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The problem is ambiguous feelings. One part of you wants to stop (your super ego) because it sees the downsides. The other part (your id or animal instincts) want to continue with old patterns. You need to develop a stronger ego so it can mediate between the super ego and the id. Eventually you want to be come the master of your own life. The trick is this: you need to make a deal with yourself that works, and I don't have a blue print or magic pill. Everybody is different. If stopping porn full stop is difficult try stopping 1 week and add 1 week to your streak and build the muscle. Your mind is your mental gym. It is really about consistence. Find a rhythm or new baseline of behavior that you can stomach.

The girl who cancelled our third date for the second time really hurt me. This date was her initiative, she wanted to meet me so I thought this time she wouldn't flake but I was wrong. 4-5 hours before our date she cancelled it. She said she had a job interview. So this time it was a job interview...Last week she said she was sick. So it is the second time she cancels our date. I asked her if she could meet next week: "I'm going to my parents next week". I'm so done, hurt, and angry. She was so into me but I played my cards wrong. People tell me all the time "just be myself". I'm just being myself and girls find that anti-magnetic. Last time the date was just perfect, we had so much fun. She really liked me and she said "you are such a nice guy" and that moment I knew fucked up. For the record, her cancelling my date because of a job interview is plausible because she said she is looking for a new job. On the other hand, her going to her parents and leaving me out to dry is a CLEAR sign I don't have high priorities for her. It is very painful because I remember in the first date: she was very eager to meet me and was head over heals. And now she is showing clear signs that she is the opposite. I'm in doubt about that last part though, the last date (second try for having a third date) was still her initiative so I might be reading too much into it. I really liked her and the last two weeks I couldn't see her. Next week I can't see her. I think it would be healthy to detach myself emotionally from her. And even more over.... I will detach myself emotionally from girls and from dating all together. This is really a new phase in my personality. Being a nice guy only caused me pain and suffering, and I want to hurt others but that is not the way. I'm trying to take the hurt and anger and put it into my LP and my self-development but it is not easy. I'm not use to pain. In the past I always dodged rejection and other kind of emotional pains through an incel life. I hate these sensations, but these sensations do make me feel alive... There will be a time to be dead, now it is time to live. I'm close to giving up though. I even had some suicidal thoughts. These rejections just go to the core of who I'm. Emotionally I'm trying to keep on my feet. I notice how weak and fragile I'm and I'm just trying to let it be and not judge myself or judge others. I'm confused. Some relevant advice Summary: Just allow yourself to be the new guy because what you resist (the inner nice guy) persists, Notice the inner nice guy in the body when communicating: be mindful and take notes of the nice guy in the physiology (muscle memory), without awareness there is no control, it is not about thinking but what you are in the body, just relax Just relax, trust yourself, be flexible and responsive, practise it

Did that fucker remove the video?

Approached a girl. Just amazingly hot with crop top. It went really good. She agreed to give her number. My vibe switched a bit and I got nervous. She picked up on that and retracted giving her number to me. Game is that subtle and nuanced! Girls can pick such small changes in vibes. Just wow. Gaming is really done through vibes. What I could have done better is vibe longer or gone for instant date. I felt there was room for instant date. I just rushed getting her number. I was afraid of making mistakes. I didn't know how to set up instant date on the fly. I wanted to play safe and that costed me. With game playing safe is not playing safe, it is the opposite.

She did the same thing AGAIN after her taking initiative to reschedule the third date. Last time she was sick. This time she got invited for a job interview. She says she has to cancel. Man, fuck this shit. I'm only getting disappointed. I'm giving up. I really got enough of this shit. It is just not working out. The universe is against me.

I'm taking the Janssen vaccination. 1 is enough. If it is next year I will take the other type too, if needed.

I would be funny that after so many pages Leo would decide not to go on the tour. It would be plausible. He is health issues.

That is like saying don't take a painstiller now for your headache because next year you will perhaps maybe get another headache.

I'm getting 1 vaccine. I don't need 2.

Frustration can be used to keep my old patterns. Or frustration can be used to create new patterns. It all starts in the brain and thinking patterns. There is where the ignition happens. I need to have patience. First and foremost I need to finish my no fap journey. I got some good advice here: But people don't seem to understand my struggle. I do get it though. It is hard to understand.

I'm currently doing no fan (monk mode) and I can't have sex. So we are into each other. We had couple of dates. She says I should come over next week. I'm afraid of this because I'm doing nofap and trying to heal my brain. In the past I told a girl about nofap and she freaked out. I need some advice on this hot 21 year old blonde girl. Because I'm afraid I will lose her if I gave her bad sex. I rather not have sex with her, completely my 30 day challenge and go from there.

