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Building upon yesterday: In popular culture they talk about "pick me guys/girls". These are people who want to be picked. I definitely carry this energy. I think it has to do with my center of power. My history has conditioned me to give away my power to others. It is very counter intuitive to keep my power within myself so it can become - personalized - power. I have been doing some grounding exercises while being in interactions. I'm trying to be mindful of where my awareness is: is my awareness within my own body or is my awareness focused on the other person? The regulator of this awareness is fear. The more fearful I'm the more concentrated I'm on the outside world (scanning for dangers); the less fearful I'm the more concentrated on myself (my body). The regulation of this awareness is a balancing act. Sometimes I'm to grounded in myself and not aware of the surrounding. It can come off as uncalibrated but I don't care. I'm experimenting. What I noticed is that when I put my awareness on my body and just follow my instincts - without interference of the higher brain functions - I notice that I become more animal like. I didn't have the chance to experiment with this enough but women love this masculine raw energy. Eventually I will have to channel this raw energy into something refined, but fuck that, I think I'm going to experiment with this newfound raw masculine energy. It somewhat feels like being an animal. It is very strange because I'm a dude that is mostly in my head. Just giving no fuck and following these instincts and impulses results in a massive expansion in behavior and ego-boundaries. I'm making mistakes but I'm seeing these mistakes as reference experiences. At this stage of my development I'm giving priority to quantity over quality. Stacking upon reference experiences will give my auto-pilot more data and it will mean it will be more accurate in the future. Actually that is my current ordeal: being able to trust my (masculine) instincts and impulses and acting upon it.

Remove the obstacles that prevent you from connecting with other people. Attraction is effortless. Does the earth have any trouble attracting the moon?

Women aren't static. They change. Especially in their younger years some have very high standards and then they find out they are getting older and that 10/10 white knight in shining armor is not coming. Or she is fucking with alpha males and find out she is just getting used and if she is smart she will find the pattern of dump and dump. The older they get the more they will settle for a beta provider male. As a guy you should see through this scheme and chose your own destiny: get a good deal by being proactive!

I need to work on my frame aka inner reality. Being in touch with my own emotions is something I have problems with. Soon I will be posting ways I solved this. Not having a strong frame can cause to be flaky in the conversation and is it really weird that the girl will be flaky on you? There are really two components. Have a strong (masculine) energy and having strong/clear intentions/designs.

Cut porn for 3 months and things will turn to normal. It will be hard but if you want it hard enough it is possible. Your brain needs a dopamine reset.

@Striving for more If you are new, you are going to make tons of mistakes. Getting a particular girl you fancy is going to be difficult. You will be overanalyzing and be in a state inertia. Just get past the particulars and shock your system with a lot of experiences with random girls. With every interaction go out of your comfort zone by 10%. Letting go of attachment and neediness is difficult. I'm working on this myself. What I'm doing is, in sets I'm trying to be in my own body (with my awareness), instead of putting the awareness on her. If you put the awareness on her you will try to impress her etc. The moment she knows you are an easy catch or desperate she will lose attraction, if you are not above average looking or her particular type.

I'm on the path of becoming mildly muscled. It has a lot of advantages such as passive caloric burning.

Important insight I had last saturday about women: Experimented with being an asshole:

Go meta. Keep giving context. Persist.

I'm learning. Stop being a little bitch.

I did 7 approaches today to experiment with my new attitude. Being an asshole doesn't work. Especially if you are uncalibrated. Even girls that hook and qualify stop being interested after being so uncalibrated. This is how being an asshole does work: being an asshole 20% of the time + 80% being calibrated. Below is a video to see how it works out. This is an interesting pickup prank channel if you speak Russian or Turkish: If you want to be an asshole it won't work if you are an asshole right from the start. You have to first open-hook-vibe and establish good report/comfort and show value. After she has bought in you can display dickish aspects gradually. It is important not to lose the hook point. The more she is interested the more dickish you can become.

The books oxygen advantage and true to form caught my eye.

I was just joking but it is interesting you say you wouldn't date single mothers and than proceed to give a rant about men who don't date single mothers. Personally I think the video in the OP has some points. I see some people disputing what is being said but until now I haven't read any viable counter-arguments. Obviously names such as cuck and beta is childish but we shouldn't get stuck on such things. The theory in the video has validity.

