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So my gym buddy told me I don't have a good schedule/work-out routine (in a joking way), and I immediately try qualifying and explaining myself. Or if a girl says she can only go out on friday, I'm willing to reschedule immediately. And ..... tada.... the guilt tripping has started Each his own thing. No offense.

I'm also very reactive in conversations. I don't know if that is a product of codependency or something else. Charity is not charity if I have to force myself. Also when I give so much charity they get use to it and keep expecting it. I'm not there to entertain all the old ladies. What I range old is 40-60. Agreed. But they keep complaining about it instead of accepting it. Some women have a hard time accepting that men lose interests in females once the female get older. Obviously my issue is that I'm susceptible for guilt trip mind games. That is what I should be focusing on. What I range old is 40-60. Yea it is weird because she said she would be at a party where I'm going next month, and I could feel her neediness from me, so I felt weird, I tried to hide it to be polite but I thought I'm tired of hiding it lol.

I was this guy for a while to be honest. Yea, I need to work on codependency. It is not easy. There is this book called The Human Magnet syndrom which addresses it. I will read it when I have time.

Because it doesn’t give me joy. Are you female by chance? ? This is what I mean. Why should I sacrifice? I’m not going to dance out of strategy and pretend I like to dance with them so other girls can see that. It is painful and tiring to pretend. the bottom line is that men feel attracted to young beauty and females are attracted to other things.

After 4 month break I started with two programs Verbal game by Todd V Afterwards I will do: High vibe communication by Julien Yesterday I approached a girl at a bus stop without an agenda (or at least that was my attention), and a girl in the gym. And she and I got red faced. And this is what I noticed: being gamey is as much important as being neutral. With neutral I mean just neutral small talk but I get the feeling my thristy intentions are just shining through and I can't help it. I need to give myself some leeway though. This is an interesting concept from Todd V that helped me: Type of communication Plotline communication = emotional spikes, venue changes, escalation = doing part of game = weird if it is overdone (presure on, agenda) Baseline communication = standard normal filler small talk communication = boring if it is overdone (presure off, no agenda) Todd V says it is key to find a good balance between those two types of communication

It is obviously a question for the guys. I’m having trouble with the right eye contact. Staring a girl down is not good and creepy in a gym so what is the right approach? I caught myself trying to observe the girl without being caught and that is equally awkward.

Luckily I don't see them very often

So basically it is this: Just throw all logic out of the window and talk from emotion, get on her nerves but hope she is not a psycho. That is true. If she doesn't know you, she will always bet against you in her judgement

Today I started approaching again, after a break of 4 months. Slowly building up my game with some day game on the street without an outcome; just loose chatter with girls; all fun, games and laughter. In the gym I did my first approach of this year. The girl instantly blushed and was a little shy. Cute blonde girl. We chatted like 2-3 minutes and I started asking some logistics, and all was fine. I asked her name and we exchanged names and she cut me off and told me she had to continue training. So I'm not sure if she likes me or not. My brain tells me she doesn't like me because she cut me off (but she also blushed and acted feminine). So I'm not sure. I have been told not to make so many assumptions in my life so we will see what will happen next time I see her. In the gym I tread carefully because girls talk. lol.

I don't use 3 second rule where I come very often. I can't approach every girl in the gym since it would ruin my reputation. In the gym I prefer to use indirect subtle game and first find out if she has a bf or with who she is. In the gym I don't approach if I don't get eye contact but the thing is that doesn't happen very often. Perhaps I'm not attractive enough or perhaps girls are just busy with their workout routine and are not thirsty like me.

I will try it and hope I won’t be kicked out ☠️

LOL, did you guys even read the science for binaural beats? It is not a magic pill but it does have its uses. It is used for enlightenment or/and EMDR sessions to condition the brain waves of the brain. Joe Dispenza has some good books on the subject.

Use NC headphones, it is much better and more comfy

This book is a money grab. I read it although I'm not a woman. These authors are like bloodsuckers. They smell fear in women and exploit their fears so they can sell their snake oil.

Green has a healthy blue in it

Russia's population is declining rapidly, it failed to catch up with the fourth industrial revolution, and at the same time its economy is tanking. This is what Putin thinks: I need to act now while Russia is still capable of facilitating and financing a large scale war. In geopolitics promises don't mean much. NATO and the US can promise jack shit but there is no mechanism to enforce those promises.

It is good to use wings as inspiration and learn from them. What I'm saying is that to create that learning environment, you shouldn't be afraid from judgement from your wings, and you shouldn't care too much what girls think as long as you are a descent human being.

That is your problem to fix and it has nothing to do with your wings. Ask yourself this: what is more important, my growth or what my wings think of me? If you care what other people think it will fuck up your results big time. Girls like narcissists so you need to stop being an empath. Obviously it is difficult to just not give a fuck at once. Just give a fuck -5% each stroll. It is about incremental development.

You shouldn't be afraid for public feedback. You actually should welcome it like Roy did in the previous page. It only shows your problematic attitude as a mod.

Most don't .. but not all and specially Carl-Richard. And there should be a mechanism to address that. Currently certain mods have formed clans, favor clans and corruption is abound. There should be an independent board that is a higher hierarchy than the mods.

There is really no point to that if the mods back each other’s ass. What is the point if they always choose the side of their fellow mods? This is corruption and it should be weeded out. Mods shouldn’t be allowed to form clans and favor clans, do self promotion for anything and people with low consciousness or big ego shouldn’t become mods. It just takes the quality of the forum down.

I’m not obligated to agree with extreme feminists on this forum. If I receive couple of reports from this fringe group on this forum that doesn’t mean I should get a warning. The warning I got for being ideological and my opinion was basically the same as that of Leo. So why do I get a warning and Leo doesn’t get a warning? This is what I mean. Carl-Richard misuses his power and uses his mod rights as a stick against his opponents. I’m not the only one with this complaint. Multiple people said Carl-Richard is in fact the ideological person, and he is a mod. If multiple people complain about this mod the problem is not the people. I’m one of the most easy going people you can meet. You can believe me when I say this. This is just my advice to Leo: he should break the back of the corruption between his mods, the mods should serve the community, not a fringe group and mods should be independent, not back each other’s ass. This is how corruption is created. The quality of the mods determine the quality of the forum.

This thread exposes the toxic culture between mods. Several people made serious remarks about Carl and the other mods just blindly support a fellow mod while mods should be independent. If Leo wants to fix the culture on this forum it needs a top to bottom approach, not a bottom to top approach. He should get rid of toxic mods and mods that don’t understand their role. The role of mods should not be to cover each other’s ass. They are here to serve Leo and the community but unfortunate a lot of them develop an ego and spiritual ego.

If you like the pain of reinventing the wheel you should do pickup alone

Doing pickup alone is like trying to hunt alone. Yes, it is possible but the learning curve will be huge.