That truly transcending to read that. I'm aware I need to let go of my outdated self-concepts. No-fap community says rewiring through having sex with real life girls it the way to heal but currently I'm in the reboot phase. I need to give my brain and nervous system a rest. My dopamine receptors are fucked up and that is why I don't enjoy slow or normal sex. Perhaps holding her off will make her more horny, or perhaps she will think I'm a boon and scoot off. Time will tell.

Elliot Hulse is a boon and an idiot with an irritating voice but sometime he has some good things to say: Summary of video: making plan is as important as taking action, save energy and time by having routine plans Summary: penetrate the feelings (feminine: body) with the mind (masculine: mind), birth happens from darkness/shadow/stillness, become one with darkness/shadow/stillness before "show time", have mental trigger "ahhhh" Summary: there is no self-control without self-awareness: notice when you are nice guy (don't judge but just observe, note down triggers in body tenseness), have confidence in yourself based on being(acting with trust and faith), don't judge because what you resist persists instead just observe. Let body tenseness go through breathing and loosening up the body.

Quick two approaches on my way to the supermarket. First approach: what I could have done differently/better? Opened ad-hoc, verbals were going good, she was more engaged than me, but I was still in the "hooking phase"; I should have moved to "vibing phase": asking names, where she is from, etc I was so overcompensating in the hooking phase that I even fist bumped her shoulder. Previously I told myself to not do this. A lot of girls don't like it when an unknown guy does it. I was just so pumped up. I couldn't help myself. When I asked her to have a smoke together sometime, she told me I was too direct My confidence was good but I was still a little in my head and I need to ditch the nervous smile/laugh. Vibes were good, there was a lot of fun but lack of direction ruined it. She was so feminine. If I was masculine, it would have been a done deal. I lacked direction. In conclusion: this girl was sooo into me but I messed it up. It is good to be excited but fist bumping her shoulder, being over-enthusiastic, doing premature pulls, is not it! Bottom line: I should have toned tone the emotional spiking when I reached the hook point and proceeded to vibing Second approach: what I could have done differently/better? This was a shy girl. She was a little stunned and that made me a little stunned. What this tells me is that I need to work on my mental frame and not be so quickly put off balance by a girl. I really need to ditch the nervous smile This approach was too "on script", if I pushed the approach a little bit "off script" it would have gone better. She was in her head and the silliness would have pulled her from there. The problem is that I didn't have a lot of time to work on her. We had some nice moments but she was very much in her head. If I was better at vibing I would have had a better chance. Bottom line: I need to work on vibing. Being relaxed. Have a natural and better flow. Let go of emotional resistance. Be more present and aware. Summary: I really liked experimenting with higher energy levels. Just being more pumped up, present and grounded in my body gave me two very volatile approaches. The girls were definitely not bored, they liked it, but I guess I was a little bit uncalibrated. To my defence, it is hard to be calibrated when you are doing something new. Especially when I'm approaching with higher energy than usual. It is hard to tame a wild horse.

I'm afraid I won't be able to get hard because I experience flat line where my libido just plummets. It is very random. Yea, I definitely have that chaser effect. Thanks, I will look into tantra. Personally I don't enjoy slow sex though. Probably because of my programming by porn use.

Amazing video that shows how to balance being a dick and a nice guy; finding the right balance between those two polarities by being calibrated.

This thread is really a gem. lmao

Consciousness in-for-mation is wisdom. Wisdom is gained through labor and nobody can do it for you. It is similar to pushing weights in the gym. Just looking at somebody lifting weights won't make your own muscles bigger. It is OK to look but then you have to do it yourself.

Can't help everybody. Decides need to be made.

How do you mean you are I'm begging to fantasize?

As long as the core of Europe (west Europe) is not touched we are fine with it. Russia can have Ukraine and Poland. Why should we fight fight US interests?

Eat grass fed meat and greens. Drink lots of water. Eat fish and fish eggs. Eat different kind of fruits. And healthy carbs. You can't really go wrong if you do this.

Survival is important to exist but also important for spirituality. If you don't have a body you can't do spirituality. The body is really your temple but also your dojo. If you can't beat up a motherfucker you are missing that vital energy that males should have to get shit done. When talking to dudes who have this energy you can just sense it. Me as a male can sense it. Girls can sense it too. That is why nice guys don't do well with anything and especially not with girls. The girl knows if he is weak with me he is also weak in other high pressure situations.

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Bad side of pickup is that I know a lot of girls from my city. Even the girls who rejected me, they recognize on me street and say hi or have some small talk. I really don't like this aspect. I notice that I get needy and cringe and still try to hook them. Damn this neediness (thirsting) is hard to get out of my system.