StarStruck

There are many variables that contributed to my success. I changed too many to single a variable out. Stopping FAPPING really turned me in a beast though. Now I know that busting one out without putting in the effort to get a girl is no option anymore, I changed. I can´t really put it in words.

Another unexpected approach. I went to the supermarket. There was a brunette with beautiful green eyes. She had a face mask on. It was hard to read her signals. I thought she wasn't interested from the nonverbal and verbal signals I was reading. I decided to burn the set down and decided to close within 3 minutes because why not? The store was almost closing; I had to close it. It is the FRAME, not the words. The words are only means to an end and this approach proved it. We only exchanged like 4-5 sentences but a lot of meaning was within those sentences. In a certain way communicating in a subtle/implicit way is better. The few sentences and words you exchange are packed with meaning and the chance to fuck it up is smaller because the more you talk the bigger the chance you can fuck it up; and the less you talk the smaller the chances are you can fuck things up. The conversation was so silly. I literally talked about a random product. She didn't respond. I saw she was shy so I couldn't judge if she didn't like me or not. There wasn't disengagement though; she smiled shyly so I proceeded with a random transition in the conversation... I randomly asked about what she was doing after work.. She said "Nothing".. I teased with saying "so no parties tonight?" kind of teasing and lowering her value - at this point I really had to cut the conversation because the store was closing: I told her to give her number to me so I could invite her to my friend's party. She had to think about it for 2-3 seconds and she said yes. She wrote her name and phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to me. After this alteration she even didn't look in my eyes. I said "talk to you later" and I left. I really don't get women. Why she didn't look in my eyes? Previously I thought these girls were above my league but they aren't. Women just operate in a different way. I still don't get them. Something says to me that she is going to flake but let's see. Fuck these women. I'm doing these pickups for myself and to expand myself. If there is one thing I learned about women: if you don't care about yourself, they won't care about you!

Approached a really cute girl today on my way home. She was very happy to be approached but she had a bf and she had to catch the train so I had to keep it short: I decided to say something witty, it was all or nothing, "do you want a second boyfriend?" while smiling, her body language said yes but her mouth no. I was surprised I was able to say something dickish like this out of nothing. I couldn't capitalize on the situation but I was happy. I was kind of surprised of myself. Last year I was in ashes.. I really did rise out of my ashes.

Ever heard of the bitch shield? Those girls can have a nice personality once you get through the barrier. This has nothing to do with PUA by the way.

Recently I solved a lot of my problems because of certain wisdom I gained. I don't know where this trigger comes from. I have this repulsion to share. It is probably to keep my edge with survival against others. Also I won't get credit for it. I think there is nothing wrong with this but another part also feels bad about it. It is a matter of power. Why would I give my power away to my peers?

Pushpull in my book is about balancing positivity and negativity. Unfortunately girls react to negativity so I usually lean towards that.

It is classic push-pull. Nothing special. It can be trained solo or in set.

Pickup is very comparable to two people playing piano on free style: Most people have trouble talking random shit to a random girl for 5 minutes. If we use the pianist analogy... If you are a pianist, how can you play a duo with another pianist if you can't even play a random tune for 5 minutes? For a piano piece to be enjoyable there needs to be a tune. My problem is that I have catchy tunes but there are huge gaps within the piece. I need to learn how to play freestyle piano for 5-15 minutes straight without big pauses in them. Pickup is not only about playing a catchy tune, that a girl might like, it is also about matching the other person. Your tune might be a very catchy tune, that you like but you also need to consider if the girl can match your tune in a melodic/harmonic way. If she can't she won't feel comfortable playing a duo with you she will feel out of place and stop playing with you. The two pianist have to play a piano piece that is in harmony for it to be enjoyable. If the piece is not in harmony it will feel very awful to the ear. A good piano play is played from the heart and feelings: if you play the piano mechanically, forget about it! You won't enjoy playing and she won't enjoy playing. With piano playing requisite variety is key; lateral versus vertical Leading requires pro activity. Passivity and waiting for a female to lead is just stupid. Just keep playing different tunes and see which one she likes; she will play along with you if she likes the tune. The more tunes you have up your sleeve the better. Girls expect you to lead the piece, and she will follow. If you can't even play the piano for 5 minutes and be enjoyable to yourself, don't expect her to jump in and do your job for you. If you leave huge silent gaps in your play, forget about it. My sticking point is the last point. A lot of times I just freeze up and stop playing "piano" and the girl just looks at me and feels uncomfortable. I have seen girls that liked me a lot in the beginning stop liking me or flaking on me. I never got why! Girls will never say in your face "you can't play the piano!". Women are usually good at playing the piano but they are not good in leading. It is my job to lead the play and if I'm fun, she will happily join me and we will get this:

@Raphael when it first came out it was cutting edge, now it is... meh..

