Raptorsin7

It's all about love from here on out. Love and let Love.

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@Buba What kind of meditation were you doing? Love is your salvation. Learn to love. Contemplate what love is. Love is awareness. So because you are always aware you always have love available. It takes time but learn as much about what love is as possible. If you learn to love, no more problems

I wish everyone on the forum love and good fortune

Happy Birthday man

@soos_mite_ah Do you think having a preference that excludes trans people is inherently ttransphobic?

Yeah I agree about being skeptical about woman giving dating advice. Although I think @Emerald makes good points and I wouldn't dismiss her analysis on this basis. But I have noticed the phenomena of woman saying one thing about what they find attractive/acceptable, only for their actual behaviors/lifestyles to resemble the opposite of what they were saying. I made a thread a while ago about men not valuing a woman's success in dating, and initially the woman responding were offended etc. Then after a few comments you could see how the opinions started to change in the opposite direction.

Okay thats fair. I agree anything Is possible, but it's not very useful when having these kinds of discussions. Like its possible that a serial killer is actually very woke and loving and he kills for love, but in discussing the psychology of serial killers this kind of point is kind of nonsensical

I understand that and I don't think a man can guarantee success with any one woman based on objective factors But even in last part of your post you said theres very little about female attraction thats objective... So you think the majority of men can have success with women if they dont meet the objective criteria I listed above? My view is that for higher quality woman, which is what most on men here probably want, you have to have be sufficiently attractive in an objective sense before subjective factors come into play. Like how many woman will honestly turn down a confident, tall, good looking, wealthy, emotionally integrated, and happy/peaceful man.

I'd be curious to know if there are any trans people who chose to transition after finding peace. I'm assuming that trans people get surgeries etc bevause they think it will solve their suffering, but if they were already there would be no need to make such a change.

@Emerald But don't soft factors come into play only when the objective criteria is met? How many woman would choose a short, financially unstable, emotionally unstable man with low confidence and low leadership quality? If we're talking about quality woman with comitting to then I'd assume virtually no one. Once these criteria are met sure there are lots of subjective factors that come into play, but you've effectively eliminated the vast majority of men in your dating pool based solely on objective factors. It seems misleading to emphasize subjective elements of female attraction, when what matters most is objective factors given what I wrote above

What if they had a penis, and were able to embody masuckine traits? I don't think not having a preference for trans people necessarily makes you transphobic but you have to understand why people have preferences they have and the impact. If everyone in society was not transphobic but preferred non trans people, then you have a sort of systemic transphobia. Similar to how people argue you can have racist systems, without a bunch of individual racists

The thing is I think your partial agreement around the emotional issues is a driver for your preference so in that sense it can be viewed as transphobia. I think people hide behind their preferences out of fear of judgment, and likely because they want to maintain their self image as a progressive person etc

@KennedyCarter What if they had reassignment surgery?

I think a lot of people hide their transphobia by clinging to their preferences. They can say oh it's just my preference to save face and believe they aren't a bigot etc . I wouldn't date a trans woman, I just don't believe an emotionally well adjusted person would mutilate their body over beliefs around identity.

https://www.youtube.com/c/SamaneriJayasara This channel is run by a woman and has high quality guided meditations

@TK2021 Why so hostile and aggressive? You can make your point the same way without all the extra baggage. It's such a poor way to communicate, unless someone provokes you there really is no reason to engage like this.

I find that meditating right before bed is great. It's like i'm already relaxed and capable of relaxing because of the melatonin

@hamedsf This is not true. There can a lot of benefit of being in a place that imposes structure on your meditation practice

@Zeroguy Haha I hear you man. I have the mindset as you, the best of the best have to be capable of leading and commanding... and if you can't do it then you have work to do. 90% of this forum, myself included rn, would be absolutely useless in a real conflict/war despite thinking they are high conscious and evolved. Look at all these people claiming to know what's true and right, when it's obvious to some of us that they don't know shit. I hate spiritual teachers as much as the next guy because of how useless so many of them are, but I don't understand your aversion to spirtuality. Wouldn't your greatest source of strength come from the truth? This is what I look up to right now. None of these fools on this forum could command like this. I will be impressed/respect their opinions when they integrate this ability

Not surprising that Leo gave a strawman of JP's position on this. A lot of these leftist content creators who make fun of JP also don't like to admit that personal responsibility is at the heart of any societal progress, but they love to play the blame and shame game. I think Leo just does these kinds of videos for the views, you would think he has better things to do than do a JP takedown

Are you at peace and happy, or do you still some dissatisfaction with your experience? @Vzdoh

Funny story. I've been reading @Zeroguys journals recently, and I feel personally insulted by his views. I know it's my own selfishness, but I was thinking I bet a bunch of people read that and feel personally insulted. Then you see all the drama and I'm like yup

@Someone here I know that, I'm not even there i'm just trying to gauge how open you are to the possibility. If you notice right now you probably have some anxious/depressed/etc feelings present. If you can become aware of those feelings in you that's a big first step. Notice there's the feelings, and then there's whatever you're thinking about those sensations that's kinda added on as another layer. If you can find a way to just be with and love those feelings without constant distraction from the mind, you would cease having any problems because the underlying emotional issues would be dealt with. Best advice I can give is to follow a quick few steps here and see if it resonates. 1. Become aware of the fact you are having an experience. You are aware right now reading this, just become conscious of that fact briefly. 2. Notice in the moment of being aware, you shift out of thinking and your attention is centered and present. Being aware and noticing it kind of silences the mind. And if you notice, the mind is constantly distracting you from just being aware of what's happening. 3. Notice that in that space of being aware the mind is quiet, even if it's only for a few moments until you're distracted again. Now from this space notice the feelings in the body, and allow them. You can be flexible here. Maybe breathe into the sensations of the body, maybe just notice them, maybe try feeling into them slightly, but the main point is to be in that space/recognition of being aware and then notice the depressed/anxious/body/etc feelings and sink into them

@Someone here Can you see that all of your problems and struggles are subjective, and it's possible to alter your perspective so the way you view those problems and your world are completely changed? I guess i'm trying to guage if you think it's possible to be happy right here right now, despite whatever external conditions are occurring