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Of course. You're all a bunch of liberal, freedom junkies

I think I understand it fine. I'm trying to share with a perspective I've developed over the past five years, coming from profound insights into repression, freedom and authenticity. This is not something I'm just pulling out of my ass. If you think I don't understand repression, you're welcome to share where I'm going wrong. Focusing on repression is fine as a first step, but it's not nearly enough.

I'm not sure how this relates to what I was saying.

Not by a long shot. Focusing on repression is exactly the foolishness of liberalism and SD Green level-logic of authenticity as liberation. And it's exhausting.

This girl's channel has a lot of good Green examples:

Yes, you can live your life. The point was that Teal's followers aren't doing that. They are just asleep.

You can't become more yourself just by focusing on repression. Freedom is always highly constrained.

He is a good speaker. But can he deliver?

No. He's a pretty standard progressive.

Now we see if he can walk his talk.

Awakening means becoming conscious that you are God and that everything is your Infinite Mind. You do not get that by just "living life". "Living life" is the default of what everyone is doing. That's called dreaming.

I mean she has a tendency to frame awakening as pointless because "you're just here to create and live life!!". So then of course her followers don't awaken. Which means they can't even understand that quote to begin with.

I wouldn't say it's that extreme. Men can still be masculine mostly just fine, people just want a more balanced masculinity. It's important to not develop too much of a victim mentality around what struggles your gender goes through.

Teal Swan followers are not awakening. That's the problem with quotes like that.

The book is looking awesome, excited to read it.

You nailed that one. That's exactly how I think about it. I understand men being punished for femininity, but I wouldn't think women would be as harshly punished. Look at something like Mormon society. It's not really "repressed feminine". It's more mutually strict gender roles. If you were born a Mormon, you would have had an easier time being feminine. Mormonism is like a feminine woman factory machine, to the point that the femininity itself becomes repressive: This is a good example of what SD Blue is like. SD Orange is more repressive of femininity I'd say.

That mostly comes from people with a Cook-Grueter Individualist / Pluralist value-set, where you value authenticity and the deconstruction of oppressive societal roles. It has its value as a perspective. You can be too rigid in how you enforce masculinity on men, to the point of absurdity. Here's an example:

It's about ego development.

"Pro-social" and "community" is relative. If I go to war against an enemy tribe and kill them, that's potentially pro-social and pro their community. And war is not something of the past. War is very much still with us, even if its face has somewhat evolved. I agree that we could be open to more flexibility. Society is complex and there will be people who don't fit the mold. It's also true that as society evolves, men will probably be able to soften more. Here's a good example of the kind of stupidity I think you are getting at: On the whole though, men are not such unique snowflakes you can't predict how they will develop. You can develop genuine masculinity. And it doesn't happen just by integrating more feminine energy. That is not enough. Masculinity develops in a very specific way. It has to be forged, like trial by fire. Honestly, I'm having a hard time understanding why you felt the need to do this. I don't think a woman has ever earned my respect that way. It sounds like you felt the need to compete with men? Or at least be more like men. Reminds me of this

Wild. He's on top.

There's nothing wrong with it per se if that's what you want. Most of us here just aren't interested in that.

You just vibe and get to know each other a bit. Don't talk about "things" too much. Talk about her, talk about you, talk about you together as a unit. Also, you need to be thinking about where you want this interaction to go and make plans accordingly. Is this a ONS? A phone number situation? A social circle environment? Friendship? What do you want from her? Think about solving as many logistical problems before you even go out as possible. Are you going to Uber back to your place? Drive her yourself? Take public transportation? Can you shorten that distance? Is your apartment / home ready to bring women back to? Do you have fun things planned or an excuse to bring her inside? What will you do with her friends? The problem a lot of guys have is they're too haphazard about all this. They think this stuff will just work itself out. Sometimes it can if you're clever, but often it won't. You need to plan ahead.

I didn't think he had a chance originally, but now it looks like he might have a real shot. It will be interesting to see how this shakes out either way.

Good one.

Well we are just going to disagree on this. It has not been outgrown. If you can't understand why men need and even want that kind of pressure, you can't really understand masculinity.