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So which programs are a good supplement to Todd's system then? Todd is not even with RSD anymore and this program was made after his departure. Todd's system actually gives a roadmap how to go from basic to advanced. I haven't seen other programs doing that. In my opinion Todd's system is the broadest a PUA program can be. Stuff like "female perspective" and "social game" is secondary. These stuff can be learned first hand in the field.

There are actually exercises in this program. I totally missed it. lol. @Leo Gura it is not a typical PUA program but I know what you mean.

In the last I made such a paradigm shift regarding myself versus dating, that other paradigms in my life are shaking too. Because if I was wrong about my dating paradigm, my other paradigms might be faulty too.

Dude, just try it.

It could be temporal. I never had bi-fantasies but I do recognize what happens after no-fap: sex fantasies.

Like supplicating to other people. If you boil it down it comes down to this: when you meet somebody your worldview and the other person's worldview collapse. The nice people always supplicates to the other person's world view to get "favors" or some certain psychological need met. A jerk has a very strong worldview: they don't supplicate. Women love this. If your world view as a man is stronger than hers, you basically penetrate her world view. And after that you can penetrate her in more literal ways. Stereotypical woman is passive. I always thought women don't like me. The problem was not that women didn't like me. I wasn't penetrative. It is a matter of paradigms.

Put hot water in a bowl Put your face above the bowl Put a blanket over your head. Problem solved.

Seriously since I have started becoming a jerk my life regarding women has become so easy. I think the bottom line is that if you are nice to people people get suspicious and rightly so. Niceness should be a tiny cherry on top of the cake; it shouldn't be the cake itself.

Her books helped me a lot to put things together. These tidbit videos are nice but but they are just rehashes.

Being an asshole/being nice is surface level. People use it as a mask to get what they want. Both sides of the spectrum can be used as a strategy to get what one want. In some areas of life or in some countries it requires to be nice to be successful so people are nice(like in business). In other countries or areas life it is not so good to be nice (like in pickup). I use both and I recently cut the bullshit about "I'm nice". It goes deeper than that. Nicying your way in life as a philosophy doesn't work. Sometimes you just have to be a raging dick.

I'm fascinated about strategy. It brought orderliness in my life. Love to binge on some good strategy books. Ps: already read all the strategy related books on the book list.

That is not awkwardness. You haven't seen awkwardness.? He was actually goofy, self amusing and not invested. That is what game is. If you get clingy and have self doubt, awkwardness reeks off of you.

Hissy fits are so funny.

What you desire is what you want and what you want is what you do. You need to find a way to change your desires. That is where the magic happens.

I would recommend you start from zero. You have mental constructions about yourself that are incorrect. Perhaps I'm wrong but it is worth trying. Drop all assumptions about yourself and try to experiment, learn and start to study yourself like it is the first day in your life. Drop all ego. Between the lines of your post I'm reading all kind of negative emotions. You need to meditate and let these emotions go so that you can relax. Relationships happen when you relax. You have to trust yourself. Just have blind faith that you will be ok. Just try it for couple of months and if it doesn't work you can go back to your old ways. Being good in relationships also demand experience. You lack experience and only way to get experience is massive exposure. Read the book the 5 second rule and just do it. If your action/thinking ratio is 10%/90%, flip that around. You know what to do, are you willing to do the emotional labor? You have to be honest to yourself first of all.

Most people who get banned look it up on purpose. Leo be like:

Tell her that it is not her beauty that it is the problem but her huge ass ego.

I get that. Don't micromanage by overanalyzing things. I started making progress when I focused on the learning process, instead of focusing on certain desired outcomes. I recommend the book Mindset by Carol Dweck. What do you recommend to somebody who doesn't have the hot girl social circle for dating? Or more precisely.. how does one break into those circles?

So I'm getting a lot of flakes and it is frustrating. One accepted my offer to take a walk and get coffee and stopped responding. Another one, doesn't respond to my text at all. And today I approached a nice lady, she was nice and blushed when I started talking to her. She asked questions back and she was relaxed during the whole middle part of the conversation. At one point she said she was in a hurry, so I started to wrap things up, tell her I want to take her to get a coffee: she accepts. So I give her my number+name, and tell her to text me so I get her number but she was in a real hurry so she just walks off without texting me back. I yell at her to text me back but she just ignores me. She had earphones in though. I'm starting to see a pattern. When shit starts getting real and we are making plans girls always flake on me. I don't really know what I'm doing wrong. I'm just relaxed and in my manhood. I give space to the other person so she can ask questions back and they do. They are relaxed and seem like enjoying the conversation. Probably it is the neediness? Maybe something else? I'm trying not to be needy but it is hard not to pretend to be needy when I'm simply needy. To be clear: in the conversations I'm not needy but they just can sense it.

Dating and spirituality compliment each other. You say they are opposites. That is why it is so great to do it together. Spirituality is the theory. Dating is the practice.

There is no income disparity where I live and in most western there isn't. If they can do the same job and work the same hours they earn the same salary but some women here work part time and want to earn the same salary as men who work full time.

If you live in the west, feminism has done its work, and should be deconstructed. With every year feminism is getting more toxic because it fulfilled it purpose and now it is overcompensating. Toxic feminity is a huge problem. Men and women earn as much women and women still expect men to pick up the bills. Women get the kids when divorcing. The attitude of some women. I can go on and on about modern day feminism. If feminism has reached its purpose in a country, they should switch over to humanism: equality for everybody.

I wouldn't become soft on you if that makes you feel better.

Zen philosophy says the universe exists out of yin and yang, and masculine and feminine is just one manifestation of yin and yang.

Paul Chek would be awesome