumes you must know the material.

@kieranperez Of course you find examples of people who rose from poverty with no formal studying of personal development. Your life is ultimately in your hands, and so if that is what you chose to do you could do it. Plus, some people from poverty might have more emotional leverage to actually take action on improving their life. But that doesn't dismiss that YOU should be doing personal development. Why wouldn't you use every advantage you have? Do you think people pulled themselves from poverty by ignoring the opportunities they got? Formal personal development is a huge advantage. You don't HAVE to do it...but you don't have to do anything. Also, consider that personal development is far more than material success. Maybe these people pulled themselves from poverty. But what are their relationships like? Their health? Their spiritual connection? Their life purpose? Their happiness? I find it extremely rare that people nail all of these. Notice that everything your friends and family advocated ultimately ends with you living a mediocre life, doing something for work just to get by. Your friends and family are not going to understand doing personal development. They have their own limitations and will put them on you.

Don’t worry, I think I threw them off the trail for now! Yes, yes, there is no mod conspiracy. Just go back to your regularly scheduled posting. Nothing to see here.

@WaveInTheOcean @ajasatya I don’t know who deleted it or why the post was deleted. But either way I can assure you it’s not a mod conspiracy to stifle apposing opinions. Likely he deleted it himself or one of us made the judgement call that it violated forum rules.

@Stephyk8 Amanda Johnson. She asked me to feature her book on my blog awhile back. Totally underrated teacher. She's been on a spiritual path for awhile and has had some major insights / changes to her life. She also has a really down to earth, yet loving teaching style.

@Random User Meditate, meditate, meditate. Also, meditate. Runner Up: yoga. Like real yoga, not the stuff they've repackaged as an exercise program.

@Coop Do you meditate? if not, get on it. It will really help you with anxiety. Sounds also like pickup could be a perfect way for you to push your comfort zone but also get some nice wins under your belt with women. I'd continue exploring that.

You could potentially do it either way. But I will say that you're likely to have more flexibility in college than a job. In college, you are more or less in complete control of what you're going to study. You're a free man, despite the responsibilities that come from actually taking courses. That freedom is what allows you to follow your natural curiosities, which leads to LP. With a job you'll mostly just have to do your job description. Nothing wrong with that, but you certainly will not have much flexibility unless you get a new job. The Pro side of getting a job is that you'll get real world experience, not book experience. And that can be 10x more important. So if you do get a job, choose it from a perspective of taking a college class. You're just following your curiosity and what seems interesting to learn.

@Spiral This is funny to me because I've almost always found myself with a disproportionate amount of guy friends over girl friends. Sports, fraternity, etc. Maybe we can balance each other out I recognize a lot of the issues you bring up in guys I've known. The excessive jealousy, competitiveness and chest beating can definitely be signs of lower consciousness in a certain context. But any problem always starts with you. You are El Hefe, The Godfather and The King of your world. So if you want to start making friends with guys who are a bit higher up the scale, bring yourself there first. Only then are you likely to make those kind of relationships. We attract what we are. That's the macro solution. On the micro, I would say your best bet is finding some sort of hobby that guys gravitate towards. I know you say you're not a stereotypical manly man but it doesn't have to be football. It could be hiking or running or surfing. As long as its a sport and not named yoga, you'll find dudes. Side note, this is the first time on this forum I've helped a guy meet other guys. Usually they want to meet chicks. Must be this Mercury Retrograde going on or something

@krazzer Do you actually want to be immortal and omnipotent? I mean, it sounds nice in theory. Dying looks like it must suck. And who wouldn't want infinite power? But let's actually break it down. To be immortal means "you" would be "you" for an INFINITE amount of time. That is infinitely longer than any number you can imagine. I can't picture any experience I'd want to have for infinity. At the same time, at the soul-level you already are immortal. So the finiteness of ego death really doesn't mean shit. The reason people fear death, myself still included, is because they haven't experienced this yet. What about being omnipotent? If you're omnipotent, there's no value in anything you accomplish. It's like playing a video game with every cheat code. Boring. So the fact that we are acting as finite beings actually is a necessary self-restriction.

@Odirachris Technically all you have to do is be aware of everything you do throughout the day. But practically it's a lot more difficult than that because our minds constantly seek to slip into unconsciousness. A great practical tip is just to set a reminder on your phone to go off every hour or every couple of hours. Then just become mindful of whatever is happening at the moment. Eventually the habit starts to build.

@AleksM I'm on this as well. Here is a topic I started awhile back: Since then it's only continued. More ringing, more repeating numbers, more synchronicities. I was never a believer in this kind of stuff growing up but at this point it seems crazier to deny it.

@Russell No, solipsism is just another philosophy. Maybe useful as a pointer, but definitely not the "real thing".