StarStruck

I was a hard case incel so I know what I'm talking about. Girls are NOT on our team. Read the book no more mister nice guy. Girls love guys who can take care of themselves and can stand on their own feet. Yes, there is collaboration between the sexes but when push comes to shove we are on our own.

Men and women are not on the same team in casual dating. Both parties are out for their own (survival) interests. That is my experience.

Why do you think I made up my mind?

Fair enough. I'm not whining. I'm trying to understand my opponent's mindset. Also most women on this forum deny women's behavior at large. Having a discussion with them is not whining. This is the way to learn from them. I never try to convince women. It is impossible. I'm confused right now. Some people are serving me up some feminity. Others are serving me up some masculinity. lol. I don't want a relationship. Of course if settle down to be a beta male provider, there will be some girls who are desperate and want to settle down. I know two who want that but I don't want that. I want to casually date for the time being. If a girl is calling me nice I'm doing something wrong. I know that much. True.

If I give my phone number to a fat chick and I change my mind about her, I wouldn't ghost her, I would have the dignity to her and explain to her I changed my mind about her and have the respect to explain. I'm not blaming or something. I'm trying to understand these bitches.

I approached 5 separate girls on my way to the supermarket. 4 rejections but the cutest one gave me her number. She is into philosophy. We are texting since we met. Observations about myself Ad hoc openers: commenting on something about her works much better than using generic openers Care less, that is really what I have to do more: 80% friendly behaviour, 20% dickish behaviour Polarize more; say things that will make her reject you or accept you The way to stopping yourself qualifying, is to make her qualify The formula to make anything fun: go off script! No boring conversations!

Girls made me like this. Why do you think most nice guys are looking for answers? They are frustrated. I'm just a little bit over the top at the moment. It is a phase. After I get the lifestyle I want.. I will integrate and be more well-rounded. Trust me. I wish I could stay a nice guy but nice guys finish last. If you want to be angry at anybody be angry at girls/women who reward the opposite of a nice guy. This is the game and we guys are just rolling with it. That is because of porn. That is why I'm doing nofap. Girls already call me "nice guy" all the time.. in my freaking face.. and you tell me to be more feminine? My problem is that I care too much, that I'm too needy and probably also hurt. I don't know if those will be solved by being more feminine. Anyway, I will look into it. Thanks for the heads up.

@Roy trimming didn't work for me. Sometimes a guy just needs to take a leap to see where the edges are. And then come back and integrate.

@Etherial Cat I approached tons of women and I hear the phrase "you are nice" or "you are a nice guy" so often. I heard it so much that I got sick of it. I'm not kidding. Now I switched it up, now I don't hear that phrase anymore. I hear the phrase "you have balls" more often and I get actual success. The problem is that my niceness is very deep in my core so it can creep up. For the record. I don't have resentment against girls or women. Yes, I got hurt by a girl recently but that is not resentment. That is pain and yes guys have a heart too, they can experience pain too.

I would be considered a nice guy and other guys never treat me poorly because I'm a capable man. The only area where I get treated bad is in the area of dating. I think this guy is right:

To fuck her brains out. These types are no marriage material.

You have to give her a hard time or she will give you a hard time. Never treat her nice unless she deserves it.

@Peter Miklis bingo

To defeat the enemy you have to understand their psychology Weak guy is probably closer to what girls don't like. According to Jordan Peterson, girls like guys who have integrated their inner psychopath. Nice guys are not capable of being psychopaths to protect her from danger. I guess this hardwired in women. Those shit test that you are talking about is about this. Nature (female energy) wants to be contained by culture (masculine energy)

You feel bad about not approaching because you don't have the harem (or one girl) you so desire. Just keep approaching and you will come to a point that you either get what you want or you will be depressed and forced to look inside.

You need to develop this: I'm very niave about girls too. And the more I interact with girls the more I lose my innocence.

Do you go out solo? I tried to go out solo and it is very hard to self-amuse and not be over-reaching to others. It is just so awkward. I'm just standing around with a beer, value scanning the place. Sure I can talk to some dudes to connect but is a marathon. I don't get how people can enjoy themselves 3+ hours in basically just some rooms with hard music.

So I tried 2CB for the first time of my life. Every time I take some psychedelics I always tell myself that I was a fool for not taking psychedelics earlier and that I should do it every 2 weeks. I know why I don't do psychedelics in hard times... I remember now: I swore it off because it was so overwhelming. This trip was different because I have become a different person. I can actually - unconditionally - listen to my heart and not be nasty to it. It is my decision not to write a trip report. It is too personal, but what I can say is this. When I take psychedelics I always think in analogies and the story of Frankenstein was a major part.. “I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy the one, I will indulge the other.” ― Mary Shelley, Frankenstein

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She was all dolled up little blonde. Meeting me in a park. She had an amazing dress and I fell in love. I was so nervous I couldn't kiss her. We had a lot of fun discussions but I forgot to keep it male to female. I feel like I messed up. The hurt is so much that I wished I didn't start pickup/dating women. How could I have kissed her. She had a bag between us. I couldn't get close. My brain just wasn't working. Do you think I messed it up or am I overreacting?

@bazera type into youtube: RSD Tyler or Julien

There are a lot of civilizations that have gone instinct. Personally I think it is possible for civilization fuck up and take couple of years to recover. In the meantime it will be hunger games for the average joe. Civilization can be fucked up in so many different ways. Even some excess radiation from the sun could take out something simple like electricity and just wait and see what shit shows unfold.

I will definitely not confront her or take contact with her but as a last ditch effort I will try it. The more she can hurt me the more I can grow. That is actually what I do with girls who's number I get and they flake through text. I just call them until they have the decency to pickup the phone and tell me. After two times it stopped hurting and gave me freedom. I'm really busy on develop self-esteem. That is the major point for me. Girls can just smell a little pitch of neediness or creepiness. When I approach really hot girls I vibe with them very well but after I while they just smell the stench of niceness and they get repulsed.

I would love to find more wingmen but it is difficult to find them.