If you think you are attractive, you are; if you think you don't, you don't Yesterday I did daygame and this was my biggest insight. I always thought I was average or even below average. Why? Because girls don't look at me that much in public places. Turns out this is just bollocks. Recently I have been getting some success and it really rubbed off of me. It is really not a thing you say or do but a way of being. It is confidence, entitlement, detachment, unbotheredness, charisma and a little bit of goofiness. Be like this, but in male form:

Let me guess, you are the cuck .... ehhh... I mean chad? Working on that but having emotional issues doesn't mean you can't get women. Take assholes as an example. Not a lot. Sure, I will talk about non duality. That is what will get me the girls.

@Etherial Cat I'm around 30 but I look younger

If she just used the magic words "I'm not interested" I would left her alone. She talked to me for 10 minutes just because she liked the attention, asking questions, flirting, giving me the impression she liked me. Fuck that.

Getting a fake number last weekend really destroyed my mood. Why can't she just say she is not interested? She gives me a fake number to just play with my feelings. Last month this happened more than once. Fuck that. I'm going to be selfish too.

Thanks for the advice. I don't think working on my LP will get me more game. I'm seeing guys with no LP having way more success because they are confident, fun and whatever. I'm a dude that is highly polite and I have high EQ. What I'm missing is respect for oneself and innerstrength. I need to work on that. Finding a balance between being a fuckboy and being a doormat is hard. I will just make a 180 degree flip and just be the opposite from what I'm being right now. This issue cuts into the very core of me. I'm in therapy right now and being nice, not crossing boundaries and being liked by others is in the core of what I'm. I really need to go of that shit. Even if that means I'm overcompensating. I'm stuck in my old ways for way too long.

I'm so done with women. I'm only doing day game for a month or so and I discovered that I can't trust them for shit. They make promises. Say want to do this and that in my face and then just ghost me. Fuck them. Women are highly selfish and why shouldn't I be? It all evolves around whether the guy is confident and fun or not. Fuck her. I won't raise her kids. I'm not even in that stage in my life. If she wants to have fun I'm open for that otherwise it is a no go.

I'm working on this but it is a multi year project. It is just frustrating to see that assholes that don't put in the effort get the ladies by putting zero effort and all the shenanigans you talk about. I know that girls say they want that kind of profile in a guy but they react to a totally different guy. I'm done with that shit.

I don't get what is wrong that is being said in this video. He uses funny language but that is to trigger people so they improve themselves. Within 10 minutes she told she had a kid. I don't know if she is interested in a non-serious relationship. Stupid me just cut the conversation off after hearing her saying she has a kid. I know where she works and I can talk to her again but something tells me that she is looking for a beta provider guy, why else would she mention her kid when I asked her if she has a boyfriend or not. I'm sick of being a nice guy. I'm seeing assholes just totally treating women as crap and the women like them. For the coming year, I'm going to be the opposite of what I was.

I'm doing Todd's system right now. I'm kind of frustrated by day game. It is rainy outside for days. In the last 3 days I had bad runs. It is not even the girls not reacting bad but having steady consistent confidence is hard. I'm using such videos like in the OP not for ideology but for motivation. Why would I want to raise somebody elses children? If I don't improve myself I will be forced to choose a hot single mom or go for a mediocre girl. That is gas-lighting and strawmanning. Nothing wrong with soy boys by the way.

Yesterday I talked to a nice latin american girl. It was 5 minute talk. Just regular what you do what are your hobbies kind of talk. There was some flirting and interest from her side. I asked her number. She thought about it for 3 seconds and said yes. Today, I called her and it turned out to be a fake number. Wtf. She either did that on purpose or it was a mistake. Either way, in the past I would get butthurt about such stuff. Nowadays I started to just laugh at these things.

If you are the girl in your ava you have nothing to worry about, hun. You have to do mindfulness while approaching random girls. Your attention will tell the truth. If you focus more on your own feelings than focusing on what the other feels, it means you are grounded within yourself. If you neglect your own feelings to focus on if the other person is "entertained" or likes you or not, it means you are not grounded. The metric is fear. The more fearful you are the more you will focus outside of yourself. The more relaxed you are, the more you will focus on yourself.