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How dumber you are how better it is… And I have noticed that how hotter the girl how dumber the guy is she is attracted to. Pickup is also about observation really. Observe other successful guys. Especially observe people who embody your alter ego (the opposite that you identify with). So I’m a guy with a broom up his ass and I found a guy who is exactly the opposite of what I’m; he is dumb but fun, not negative but positive about everything, does put people down but with a wink, and is just a nuisance and a narcist. It is unbelievable but girls just eat that shit up. It was infuriating and eye opening. It is what it is. My core beliefs about dating just crumbled even more than it did.

Being fake Ego =effort Faking the being Putting on a front Overcompensating State spiking Button pushing Unnatural Forced Reactive Micromanaging Stuck in your head Second guessing Not letting control go Competitive Getting high when it does work Any result is temporary Being real/authentic Comfortable putting yourself out there Relaxed Fun State is the default Non-reactive Natural Indifferent to approval/disapproval Comfortable in all environments Effortless Outside your head!! Collaborative!!! Any results is permanent!!!

Israel is the Muslim world’s last problem. I don’t get why you guys are being worked up by a piece of land while the majority of the Muslim lands are a smoking hole to put it nicely. Let’s get our priorities straight and develop ourselves. Israel is a beacon of civilization in the region.

This channel is my favorate on the topic https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLr0wsqIKlulvUUspVwWHHeZ0KkdAhyaVd

@Yarco my rule is to only leave 4 tabs open. More than that just clusters my mental RAM. When open links and I find information useful I put it in my common place book. that is how I roll.

Do you guys have a system for open tabs? How many tabs do you have open in your browser? ?

Nice scene from LOTR is a great analogy for shadow work Wormtongue (trickster) = shadow ego (unconsciousness) Theoden (the king) = ego that is stuck and trapped by the trickster White (Enlightened!) Gandalf = outsider/guru/conscious psychologist

Going on a cinema date this Saturday. It is the older lady (36 years old) that I talked about previously. I feel I can learn a lot from her. It kind of resembles the main character of this movie: guy falls for an older woman and she shows her what love is: From doing pickup I noticed these things it is just disturbing how ignorant people are of basic psychology within the pickup community. Men suppose to be good with women naturally. If you aren’t that means you are broken in some way. The way is to heal yourself but the problem is that pickup gurus don’t know shit about psychology so how can they help these broken people? They could do a far better job if knew about psychology which unfortunately they don’t. There is a lack of integration between the pickup theory and trauma psychology. The same counts for people who are doing enlightenment work. Most people don’t know shit about psychology. Know at least the basics from Jung and Freud… and especially know about the archetypes. Just such foolishness even on this forum and this forum suppose to be high ranking on the spiral dynamics mode? LoL, how are you going to dismantle your mind and unlock your mind if you haven’t read about the foundation of psychology? There are no books about it on Leo’s book list which tells a lot. and most shocking is my discovery that most therapists don’t understand psychology. They just scrape by and do what is enough to earn a living. They barely know anything about Freud and Jung. We live in an insane society and everybody is just playing along.

Pocketbook Color E-reader, it is great to speed read on and just the most valuable physical asset I own although I own much more expensive things

I couldn't find any on the book list. What is recommended?

According to the dictionary it is the relationship between two things, or the intention (of the relationship of the phenomena for the individual?). My mind gets stuck at this point. Is the meaning we give things secondary and consequential? If that is so how does that fit into cause and effect? If “meaning” is the effect, what is the cause?

@A Fellow Lighter “When we supposedly ‘give things meaning' what we're actually doing is attempting to discern purpose. In this, we can be right or wrong about the meaning of something. ” so could we say intention is the cause, meaning is the effect?

It is not about the techniques. As long as the prana is moving.

Some major shifts in my perception about dating: Thanks to the work of Robert Moore I learned that real shifts in perceptions come through crises. One should actively look to create a crises in one’s life to initiate transformation. This is what I discovered about people and women. In summary I learned I shouldn’t put them on a pedestal. I did for a very long time and I knew I shouldn’t but now it just clicks. Lessons: I overvalued physical beauty. I was a servant of obscurity/devil. The tragicomic thing is when you don’t value the thing you will get it thrown on your lap A woman is not your mother. She doesn’t love you for you. She loves you for what you mean to her. don’t take advice from a woman on how to be a man if you want to fuck around with girls, position yourself rightly. Physical, emotional, mental weakness is punished. Strength is rewarded. It is really true that in your figuratively speaking darkest hour, you will find salvation. So don’t postpone the darkest hour. The answer is within but you need to seek it outside yourself to come to the conclusion that is not outside of yourself: you already have everything you need Change in perception is the deepest teachings

Try finding a wing. It will cut your learning curve considerably. Like how a cub learns how to play and hunt by watching his older siblings.

