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Since 3 weeks I'm doing day game. And before that I did some night game but I didn't know what I was doing. I was a different person last year. Me approaching and having actual 10-20 minute talks with hotties during the day is a huge success in my book. What do you think I'm doing wrong? Usually I have a strong presence, I show intention, and I get into her emotional space. I usually fuck up at the end by not knowing what to say or becoming nervous about the close.

Social situations gives social proof. I get what you mean but there are a lot of men on this forum and elsewhere (PUA community) that can get away with being a stranger on the street. The PUA community encourages to project sexual intent through non-verbal. I don't do that too much because I have a hard time creating comfort (apparently). I don't have a social circle with a lot of hot girls. On this forum people say it can be done. Some users said they have abundance through day game. In every topic, Leo recommends people to do day game. A lot of guys just don't have the balls to do it. I finally grew some but it is not enough. In PUA they say social hook point is 5 minutes. I guess this is not true. It is really about the emotional connection, not the duration, or social proof. I'm starting to get more into her personal rather than asking general questions about her life and qualify but I'm starting to believe it is a numbers game. I'm doing like 5-10 approaches for the last 3 weeks and it has been disappointing.

Just read both and find out for yourself.

I would be careful going back to that dentist after such an escalation. Like Socrates said: I can get angry too to get my way. Last year I was angry at an electronic shop for not taking their used headphones back. They sold me used headphones. Most people just accept their rejection and back off. Not me.

It depends on what kind of work you do. If you are programmer and you have low energy you will have a hard time working 10 hours. But if you are a babysitter, you can easily work 10-12 hours. I know people who are no babysitters but do the same level of intensity work and they work 10 hours per day.

I never do that because I forget what the book is about when I go back to it. If you make notes or underline it is no problem though. If I don't make notes I read it cover to cover in couple of days so most concepts stay online and I understand it cross dimensionally.

Get into Buddhism and do pranayamas. Breath work is key. It helped me.

I cam get my in June or something. They are vaccinating the old people.

Physical reality is Shakti which is the material manifestation of Shiva's god consciousness. The past is real as much as physical reality is real. The past is a root like the root of a plant. Your present has its roots in the past. But the past and present wouldn't exist without the seed of consciousness from Shiva.

This can desensitize your dick

It is a 5 week program. The author of the program is into eastern philosophy and Buddhism. Every week you get the theory and the missions of 1 of the 5 principles. This is a principle based program. I loved how James gives chakra references during the lessons. For example he says you should be in touch with your root and heart chakra. This helped me a lot since I'm in my head most of the time. You really need to do the exercises to get something out of it. This program actually made me approach girls a lot. He asks to approach 5 girls per day in some weeks. I couldn't do that but I believe I still got a lot of value out of this program.

Buy a dumbbell and start doing 100x squats everyday every time you have the urge to eat junk food. Report back.

So I met this girl at the mall. We talked and we had a good connection. She said I should text her so we would have a walk in the park together. So I texted her asking her if she was in for a walk. She says yes. I suggest to meet somewhere at a 14:00. At this point she starting totally ghosting me although she was very enthusiastic when I talked to her. I really don't understand these women man. Why say yes to go to a date and then totally ignore me after I suggest a time. ? I sent a question mark a day later. And I got ghosted again. Why not just tell me you are not interested? Is she playing hard to get or not interested at all? I don't want to appear pushy by triple texting her.

I don't have a sex drive because of my porn addiction. I'm doing this with a dried sack. If I did this work with a sex drive I would kill it. My biggest problems are internal: no self control and no self discipline ?

@flowboy I know the road map. The problem is that pickup is triggering a lot of emotions. I'm either in euforia or I'm deeply depressed. When I'm in a stage of euforia pickup is effortless (focus on process instead or result), when I depressed it is the other way around; focusing on result instead of process. Currently I don't have control over these emotional states. I think I will take a 1-2 week break. I'm not used to this emotional labor. My therapist is on vacation and I have to do this by my own.

That is actually what I'm already doing (without the guessing game part). Perhaps when I'm more advanced I will try to use what you said. My focus at this moment is to just hold my frame in the interaction, which is more than difficult for me when the girl is neutral towards me and doesn't give me a lot to work with. I'm also working on emotional impact/connection but these topics are already too advanced for somebody who is doing day game. If I can just hold frame and have a flowing interaction on a consistent basis I would already be happy. This is my bottleneck at this moment.

Creating abundance is not easy for me. Not a lot of easy options available through tinder. To get dates I have to grind it out during day game. It is hard to have abundance mindset when you are doing this.

Looking back at it I know all the things I did wrong. I was emotionally attached and I need emotional validation. Girls can feel that. And I felt that she felt it. Since I'm developing my chakras and third eye I can basically read people's mind by noticing their energies change. I still have to guess what they actually think but when you know how they feel by feeling their energy level it is not very hard to predict what they think. At one point of the interactions I was making too many jokes/acting clownish although I already pulled her in and that definitely lowered my status in her eyes. I was just happy. My inner game is still ****ed though. I was looking for excuses to not approach anymore and my ego found a reason to be depressed. I know there are more fish in the sea but fish are not going to bite if they sense depression/low energy. I'm very busy at this moment so I can't put a lot of energy in my inner game.

@flowboy this is more difficult than I thought. It is very simple actually but changing my self image isn't. When I was reading your post I thought: "no way I can pull that off". My thoughts were like "I can't even get a fucking text back, how can I persuade her to bring strawberries or icecofee". It all starts with inner game. I'm so fucked up by my parents that these things don't come natural to me. I'm insecure about what to text and I just screw it up. Sometimes I think I should just give up. I think I'm taking a break from pickup.

I'm afraid to be abandoned or not being loved. Or if my feelings become a subject of mocking.

I had awful parenting and that influenced a lot of my relationships or better said lack of relationships. I'm now in therapy for half a year.

Some women want men they can't conquer. You weren't a challenge anymore.

@Preety_India I'm very good at long as conversations. I got to therapy and I solved that problem. My issue is concerning the heart chakra. I'm afraid to be hurt. I build walls around my heart and nothing can go in and nothing can go out. My therapist is not into spirituality so she is just using conventional ways. Just having somebody to feel safe around helped me open up my heart chakra. With dating I still have problems. I get attached very quickly and I feel vulnerable. I know the solution: just expose myself until it is fixed but the thing is that I don't approach a lot so I don't have a lot of options.

@Preety_India I know what you mean. I just didn't know how to break the ice and I got tensed up and just asked her out. I thought if I ask about her jobless situation that is not sexy or something. I know that is stupid. To be honest I was not horny. I was just very insecure and I didn't know how to handle that conversation through text. I was afraid of being ghosted and that is what I got.

Thanks for the input. I know guys do this too. It is really how you interpret it. Me as a guy who is very introverted and not a lot of social experience it is hard not to take it personal. What helped me was to switch from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset. That is easier said than done. Changing mindset is very hard.