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You need to go to the source of neediness which is inside. If you find other girls, those will just be another emotional tampon for you. Trigger yourself & let go of identification of neediness and related emotions & repeat.

My old therapist found dogs scary because of a childhood trauma which I found weird. I judged her in my head and felt guilty that I judged her. My thought process was like this: "how is she going to help me if she hasn't fixed her own traumas?". Is it healthy to judge professionals this way? I felt guilty and I suppressed it and now I'm with a new therapist and I'm seeing similar red flags. I've talked to a lot of therapists and a lot of them don't know what they are talking about (purely an opinion and nothing more). Seems like most therapists only study for their university courses and when they are finished they don't really do self-help and own research. Finding a stage yellow therapist is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I don't have time or money for that. Most therapists don't even know about meditation or about subconscious work: I have to do it myself. I'm really going to therapy for emotional support; with my real problems like overthinking, apathy, dissociation they can't help me with. So my question really is how to deal with these kind of therapists? I'm really not trying to judge them. Currently I use them for emotional support, accountability, feedback and reflection. It is much better than having no therapist; if I didn't get anything out of the sessions I wouldn't go.

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You haven't seen my collection lol But to give a serious answer to your topic: sounds to me like you are trying to fuck away your problems which won't work because of the principle of hedonistic adaptation. you need to find God's love and you won't be that overly horny.

Learn office politics. It is not what you do but how you make people feel. They can’t read your mind so you have to explain it in a language they understand.

Get yourself a good bf

Easier said than to be done

Not all of them are stage yellow but to name some: Ken Wilber, David Hawkins, Allan Wats, and so on

What helps with me is sexual transmutation (which is nofap) as an alternative to getting drunk: kundalini up can fuck you up.

@UpperMaster I know this is going to fall on deaf ears but I'm going to say it anyway. This is what you need to do: a lot of meditation! Perhaps you are not ready for it. Perhaps you need a lot more suffering to understand it. But just remember it. That is what you need. I recommend RSD transformation if you need more details. It is a good course of trauma release and raising consciousness. All those make-shift surface level solutions like porn filters and shit won't work. You are not a kid. Don't treat yourself as a kid. Have respect and love for yourself. Don't run away from the suffering but face it as a man. And how do you deal with those sexual urges? Get into sexual transmutation. Busting your nut is not the only way to get rid of your libido.

Stay off the hard drugs bro ?

Rather listen to stage yellow audiobooks.

@Tahuti you mean DMT or 5MeO DMT? And what method you use to consume?

If I'm in the mood I don't need alcohol but sometimes I'm not just in the mood and alcohol loosens me up. If I'm out there for 1-2 hours it is ok and I can push being in the flow of the night but when I'm in a bad mood and can't find my flow; I'm better of just going home rather than forcing myself to be present, have fun and be in the flow. Alcohol is in a sense a super power, it is called Dutch courage for a reason. It is a super poison that gives you special powers. It can make a bad night a good night. Dancing becomes more fun too.

What is your secret?

Your common place book is not structured because your brain is not structured. The common place book is just a second brain. So read stage yellow books especially Ken Wilber.

Peterson doesn´t know that big part of war is logistics and financing. Russia can´t sustain this for very long.

Between orange and green. But I also have a lot of yellow aspects and my blue is a little bit underdeveloped. I'm focusing on blue at this moment: discipline, meaning, purpose and order/stability.

It is usually peeps who are derbing around squandering most of their potential who say what is wrong with porn like a homeless person who says what is wrong with the needle that has been used 20 times by other homeless people to shoot up their fix. ? There is always a price for the quick fix. Porn is a quick fix and if you think there is no price tag to that, it is your own choice. If you really want to get into “why porn is bad” read the literature. Enough studies done on the topic. Sexual energy is important for a man. Buddhism explains it wonderfully. Sexual transmutation if mastered is explosive. It is hard to do and I can only understate how powerful it is. People misrepresent the no fap community all the time. The community doesn’t say porn is bad. You do you but don’t go around telling people there is no price tag to a quick fix. That is what a crack dealer does.

Beggar: where is the money at? You are asking the wrong questions. Ask yourself "what value can I give?" and they will find you.

Being present (raising consciousness) is the foundation of life and also social skills. All the other things I’ve done was a supplement to my progress. So my answer to your question is yes. The major foundation of self development is raising one’s consciousness (becoming present) and that is done through letting the past go (trauma) and the future go (dysfunctional fear). Thanks to my trauma’s I developed a lot of coping mechanisms which caused me to be stuck in my head, not be present, and have a closed off vibe. Mind you that most people don’t do pickup or learn social skills and they do alright. That was not the case for me. Some people might lack some social skill and do a RSD social skill program and gain results but for me my problem was deeper. RSD has a program to fix this called RSD transformations. Other sources I would recommend people with issues similar to mine are these Becoming Super natural by Joe Dispenza to program the subconscious the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle to become present Tao the Ching to find rhythm of life, law of less effort Bhagavad Gita to learn that the process is the beauty of life What helped me with motivation: spiritual transmutation. It helped me to turn negative energy into positive energy Most people don’t need to dig this deep to be good with women. I did because I was so traumatized. And I’m still working on this shit because there is still work to do. Some people just have to work harder; might be caused by trauma but it could also be that they have light variation of autism or some other problem they might have. Everybody’s journey is a little bit different.

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Shyness is linked to the emotion of shame. It is NOT being able to express oneself because of (perceived) fear or guilt of something or somebody. If you want to eliminate shyness eliminate the underlying fear or guilt.

I've made some major developments with my professional help and trauma healing. Changing my level of consciousness was key in this transformation. Making changes on the level of being, not doing or having was key for me. Changing yourself on the level of being is ineffable and hard to explain; you either get it or you don't; and if you do you don't need an explanation and if you don't you need an explanation and the only way you will get is when you are there. It can only be explained in metaphors, which I will try below. Eventually you want to get from low level of consciousness (LOC) to high level of consciousness. Summary of the two states: High LOC versus low LOC Positive attitude < negative attitude Love < fear Proactive < reactive Giving to others < taking from others Upward spiral < downward spiral Winner effect < loser effect Being a full person < being a broken person Selfless < selfishness Thriving < coping If you are a high LOC person people will perceive you as the sun. You don't have to do anything (like being a nice or interesting person), or have anything (like fancy clothes, better looks, whatever), just your being (LOC) will effect reality. I was really starstruck by this last week; my being (LOC) was changed thanks to something and my reality changed with me. It was really a mysterious moment. People started reacting very different to me, people stopping me on the street to talk to me, people just telling me they like me while I did nothing, I was like "wtf" is happening; I'm not doing anything different. That is what the sun is; it is just being the sun. If you are a low LOC person, you will not feel like a sun to others and yourself but you will feel like a black hole. People want to get away from you and from the pull of the black hole, and you will never be happy because of the phenomenon of hedonistic adaption. A black hole is also being but it is a negative being (low LOC) sucking all life force and material, while high LOC (the sun) is giving; giving life to everything in its orbit. I explained it with these two metaphors because LOC is really difficult to explain in plain text.