Since I joined the local gym I have been observing myself and others in a social perspective. How come some people get to make social connections so easily and others not? Some people obviousaly don't want to but if you are a well rounded person, who is young and who is looking for a mate social capital and status can be very valuable. My observations in the gym Girls don't have to be approached. They become part of the cool club because the cool guys will include them Alpha male group don't approach beta male group If you are not part of the alpha male group you have to approach them and demonstrate you are part of them by confidence, lightness, fun, and expressing yourself People who are part of the alpha group are very present and not stuck in their head I still don't get why I have to push myself to become social. I actually did push myself out of comfort zone and made two loner fitness buddies whom I train with but I still haven't managed to become part of the cool club. The cool club consists out of 10 dudes or something. I befriended 2 of them but I kind of got awkward and got a sensory overload. This shouldn't be that hard because I see other new comer dudes in the gym ( like me) who became part of them in less than a week.

I might friendzone this older lady I'm dating. She is older than me and I fall for young girls. Also I don't want to ruin my friendship with her. We can connect very deeply. I'm just afraid we will have sex and I will get bored very quickly and it will ruin things. She is also very jealous and constantly looks at me if/when I look at other females which I do. The thing is that I'm just too weak to say it to her which is my problem in life: being weak and being indecisive. Soon I will have to be decisive and I will have to force myself to do it because now I'm procrastinating doing it and the more I wait, the harder it will become to friendzone her. She is already getting touchy and trying to invite me to her place and shit. I'm not into sex anyway. I'm doing sexual transmutation which is a Buddhist practice to transform sexual energy into creative energy.

This girl I met through a party wants to go on a date with me. She told me she broke up from her 3 year old relationship. It will be our first real date and I was wondering how to handle this situation. In the past, during different dates, I caught myself ending up as a therapist for the girl. I don’t want that to happen but at the same time I also don’t want to be OCD about it. What topics to talk about and avoid?

This is why I stopped with 5 MeO. All the suppressed shit gets released.

I’m getting into MBT treatment. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mentalization-based_treatment

If you assume the worst you probably have some traumas. Do CBT and MBT treatments if you had any traumas and if you are serious. No need to reinvent the wheel.

Focus on doing, not on thinking or having. You can realize it now or wait until things get very dire and realize it then. I recommend the book "The Obstacle is the Way"... your emotions will tell you what you are avoiding, find it, and face the problem. Most people don't want to do the emotional labor but there is no way around emotional labor. Nobody can do it for you.

There is an instinctual aspect and a mental aspect of it. Your instincts just want you to spread your genes. Once you have done that your body to chillax. Obviously you are deceiving your instincts when watching porn and you should not do it or keep it to a minimal (or in proportion). And the mental part of it could be more complex, it really depends on your programming.

Cheeky bastard

So I had a date, the first in a long time (like 5 months): I just realized have much I have grown. Last year around this time it would have been unimaginable going to dates like this, especially with a girl like this. It is really about grabbing life by the balls. I'm still very hesitant about grabbing life by the balls but there is definitely improvement. There are years of bad conditioning so it is not weird that things need time. A major sticking point is my vibe, I'm still not chill/tranquillo like I should, but compared to last year, there is a major positive shift in my vibe. I know it is bad to compare myself to others so I'm not trying to do that but I can't help myself. So my main focus will be to fix my vibe, which won't only help my dating life, but help my life in general and prop up my quality of life. I'm not sure how I'm going to do this but I will be doing a lot of meditation, mantras and release work. Apart from that I have noticed that I've started to simp on this girl which is not good. Before the date she responded to my text every 30-60 minutes and now she does every 3-6 hours, which annoys me and makes me overthink things. This is an example of my problematic ego and I will apply release work on it. He is not IFS licensed, unfortunately.