I couldn't do any approaches the last couple of days. It has been rainy. Only option is approaching in the mall but that is kind of weird with the face mask on. Only did some flirting with the female staff in the supermarket. Usually I would totally freeze when I see a stunner. Now talking to stunners is second nature. My body demands me to talk to them so I do it. To staff or places where I come often I don't use direct game. I flirted with two female staff to practise my indirect game. Something I don't have a lot of exp with. Indirect is much more difficult than direct. Opening and hooking was flawless. This is how it went: I spiked a good amount of emotions but for some reason I couldn't capitalize on it. I didn't know what to say. It is hard because I'm used to direct game and in that context I have enough things to say. Unfortunately with this indirect approaches I got in my head very quickly. I don't think I did something wrong. I just don't have the muscle memory with indirect game. What I noticed that I go into interview mode when I don't know what to say. I need to work on making pushpull statements, observations, teases and just fucking relax so that I can build that mental muscle memory. What I lack is that basic rhythm/vibe in the conversation. The two girls were very hot. Just amazingly hot. I didn't have any problems with showing and projecting intent. One month ago that was a different story. I would quiver and act very giddy and unattractive. I'm glad I made this progress. The next plateau I need to overcome is having that basic rhythm and vibe in the conversation.

I have trouble with always having stuff to say. There are moments that I just blank out. Having a wingman fill in the blanks helps me a lot. I can also pick up on the vibe he is sending out.

William B Irvine's book is really good.

Sometimes I don't know what to eat and in those times I don't think in terms of dishes but in terms of countries. Every region in the world has a certain signature. I let my taste buds or intuition choose a region and I narrow it down to a dish. It is not only what is healhty but also what your body needs. Learn intuitive eating.

True. It is not the thing but your relationship to the thing. For PMO was an escape. A lot of years were wasted while I could have used those years to date women and grow.

@dflores321 yea, it is kind of strange people still don't understand the effect of porn on porn addicts.

Same with me. Telling me to just squeeze one out is like telling a drunkard he can have one beer. It is not going to work.

My eye contact with girls has changed. I don't know what it is. It is not something I'm doing but a different way of being. I have been working on my solar plexus chakra. I think I look more alive. My eyes are bigger. It is crazy how the mind and body works. It is best described at this. When I'm looking at a girl I'm not sucking energy. I'm projecting energy. I'm not reactive. I'm proactive. It is crazy how subtle seduction is. When you have this masculine energy that I describe above girls will show submissive signals. I'm starting to look different at communication. There was this realm of communication through being that I'm starting to be more conscious of.

@Leo Gura please do post pics

Toxins aren't stored in organs. The organ liver only filters the toxins and deposes it. https://www.nourishingdays.com/2010/06/liver-qa-why-liver-is-not-full-of-toxins-and-where-to-find-good-liver/

Unapologetically being a man.

Some girls lose attraction if they know they fully `tamed` the guy. There is no mystery and game anymore. Especially if you were so easy to tame and she didn´t have to invest that much to tame you she will drop you like a brick.

If you had endure serious childhood trauma, you need professional help. It is possible to get help from forums and books but you can misinterpret this advice and do more harm than good. Trauma is frozen emotions. Emotions like anger that you couldn't feel towards your parents during the abuse. You disidentified with these emotions but you actually have to feel them to let them go. The negative energy needs to leave your body. It is very nuanced and it is hard to do it at your own without good professional help.

Good video that connects to what I said above about wielding grounded power and not giving your power away: Having said that wielding personal power is only an aspect of the whole picture. I have troubles with this part of the picture so I will be focusing on it for the time being. I believe this is a major sticking point with my PUA skills and I can even see my lack of power and the problems it causes in other areas of my life. I made a topic about it here:

What I believe is true turns out to become the truth. It is interesting how the brain works.

What I said the last two post in this thread connects to the thread I made a couple of days ago: Girls love a guy with grounded personal power (somebody who doesn't seek validation, but is the one who gives validation to others); it is basically power play. In every conversation there is an underlying power dynamic at work, language is a way to express this dynamic. Thus it is stupid to be so obsessed with language. If one focuses on language you are just communicating on the surface level. Most guys only communicate on the surface level and they are not aware of what is happening below the surface. Women are much more socially savvy and they communicate and pick up stuff on a much deeper level. It doesn't mean women understand what is going on, they think on a more gut level and say "I'm not feeling attracted to this guy and I don't know why" while the guy is being super needy. I always thought I could study the theory and get good with women. That is really half of the work. The theory part can be borrowed from others. The practice and the so-called muscle memory can only be developed with boots on the ground. Getting good with girls is really about programming the auto-pilot (unconscious brain). It needs a correct map of the social matrix; and have the confidence and ability it can navigate the social matrix